I think that even if it is totally true that especially in the gay world being younger and physically fit (or better super fit!) is the key for success in dating and being desirable, there are definitely exceptions.
I am 62, bottom, and even if I consider myself (and am considered) still a decent good looking "mature older" man, of course my face and body are not what they used to be until just a few years ago. And especially because I try to keep my pics updated, my "success" in Grind, Scruff etc is much lower than it used to be too. Also, since the pandemic started the amount of escorts and masseurs I hired (and of my datings) has been quite low.
Nevertheless I have in NYC two regular FBs, one in his late 30s and a recent one in his late 20s who are very good looking and who from time to time love making love to me and fucking me.
Two weeks ago during another quick work trip to Mexico City I saw again a beautiful Venezuelan man who is now 40, and whom I met for the first time 10 years ago and for the second time 6 years ago in two amazing encounters, and with whom I kept in a sort of regular touch since I met him the first time. When I met him again recently at my hotel I was wondering if opening the door he would have looked at me and run away... It was actually the best of our 3 encounters! And during the past year I also saw two masseurs who clearly enjoyed being VERY intimate with me.
Is what happened to me the rule? Do I think that I will be up to a great sex life always? Definitely not, but (so far..) I still have a few bullets to shoot. 🙂
Bottom (pun intended) line is never give things for granted!