Bokomaru

4 minutes ago, Cliff said:

I’m sorry it didn’t work out with Boy. I agree, Alfonso is a great hire. I’ve seen him twice and both times it was a very good experience. I like talking to him after the sex, too. He’s a smart cookie and well travelled and he can make good conversation. I give Alfonso a 9 and not just because….well, you know. ha ha

Do you mean AlfonsoXL?

16 hours ago, BuffaloKyle said:

Here's a great article from consumer reports. Gives different scenarios and if and how much to tip. And also a chart on percentages to tip different people:

How to Tip With More Confidence via @ConsumerReports

WWW.CONSUMERREPORTS.ORG

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It seems like you're being asked for gratuities everywhere. Here's when you don't have to pay, when you might want to tip, and how much.

 

This article basically asks for a tip at the end of it! 😝 

Oh, sorry, I mean “donation.”

Second one looks to me like @alexbemont96 from twitter / @alejandrobelmont OF.

There’s also @anthonaspen from Twitter / @thondt from OF but it’s always been confusing to me if that’s someone using other people’s pics. 

I’m going to issue my own version I think. It will be a muddy gradient of every color blending into the others because sexuality is a spectrum. I’m certain all of you will be mightily impressed and won over. Why hasn’t anyone thought of it before? Stripes are so “them and us” with their discrete borders. (Finally… someone got to use the word “discrete” correctly 😆.)

Even moderately successful OF pornstars hire a service to engage with their fans, it’s the norm. Occasionally you will see someone proudly proclaim that they personally answer every message, but this is only possible for those who have a small fan base. 

31 minutes ago, Your Man in Arlington said:

The client was so genuinely messed up and genuinely sadistic, that I swore I would never take a job like that again.

I’m really sorry that this happened to you. Limits can take a tremendous amount of discussion and hiring does not usually involve extensive communication. 

I would like to point out that “genuinely sadistic” is not really a problem if both parties are in agreement about what could happen. I am genuinely sadistic, however, I wouldn’t think of hiring someone for an SM scene that would mark the bottom.  I agree, (anything more than playful) spanking is a big ask. 

She’s a great singer but my immediate reaction is that this is a particularly difficult role from an acting standpoint, and it wouldn’t seem to be a good fit. Who knows, maybe she’ll prove me wrong. 

I saw Imelda Staunton in London. Terrible. 

Pride month is almost upon us. I’m curious how this forum feels about the evolution of the Pride flag. First it had 2 stripes added for people of color. Then the triangle with three more stripes to add transgender support. Then a circle added for intersex. Wasn’t the point of the first flag that it has all the colors of the rainbow, in an attempt at inclusiveness? How do you feel when you see the newer pride flags? 

I assume you realize that your future spouse must have an attorney as well? 

One mistake I made was not thinking far enough into the future. I have a large asset that’s protected, but should I liquidate, the proceeds could become common property. That’s something I (or my attorney) should have foreseen.
 

I also raised the question of alimony. Although it didn’t really pertain to the prenup in my state, it’s a serious matter, and as mentioned above, every state is different. In addition, I’ve always wondered, what if we move elsewhere? Would my alimony responsibilities be very different? I don’t know if a prenup can head off this problem. Worth asking about….

Adam Driver. He was perfect as a clueless, narcissistic Millennial in “Girls.” But then he played a pouty asshole in everything since. No range. No talent. No thanks to anything he’s in. 

8 minutes ago, SouthOfTheBorder said:

worrying about whether or not someone is “into-it” defeats the entire point.

… for YOU. 

6 hours ago, augustus said:

I thought knee high socks were for old people.

They are due for a comeback. Soon I’ll be cool again. 

I can think of a few bad situations. 

1. Met a super hot twunk bottom. When I went to fuck him I saw that he clearly had an open herpes sore on his asshole. Wtf? Why was he hooking up? Gently telling him that it wasn’t gonna happen did not go well.

2. Met a very masculine muscular guy who wanted to sit on my face. A couple of minutes into it I realized that I had bits of toilet paper in my mouth. 🤮 

3. Met a handsome dude who wanted to do a roleplay: straight guy getting serviced by a sub f*g. Great verbal. It was really hot, right up until the time that he slapped me in the face, and forgot to put down the poppers before doing so.  He hit bone, right in front of my temple. I literally saw stars, little flashes of light. There was swelling and a bad bruise on my face for over two weeks.  

1 hour ago, ShortCutie7 said:

I know I have pictures of myself from around 10 years ago in which I look basically the same as I do now.

And here is the exact problem. We are not objective about our own looks. It’s easy to fool myself that “I haven’t changed much.” That’s probably what the dude you met thought about himself as well. 

12 hours ago, Wanderoz said:

Oddly, his ad has no contact info. 

His mobile number is listed. 

On 4/14/2024 at 12:41 PM, Jake1234 said:

Met Jose_ok while in NYC. Nice thick cock 👌🏻

I was getting a massage recently. The masseur knows Jose_ok personally, and I mentioned that I would try to hire him soon. This masseur knows that I like massage for relaxation; extra deep (which is what Jose_ok is known for) is not my thing. He paused and said, “Ohhhhhhhh… you want the BABY ARM experience.” 😂 

I’m in awe that @Vegas_Millennial does his own taxes. I think mine was about 80 pages long this year. F that. Having someone else do it is sort of like hiring a world class provider: worth it, at ANY price. 

Cloudy is usually a term referencing smoking crystal meth.

Next.  

On 3/30/2024 at 5:00 PM, Mercfan said:

 For those who know him, is he only into dominating?  Can he just be more alpa and affectionate?

Although he tends toward dom-sub interaction, he’s actually really down to earth, so BFE seems very possible. I enjoy the afterglow time with him just as much as the rough and tumble part; it feels intimate.
Engaged, handsome, super masculine, not a clock watcher, reliable. The list goes on and on. (I’ve been seeing him for quite a few years.)

3 hours ago, nycman said:

Opus 40?…that place where all the Hippies have their "Druid weddings" while simultaneously wringing their hands and bemoaning the fact that their nuptials are taking place on property that was "stolen" from the indigenous peoples. The mental contortions required to pull off such ceremonies with a straight face makes the mind reel. 

Opus 40 is art. It is grand in scale and beautiful to behold. It’s also not that well known outside of NY, so I believe it’s underrated.
 

How bizarre that you feel the need to dismiss it by disparaging groups of people with clearly political statements.

New York

Overrated, Fire Island and the Hamptons. 

Underrated, Opus 40, near Woodstock. Never heard of it? Yea… underrated.
 

Critics loved that movie but disparaged the final scene. I say, that scene was the catharsis that we survivors needed, and I don’t give a fk if it was manipulative. I found it profound and heart breaking. 

I am negative and on Prep and I *never* list my status as such. I simply put negative. If I say that I am on prep, many (most) people automatically assume I’m willing to bareback, which is inaccurate. In my experience , saying I’m on prep also tends to attract higher risk people. At least in the hook up world.  I imagine the calculus is quite different for a provider, who has to take business considerations into account. 

On 3/7/2024 at 10:42 PM, marylander1940 said:

10 years shaving is a lot...

The real question is how does he look now? 

I don’t know. But he seems to be aging well. The pictures showing an iPhone with  3 cameras are at maximum 4 years old. There were no iPhones with 3 cameras before that. 

Run, don’t walk, to an Apple Store and try it out. Although it’s got a long, long way to go, it’s still mind blowing. Looking around at the moon as if you are actually there is itself worth the effort. Then there’s seeing a movie as though you’re in a theater, experiencing a 3D video as if you’re in the scene, and the possibilities of having virtual computer desktops of unlimited number, specific to the location where you leave them. My guess is that it will be at least 10 years before any broad adoption of this tech. Can’t wait.