Jason Dutch

Providers occasionally are organized enough to collectively establish a safe and welcoming incall space that we can share equitably. Benefits everyone in my opinion... saves providers expenses, builds a safe and familiar space for visitors and workers, and allows for security and mutual accountability between clients and providers as well as the professionals together. Keeps the standards high and everything fair and keeps cops out. Bless these entrepenurial gents!

Organizing a threesome/group for a client can be more of a hassle than one might think, at least in my experience. Sometimes it works out. But several times, I've done the work of wrangling another escort for a duo, or several for a group session, only to have the guy bail a few minutes after his scheduled arrival. That happened once without a deposit, I learned my lesson I thought.. not too long after, another guy ghosted three of us, even *after* paying the deposit I'd askled(which, after splitting it, wasn't quite enough to make up for the wasted time and energy).

Another time, a guy I'd never worked with before but who seemed legit was an hour late, causing me to basically waste an hour uncompensated. The client tipped a bit but a fraction of my rate.

It has always worked much more smoothly for me when the client himself arranges with whoever he wants to have there.

However, recently I did such an arrangement in a new city, smallish place. The other guy was younger, very new to the work and, in my assessment, more vulnerable than me in a number of ways. I gave him a ride home and during our conversation, I discovered that the rate he'd asked and been paid was quite low -  less than half my rate. I gave him some of the cash I'd gotten to even things out with him (at a loss to me) and told him that he really ought to be charging more. We ended up having a really good conversation and have stayed in touch. But that aside, I then had a few firm words with the client, who certainly could have spared the difference. I mean, I understand that as providers we each negotiate our rates independently in this set-up, leaving no incentive for the client to pay us both the same. But such a vast discrepancy made me really uneasy...

Hey y'all, I recently was interviewed for a podcast that is genuinely different than any other I've listened to or experienced.

It's "them pups thots and bears" by Pup Cylon and Pup Tango and even though their style is unusually meandering and sometimes a bit chaotic, I think they're genuinely on to something and I had a great time talking about porn, SW safety, polyamory, piss play, and cruising.

What also makes this podcast unique is that it's recorded on video and all the participants are naked and intermittently playing with themselves haha.

While this podcast skews towards bears/cubs/pups etc, thereby eliminating the interest of a hefty segment of this site's population, I do think some of y'all might get a big kick out of it, as I sure did.

Check it out. :

‎them pups “thots and bears” on Apple Podcasts

PODCASTS.APPLE.COM

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‎Health & Fitness · 2024

(I'm episodes 47-50 if you're curious)

In Canada we have LeoList which is essentially a Backpage clone and is widely popular.

Not the same format, but: Adam4Adam now has the option to upgrade one's profile to a PRO account, and it's pretty affordable. It's also free for non-PROs to use the site and message PROs so I find a lot of guys are on there who wouldn't purchase a membership to, say, RM. 

I've done and I've gotten many inquiries and appointments out of it, far more than I ever expected. The site as a whole is overly tricked out with every imaginable feature (video reels and stories, status updates, groups/parties, podcasts, underwear shops, winks, chats, comments, likes.. it's a bit much) but this feature is great. However, the "PRO" icon often goes unnoticed by people not expecting it and I'm not sure how easy it is to filter down just to providers.

On 6/19/2024 at 11:21 PM, BuffaloKyle said:

It's ironic to comment on this topic because I left @Jason Dutch his second review on RM. I had told him that I was happy to because I know I only hire providers that have reviews already on their page or come recommended on here. The biggest dilemma now is that only premium members can leave reviews so if you don't get any premium members hiring you then they can't leave you a review even if you asked them to. And I wouldn't find it btw unsettling or pushy to get asked at the end of a session that you would appreciate a review if possible. Just a simple hey I really enjoyed our time together and I'd be appreciative of a review if you are able and willing to.

Haha fair point — and can't thank you enough for that Miss ya bud

Thank you so much to all who have responded, both in-thread and by DM!! Great information and helpful. Ultimately my first goal is to make a habit of mentioning how helpful reviews can be to my cliente while avoiding being annoying or vain haha. Let's see how it goes.

In the meantime I'd love to hear from anyone else who has thoughts.

9 hours ago, NJF said:

Checked a couple cities and every listed hotels shows up as unavailable 

Wow you’re right! That sucks!

I have never made a big deal about reviews, and don’t usually bug my clients to write them. Just felt a bit vain/annoying to do so. I’m seriously regretting it now that I see that they’re a crucial part of your marketing and viability as a provider. I’ve had countless clients give me wonderful positive feedback directly or in private, but very few have made the effort to write a review, and I regret not following up and asking. 

I’d love to know how to encourage guys to review more, and what y’all think about review culture in general.  (I recognize, of course, that members of this community are likely to be more inclined to write/value reviews in the first place, and therefore aren’t a general population sample for my lil survey haha)

Right, so, here are my questions. You may answer question by question if you have some time to spare, or by all means freestyle a paragraph or bullet point response with any thoughts you have on these topics or any related points.

Thank you guys!!

I had decided to go and was looking at flights before the hotel situation stopped me dead in my tracks. Alas.

On 6/13/2024 at 8:03 PM, goosh69 said:

I don’t think it does. I tried something like that this week, and even called Marriot to try and book a partial day. I ended up using Dayuse. 

I've used it recently. Though not every city has options... the program seems to have some brand identity issues to work out because it's variously called Work Anywhere, Day Pass and Day Use Rate, but check out https://workanywhere.marriott.com/  to see the options. Here's more about it as well: 

If you have a Bonvoy account, poke around and you will find that Marriott has its own proprietary day hotel program. They are not usually much cheaper than Dayuse but you may find some otherwise unlisted options there. I wonder if any of the other big chains have such a thing going on..

There's something intriguing here for sure but frankly I'm having a really hard time following the story at all... you don't explain what was or wasn't said, nor what did or didn't happen, or exactly what made them so different or unsatisfying...?

If I'm interpreting it right, though, you're saying he talked a great game over text, but when you met up, he did not behave in line with what you expected and the skill/chemistry was not there in person... And you're asking if there's a way to tell if someone is going to be as enticing and attuned to your needs IRL as they seem during the prelude.

Sucks what happened to you and I don't think it's unusual to try to figure out ways of preventing disappointments or unexpected mismatches like this. Uncomfortable, expensive, and confusing is not the experience anyone wants going into meeting a provider (or, from our end, a client), or even a hook up, date, acquaintance, whatever. For me personally, excessive (and especially impatient) texting habits are a huge red flag for me. Frequently acts as some sort of cover, or overcompensation or anxiety of some kind that becomes clearer down the line.. However, I've noticed generally that many many people under 30 are much more comfortable and confident in themselves when they are mediated through texting, social media platforms, etc. and then come off as shy, awkward, or tactless in person, especially a first meeting... So maybe try not to get too caught up in their deft messaging skills. One solution would be to try to get them to speak on the phone first to get a better sense of their conversational graces, but gooooood luck trying to get a Gen Z anywhere near such a thing.

(Yikes, guess I'm a boomer now haha. To be fair, anyone can turn out to be very different from the image they portray of themselves)

Hear hear!

As somebody who has struggled with running late my whole life (I've tried countless approaches and somehow still struggle to gauge precisely how long things take... sigh, thanks executive dysfunction!) I have learned that no matter what the context, you must communicate frequently, consistently, and as early as possible so as not to waste someone's time or leave them in the dark. By and large people are understanding and can adjust if given the tools they need to do so. But even I lose patience with someone gone incomunicado and precisely the least practical moment!

This was a headline/punchline that made the rounds in 2016 but one imagines there might be a kernel of truth to it. As curt mentions, DC is known for endless demand and I can vouch that Ottawa is the same. I confess I'm considering it... theoretically I'm kind of torn about the ethical side of things — surely it's a bit weird to knowingly accept what could very well be some ill-gotten bloody MAGA bucks.... But, then again, I'll gladly make a Republican staffer poorer for my sake. And to be fair I hardly ever know or feign to guess at the source of the dollars I receive from many other clienets, whose privacy I rightfully and necessarily must respect.

Tempting indeed... would be interesting just to test the premise anyhow

Most of the time I find the clients aren't out the door until 20 minutes beyond the scheduled time... I try not to "watch the clock" anyhow, but mentally I plan for a little spillover. It can be tricky timing a client's orgasm, too - not always up to me if you end up busting sooner! But in the case he busts with time to spare, I always remain attentive and available for the remainder of the hour, for cuddling/aftercare/conversation or even a bit more play if they're game. Some clients take advantage of this, and others are ready to hit the road right away after they nut.

6 hours ago, BuffaloKyle said:

It's Buffalo Bills QB Josh Allen. 

OMG I never realized, your avatar must be an old pic haha. Love our cutie QB. Go Bills!

As a provider, I don't think I would put a travel alert up for such a visit.. As you've described, I won't have any availability and it's a short trip. I've never been flown out by somebody, but I've absolutely done quick 2-day trips for unrelated purposes and chosen not to push my ad since I'd have to turn everybody down and I'd rather not disappoint, and have little patience for fruitless texting as it is.

That said, your date choosing to do so for whatever reason — to sus out the market, to get his name/face out there, just ~because~ - is totally harmless, as others said.

If, on the other hand, you noticed his profile set to Available Now in the midst of your overnight, that might be cause to quibble!

I had no idea there was such a horny spa culture in Vegas. I figured the more explicitly gay bathhouse establishments would fill that need but there's something super hot about the tension and furtive fun one can have in places like these. Thanks for the info

An escort friend of mine told me last week about being pulled aside at the airport back in April when he was on his way to Orlando for a porn industry event. He had actually deactivated his RM profile months previous and stopped escort work. He said they surmised that he had stopped escorting and that his story checked out but warned him to be careful.

By contrast, as a US citizen I have it easier than most. I cross the Peace Bridge (sometimes Lewiston) 15-20 times each way every year,  and I almost never get any hassle crossing by land. Been gently searched once or twice going into Canada over the past 4 years or so of frequent land crossing. But crossing into the Buffalo side, the officer usually just says hello, blinks a few times, ask me what I'm importing (I always declare super honestly, they like that haha) and waves me me on through.

(Detroit is a different story, but that was never related to my work, they're just total dicks there to gay people, people of colour, anyone they can bark at. Always take Pt Huron if you can, haha)

I'll note that, after 2 years waiting, I finally did my NEXUS interview last month. So now I'm just waiting on the card (any day now...) and also waiting for my citizenship stuff to go through in the next few months...  with those settled, I will feel even more secure. But for now I'm thinking over what precautions might I take given this increased scrutiny, and I will certainly keep an eye on this as it further unfolds.

I'm mostly just very grateful for having the wild privilege of having a US passport and therefore enjoyed pretty unfettered freedom of mobility compared to most of the world. Would be stupid to lose that by being careless somehow...

On 10/31/2023 at 3:33 AM, Cooper said:

Best CD rates at Citibank:

11-Month

 

APY

5.25% to 5.65%

Now we're talking! This is better than any savings acct APY I've seen (or at least been eligible for) for a while. Nice.

Travelling alone for escorting work can be super fun and adventurous but can be really lonely. Travelling with another escort can be also fun, but inevitably creates some logistical knots. If I'm travelling with family, a partner, a good friend, I decide in advance whether I'm going to work on any of the days and usually I prefer not to work at all during some of those trips. Also, not all destinations are worth the effort due to being remote or without the proper infrastructure

Only ever even considered it for street pick up situations

Thanks for this! I'm also going to Vegas for my first ever visit and will be working - someone recommended the Flamingo to me so that's where I booked a few nights. Anybody have experience with meeting up there?

Brad and I shot a scene or two and have gotten to know each other a bit since I started living part-time in Buffalo. He's a wonderful, masculine, thick 'n' sexy, professional daddy bear with a hot firm belly that's grown in since his studio days. He certainly does love to chat, which I for one always enjoyed.  He has a strong and bright personality, but he's really just there to please and do what's expected of him whether in porn or massage.

I know this is long after OP's visit, but figured I'd drop my thoughts in case someone else goes searching.