Enzo Falcone

This is the best answer right here. As a provider who is on both massage and escort websites, the boundaries of what I offer are different. This is because the services and rates vary depending on what is being sought out. However, a client who reaches me for escort services and is looking for a full massage+, I will happily meet. When vetting which provider you'd like to book with, I would suggest asking about their massage practice, to make sure it meets your expectations. Do they have a professional table? Do they have a preferred technique? If the session were an hour, how much of that would be dedicated to receiving the massage service you're looking for, before moving into the fantasy/scenario you have laid out? 
Hope that helps!

I’d like to comment on a few points here. 
 
Providing a high quality service should not be conflated with manipulation. This service is often based on 60 minute blocks. A fair amount of that time also considers the non-sexual components of building and maintaining a relationship. In order to continue feeling comfortable enough to share fantasies and try new things, providers need to create that safe space. 
At the end of the day, when sex and intimacy is involved, it’s really hard to separate the emotional aspect of it. As a provider, I’ve definitely developed a love for some of my clients. Not a romantic love, but a strong connection in which I want to continue seeing them succeed in life. Am I being manipulative when I am happy for them? 
And whoever blames a client for being human is in the wrong. Full stop. This is a two way street. I’d argue that providers have more awareness as to what’s actually happening because we maintain several relationships with clients at the same time. So you might hear more stories on the client side. But someone else shared that his feelings for a provider turned into a happy marriage. 
Love isn’t a weakness. Relationships exist in various forms. Caring about what I do, doing it well, and being engaging isn’t manipulative. I always question the intent behind the action. If it’s to hold on to power, or person. Then it’s manipulative. 
Thoughts?

Yes, but a great magician would happily share a few secrets with fellow magicians, to help everyone elevate their craft 😉
Care to share a little magic? 🪄🐰🎩
(I actually fully respect your decision not to share. But I couldn’t resist the tongue-in-cheek response!) 

I’m really sorry this happened to you, and I commend you for sharing it. 

It can happen, but it’s best to check in with yourself from time to time, like you seem to be doing already. 
I’ve had clients express that they were starting to develop feelings for me. I always met them with appreciation, saying that feelings is normal. This type of work is built on connection and intimacy for many, so it can get confusing at times. 
I also talk about their needs and what I provide. If during our time together their needs change, then the question of professional compatibility arises. If being with me causes you more harm than good, am I still providing what you want? 
It’s a tough question to ask yourself, but rather than look at it like “oh I’m doing this again” maybe looking at it more objectively can help frame what’s going on? Like “oh I’m finding that I have new needs popping up that this provider can’t deliver on. Maybe it’s time for me to change things up”. 

This is the best answer right here. As a provider who is on both massage and escort websites, the boundaries of what I offer are different. This is because the services and rates vary depending on what is being sought out. However, a client who reaches me for escort services and is looking for a full massage+, I will happily meet. When vetting which provider you'd like to book with, I would suggest asking about their massage practice, to make sure it meets your expectations. Do they have a professional table? Do they have a preferred technique? If the session were an hour, how much of that would be dedicated to receiving the massage service you're looking for, before moving into the fantasy/scenario you have laid out? 
Hope that helps!

I would just say its a risky move to fly in a provider for a first meet. Might be $$$ wasted. I only fly in my regulars - same with multiple days hire or trip.

Did the same here and very scary, at least in my area. Oh well, I guess I'll stick to flying people in or hiring while I'm on business out of town.

So this is a really interesting topic. This month marks my first year as a provider. 
When I first started, I had a mentor who has been doing this for much longer. He told me flat out “always get paid up front”. It’s something I followed religiously at first. Some clients would mention they never pay up front, but I stuck to what I was taught. 
Over time, I began to change my approach. I place a lot of importance in messaging my client before meeting and getting a sense of what he’s looking for. It gives me a better understanding of who I will have in front of me. 95% of the time, my clients are happy to connect with me in this way. Upon meeting, I never talk money. They pay at the end, and I don’t even count it in front of them unless they insist that I do. I’ve never run into a problem (so far)  
A few key points that help me understand why I was suggested to always get paid up front: The escort providing insight is an active meth user and pretty much only has other clients who have last minute requests and are often using as well (I used to be but have since been in recovery). Meeting up with clients at night and often for party type moments possibly means he encountered more who were unable to pay at the end.
In my case, I truly go with my intuition. I sometimes have clients who will message me with one word questions or answers. “How much? Free now? You f*ck good?” When I feel that what the potential client is looking for something that is purely transactional in nature, I treat it as a transaction. But if the client is engaging with me, then I never ask to be paid up front. 
I should also say that I’m in the habit of reconfirming all the details with someone before meeting. Say we discussed a few details over several messages. My last message will be “ok so just to confirm, tomorrow at my place a 3pm for two hours and for $____ paid (specified how). Is that correct?” Doing that eliminated the “oh I misunderstood”
Incorporating all of these elements together in a way filters out the dishonest clients. It’s easier to cheat someone if you don’t see them as a person, and don’t see beyond your basic needs (this is true for both clients and providers). 
I’d love to hear back from others to see what their take is on all this!

Hey @Thelatin! I know that we have never spoken privately, met in person, or even exchanged photos, but I have to say.. I only feel safe with you! And not because of your money, home, cars, food, gym, and everything else. But just for fun.. how many cars are we talking? 
(just to make sure, this is a fun joking response! 😂)

Hey @Thelatin! I know that we have never spoken privately, met in person, or even exchanged photos, but I have to say.. I only feel safe with you! And not because of your money, home, cars, food, gym, and everything else. But just for fun.. how many cars are we talking? 
(just to make sure, this is a fun joking response! 😂)

Hey @Thelatin! I know that we have never spoken privately, met in person, or even exchanged photos, but I have to say.. I only feel safe with you! And not because of your money, home, cars, food, gym, and everything else. But just for fun.. how many cars are we talking? 
(just to make sure, this is a fun joking response! 😂)

So this is a really interesting topic. This month marks my first year as a provider. 
When I first started, I had a mentor who has been doing this for much longer. He told me flat out “always get paid up front”. It’s something I followed religiously at first. Some clients would mention they never pay up front, but I stuck to what I was taught. 
Over time, I began to change my approach. I place a lot of importance in messaging my client before meeting and getting a sense of what he’s looking for. It gives me a better understanding of who I will have in front of me. 95% of the time, my clients are happy to connect with me in this way. Upon meeting, I never talk money. They pay at the end, and I don’t even count it in front of them unless they insist that I do. I’ve never run into a problem (so far)  
A few key points that help me understand why I was suggested to always get paid up front: The escort providing insight is an active meth user and pretty much only has other clients who have last minute requests and are often using as well (I used to be but have since been in recovery). Meeting up with clients at night and often for party type moments possibly means he encountered more who were unable to pay at the end.
In my case, I truly go with my intuition. I sometimes have clients who will message me with one word questions or answers. “How much? Free now? You f*ck good?” When I feel that what the potential client is looking for something that is purely transactional in nature, I treat it as a transaction. But if the client is engaging with me, then I never ask to be paid up front. 
I should also say that I’m in the habit of reconfirming all the details with someone before meeting. Say we discussed a few details over several messages. My last message will be “ok so just to confirm, tomorrow at my place a 3pm for two hours and for $____ paid (specified how). Is that correct?” Doing that eliminated the “oh I misunderstood”
Incorporating all of these elements together in a way filters out the dishonest clients. It’s easier to cheat someone if you don’t see them as a person, and don’t see beyond your basic needs (this is true for both clients and providers). 
I’d love to hear back from others to see what their take is on all this!

I’m not sure when I referred to you as conceited. Haven’t used that word in a long time. I’ve also never talked about you behind you back, or made reference to you other than here. Maybe you were referring to some of the others your tagged?
I’m sorry you took everything I wrote as an attack or an attempt to diminish you. I might have gotten caught up in my own desire to want to prove my point and defend myself.
I don’t have a website. My goal wasn’t to try and come off better than you. I’m not. I’m still starting out and learning as I go along. I was just trying to point out some of my observations (and I mean this sincerely) in a truly helpful way. 
When I succeed, I want it to be because I deserved it, and not because I pushed others down. My comments were not meant to hurt or criticize in an u constructive way. Maybe my delivery wasn’t the best though, so again, I can take ownership of that.
Maybe it’s because this is all happening on a public forum where everybody can chime in, that it’s not really going to lead to any meaningful discussion. It removes our ability to be vulnerable and let down our défenses (myself included). 
I’ll refrain from interacting with your posts in the future. 
I really do wish you all the best. If you do ever want to chat, feel free to reach out. 
 
Cheers,

I’m not sure when I referred to you as conceited. Haven’t used that word in a long time. I’ve also never talked about you behind you back, or made reference to you other than here. Maybe you were referring to some of the others your tagged?
I’m sorry you took everything I wrote as an attack or an attempt to diminish you. I might have gotten caught up in my own desire to want to prove my point and defend myself.
I don’t have a website. My goal wasn’t to try and come off better than you. I’m not. I’m still starting out and learning as I go along. I was just trying to point out some of my observations (and I mean this sincerely) in a truly helpful way. 
When I succeed, I want it to be because I deserved it, and not because I pushed others down. My comments were not meant to hurt or criticize in an u constructive way. Maybe my delivery wasn’t the best though, so again, I can take ownership of that.
Maybe it’s because this is all happening on a public forum where everybody can chime in, that it’s not really going to lead to any meaningful discussion. It removes our ability to be vulnerable and let down our défenses (myself included). 
I’ll refrain from interacting with your posts in the future. 
I really do wish you all the best. If you do ever want to chat, feel free to reach out. 
 
Cheers,

I’m not sure when I referred to you as conceited. Haven’t used that word in a long time. I’ve also never talked about you behind you back, or made reference to you other than here. Maybe you were referring to some of the others your tagged?
I’m sorry you took everything I wrote as an attack or an attempt to diminish you. I might have gotten caught up in my own desire to want to prove my point and defend myself.
I don’t have a website. My goal wasn’t to try and come off better than you. I’m not. I’m still starting out and learning as I go along. I was just trying to point out some of my observations (and I mean this sincerely) in a truly helpful way. 
When I succeed, I want it to be because I deserved it, and not because I pushed others down. My comments were not meant to hurt or criticize in an u constructive way. Maybe my delivery wasn’t the best though, so again, I can take ownership of that.
Maybe it’s because this is all happening on a public forum where everybody can chime in, that it’s not really going to lead to any meaningful discussion. It removes our ability to be vulnerable and let down our défenses (myself included). 
I’ll refrain from interacting with your posts in the future. 
I really do wish you all the best. If you do ever want to chat, feel free to reach out. 
 
Cheers,

I really appreciate your reflection on what you were comfortable with. 
Sometimes, I feel that we  lose sight of the consent and agreement part of the relationships we get into. If a client reaches out expressing his needs, and I feel that I can meet them, then I sign on. As time goes on, it sometimes happens that their needs can change. The tricky part is navigating through changing needs in an already established relationship. 
Part of why I get to continue loving what I do, and be successful at it, is because of my ability to know my limits and boundaries. If a potential client reaches out with certain scenarios that overstep them, I don't sign on. I do this because the client deserves to be with someone that will be able to provide what they are looking for. I also owe it to myself to respect my boundaries. If I put myself in situations that I'm not comfortable in, they will weigh down on me. That will play out in other parts of my life, and would definitely play out on my interactions with that client or others. 
My hope is that sometimes, if I let a client know that I am not the right person for what they are looking for, they can respect my honesty, knowing that had I just said yes to make a dollar, I would have ultimately failed to give them the experience they are looking for. 
My final thought on this is that there will never be unanimous consensus on how to act, and that's absolutely ok. We are all people at both sides of the client-provider relationships, and part of what makes finding that great client or provider special, is the connection that happens by finding the one that meets your needs.

Before commenting on your post, I decided to go through your links, to get a better idea of how you might present to a potential client. 

Here are my observations:
Your RMen ad has been up since 2013. Tons of positive reviews, but the last one being Nov 2013. I know it’s probably because you promote your personal website, and likely have people reach out through there, but your premium clients aren’t keeping up with the reviews. It’s something I always look at when searching a provider, and question why someone suddenly stopped receiving them.
The most apparent thing in both your website and RM ads is that the money comes first, and is the most important thing for you. As a provider, I feel like you are having all future clients pay for the consequences for bad experiences a few previous clients might have left. Being in this since at least 2023, I’d imagine some bad experiences are par for the course. No business has a 100% success rate and a 0% loss rate. 
Your website is rather cold. Even to have a potential client reach out and see if you’re a good fit is gonna cost him $20. 
Tour profile basically reads as: “pay me for every minute I’m working for you, or move on”. 

My own lived experiences:
I live in Montreal, it’s the second biggest city in Canada. Much smaller compared to American big cities, but I think my experiences hold true here. I’ve only been a provider for a year. I don’t have the ripped body and six pack, but I carry myself well, and have an ability to connect with people, identify their needs, and provide what they are looking for. Because I only sign on for clients who I am confident I am able to help, I get to really enjoy my job, and that results in my clients really enjoying their time with me (not bragging or anything but just speaking to my strength)  
In Montreal, I work a pretty consistent and stable number of hours from one week to the next, and each week it’s roughly 50% new clients and 50% returning (I’m a big nerd when it comes to data so I have stats and dashboard on everything). 
I also visit Ottawa, a much smaller city, about once a month. My first time there, I only had three clients. But I connected with many more who weren’t available the weekend I was there. The following month, I reached out to many of them to let them know I was going back, and had my busiest weekend to date. 
What seems to be happening is that I will have a higher % of returning clients in Ottawa. As it’s a smaller city, the clients I’ve connected with there will want to see me when I’m in town. I also reach out to them and don’t wait for them to message me. 
Back home in Montreal, it continues to be 50/50 new and returning. 
I’m going to Atlanta this weekend, and it will be the biggest city I’ve ever worked in. Part of me is intimidated by the number of beautiful providers there (and what they are packing!). The other part of me knows that the client that connects with me is going to leave with a huge smile on his face, have their needs met, and not feel like I was just doing this for the money. I don’t know how many clients I’ll see. The purpose of my trip isn’t work, but I do have a “nice to have” target I’d like to hit, which would help pay down my flight/hotel costs. 
Outside of my work, I also make sure to create lots of downtime for my hobbies, friends, family, etc. A year in, I saw that it was getting hard to not go after every dollar at first. Then I asked myself what my goals were. Now, I have a target yearly income I’d like to make. Every week/month, I get to see if I’m on track. I base my targets on 48 weeks vs 52 so that I have a month off during the year, which also acts as a buffer when weeks are quieter. Having an actual goal makes things much easier to accept. I don’t get thrown off by a quiet week because things are still moving forward. Or, if I see that I’m having a longer quiet stretch, I look at my options. 
This profession has turned me into a branding, marketing, operations, sales, accounting, and customer satisfaction expert 😂. I don’t always wait for clients to come to me, and I don’t push the credit card terminal in their face when they say hello. We get enough of that with the crazy tipping culture everywhere else. 
Lastly, the definition or busy vs quiet week can also be subjective. Maybe a quiet week for you is a really busy week for me. That’s where my goals and targets come in. It gives me perspective on how I’m doing, rather than constantly worry about when the next dollar is gonna come in. 
 
I hope some of this helps. Would love to hear your thoughts and if you have anything else to share! 
Cheers,

Your website reads as follows to someone who lands on your page:
”Hi. Want to connect with me? $20. Where did you see my ads? Give me details. What are you looking for? Choose between 4 options. Oh you want details on those options? I need a deposit. Here are all my fees and extra fees. You want to see pics of me? Pay me.”
On your RentMen ad, you refer clients to your website in the first line. You have tons of pics on your ad but you’ve directed the client away and onto your site, where you are wanting to exact as much money as you can just so they can even ask a question about what your services are. 
You touched on race being an important barrier to meeting clients. As a white guy, I won’t pretend to know what that’s like. I imagine you’re right. I will say though that if you want to bring race into your discussion about big city vs small city, then business models are fair game too, and my discussion on your presentation and ads are not micro-topics. 
I’m going to be a little blunt and argue that I think your ego is not letting you see things clearly. After so many years in this line of work, you have put yourself on a pedestal. You’re convinced that the issue solely rests on the socio-economic realities of big vs small cities, and won’t even acknowledge how some of your current practices might also play a role. 
I’ve been on this website for less than a week. You are by far the name I’ve seen the most here. Both in terms of your posts, as well as being the subject of other people’s posts. Unfortunately, not all of it has been positive. 
Just remember that the more limits you place between you and your clients, the tougher it is to get booked. 
I don’t even know what your brand is. All I know is that you need to be paid up front. It’s all I retain from viewing your ads and website and posts here. You’re so dead set on not getting burned financially that you’ve sacrificed your entire personality in the process. If you’d like to have a chat about this please reach out. 

Before commenting on your post, I decided to go through your links, to get a better idea of how you might present to a potential client. 

Here are my observations:
Your RMen ad has been up since 2013. Tons of positive reviews, but the last one being Nov 2013. I know it’s probably because you promote your personal website, and likely have people reach out through there, but your premium clients aren’t keeping up with the reviews. It’s something I always look at when searching a provider, and question why someone suddenly stopped receiving them.
The most apparent thing in both your website and RM ads is that the money comes first, and is the most important thing for you. As a provider, I feel like you are having all future clients pay for the consequences for bad experiences a few previous clients might have left. Being in this since at least 2023, I’d imagine some bad experiences are par for the course. No business has a 100% success rate and a 0% loss rate. 
Your website is rather cold. Even to have a potential client reach out and see if you’re a good fit is gonna cost him $20. 
Tour profile basically reads as: “pay me for every minute I’m working for you, or move on”. 

My own lived experiences:
I live in Montreal, it’s the second biggest city in Canada. Much smaller compared to American big cities, but I think my experiences hold true here. I’ve only been a provider for a year. I don’t have the ripped body and six pack, but I carry myself well, and have an ability to connect with people, identify their needs, and provide what they are looking for. Because I only sign on for clients who I am confident I am able to help, I get to really enjoy my job, and that results in my clients really enjoying their time with me (not bragging or anything but just speaking to my strength)  
In Montreal, I work a pretty consistent and stable number of hours from one week to the next, and each week it’s roughly 50% new clients and 50% returning (I’m a big nerd when it comes to data so I have stats and dashboard on everything). 
I also visit Ottawa, a much smaller city, about once a month. My first time there, I only had three clients. But I connected with many more who weren’t available the weekend I was there. The following month, I reached out to many of them to let them know I was going back, and had my busiest weekend to date. 
What seems to be happening is that I will have a higher % of returning clients in Ottawa. As it’s a smaller city, the clients I’ve connected with there will want to see me when I’m in town. I also reach out to them and don’t wait for them to message me. 
Back home in Montreal, it continues to be 50/50 new and returning. 
I’m going to Atlanta this weekend, and it will be the biggest city I’ve ever worked in. Part of me is intimidated by the number of beautiful providers there (and what they are packing!). The other part of me knows that the client that connects with me is going to leave with a huge smile on his face, have their needs met, and not feel like I was just doing this for the money. I don’t know how many clients I’ll see. The purpose of my trip isn’t work, but I do have a “nice to have” target I’d like to hit, which would help pay down my flight/hotel costs. 
Outside of my work, I also make sure to create lots of downtime for my hobbies, friends, family, etc. A year in, I saw that it was getting hard to not go after every dollar at first. Then I asked myself what my goals were. Now, I have a target yearly income I’d like to make. Every week/month, I get to see if I’m on track. I base my targets on 48 weeks vs 52 so that I have a month off during the year, which also acts as a buffer when weeks are quieter. Having an actual goal makes things much easier to accept. I don’t get thrown off by a quiet week because things are still moving forward. Or, if I see that I’m having a longer quiet stretch, I look at my options. 
This profession has turned me into a branding, marketing, operations, sales, accounting, and customer satisfaction expert 😂. I don’t always wait for clients to come to me, and I don’t push the credit card terminal in their face when they say hello. We get enough of that with the crazy tipping culture everywhere else. 
Lastly, the definition or busy vs quiet week can also be subjective. Maybe a quiet week for you is a really busy week for me. That’s where my goals and targets come in. It gives me perspective on how I’m doing, rather than constantly worry about when the next dollar is gonna come in. 
 
I hope some of this helps. Would love to hear your thoughts and if you have anything else to share! 
Cheers,

Your website reads as follows to someone who lands on your page:
”Hi. Want to connect with me? $20. Where did you see my ads? Give me details. What are you looking for? Choose between 4 options. Oh you want details on those options? I need a deposit. Here are all my fees and extra fees. You want to see pics of me? Pay me.”
On your RentMen ad, you refer clients to your website in the first line. You have tons of pics on your ad but you’ve directed the client away and onto your site, where you are wanting to exact as much money as you can just so they can even ask a question about what your services are. 
You touched on race being an important barrier to meeting clients. As a white guy, I won’t pretend to know what that’s like. I imagine you’re right. I will say though that if you want to bring race into your discussion about big city vs small city, then business models are fair game too, and my discussion on your presentation and ads are not micro-topics. 
I’m going to be a little blunt and argue that I think your ego is not letting you see things clearly. After so many years in this line of work, you have put yourself on a pedestal. You’re convinced that the issue solely rests on the socio-economic realities of big vs small cities, and won’t even acknowledge how some of your current practices might also play a role. 
I’ve been on this website for less than a week. You are by far the name I’ve seen the most here. Both in terms of your posts, as well as being the subject of other people’s posts. Unfortunately, not all of it has been positive. 
Just remember that the more limits you place between you and your clients, the tougher it is to get booked. 
I don’t even know what your brand is. All I know is that you need to be paid up front. It’s all I retain from viewing your ads and website and posts here. You’re so dead set on not getting burned financially that you’ve sacrificed your entire personality in the process. If you’d like to have a chat about this please reach out. 

Before commenting on your post, I decided to go through your links, to get a better idea of how you might present to a potential client. 

Here are my observations:
Your RMen ad has been up since 2013. Tons of positive reviews, but the last one being Nov 2013. I know it’s probably because you promote your personal website, and likely have people reach out through there, but your premium clients aren’t keeping up with the reviews. It’s something I always look at when searching a provider, and question why someone suddenly stopped receiving them.
The most apparent thing in both your website and RM ads is that the money comes first, and is the most important thing for you. As a provider, I feel like you are having all future clients pay for the consequences for bad experiences a few previous clients might have left. Being in this since at least 2023, I’d imagine some bad experiences are par for the course. No business has a 100% success rate and a 0% loss rate. 
Your website is rather cold. Even to have a potential client reach out and see if you’re a good fit is gonna cost him $20. 
Tour profile basically reads as: “pay me for every minute I’m working for you, or move on”. 

My own lived experiences:
I live in Montreal, it’s the second biggest city in Canada. Much smaller compared to American big cities, but I think my experiences hold true here. I’ve only been a provider for a year. I don’t have the ripped body and six pack, but I carry myself well, and have an ability to connect with people, identify their needs, and provide what they are looking for. Because I only sign on for clients who I am confident I am able to help, I get to really enjoy my job, and that results in my clients really enjoying their time with me (not bragging or anything but just speaking to my strength)  
In Montreal, I work a pretty consistent and stable number of hours from one week to the next, and each week it’s roughly 50% new clients and 50% returning (I’m a big nerd when it comes to data so I have stats and dashboard on everything). 
I also visit Ottawa, a much smaller city, about once a month. My first time there, I only had three clients. But I connected with many more who weren’t available the weekend I was there. The following month, I reached out to many of them to let them know I was going back, and had my busiest weekend to date. 
What seems to be happening is that I will have a higher % of returning clients in Ottawa. As it’s a smaller city, the clients I’ve connected with there will want to see me when I’m in town. I also reach out to them and don’t wait for them to message me. 
Back home in Montreal, it continues to be 50/50 new and returning. 
I’m going to Atlanta this weekend, and it will be the biggest city I’ve ever worked in. Part of me is intimidated by the number of beautiful providers there (and what they are packing!). The other part of me knows that the client that connects with me is going to leave with a huge smile on his face, have their needs met, and not feel like I was just doing this for the money. I don’t know how many clients I’ll see. The purpose of my trip isn’t work, but I do have a “nice to have” target I’d like to hit, which would help pay down my flight/hotel costs. 
Outside of my work, I also make sure to create lots of downtime for my hobbies, friends, family, etc. A year in, I saw that it was getting hard to not go after every dollar at first. Then I asked myself what my goals were. Now, I have a target yearly income I’d like to make. Every week/month, I get to see if I’m on track. I base my targets on 48 weeks vs 52 so that I have a month off during the year, which also acts as a buffer when weeks are quieter. Having an actual goal makes things much easier to accept. I don’t get thrown off by a quiet week because things are still moving forward. Or, if I see that I’m having a longer quiet stretch, I look at my options. 
This profession has turned me into a branding, marketing, operations, sales, accounting, and customer satisfaction expert 😂. I don’t always wait for clients to come to me, and I don’t push the credit card terminal in their face when they say hello. We get enough of that with the crazy tipping culture everywhere else. 
Lastly, the definition or busy vs quiet week can also be subjective. Maybe a quiet week for you is a really busy week for me. That’s where my goals and targets come in. It gives me perspective on how I’m doing, rather than constantly worry about when the next dollar is gonna come in. 
 
I hope some of this helps. Would love to hear your thoughts and if you have anything else to share! 
Cheers,

Before commenting on your post, I decided to go through your links, to get a better idea of how you might present to a potential client. 

Here are my observations:
Your RMen ad has been up since 2013. Tons of positive reviews, but the last one being Nov 2013. I know it’s probably because you promote your personal website, and likely have people reach out through there, but your premium clients aren’t keeping up with the reviews. It’s something I always look at when searching a provider, and question why someone suddenly stopped receiving them.
The most apparent thing in both your website and RM ads is that the money comes first, and is the most important thing for you. As a provider, I feel like you are having all future clients pay for the consequences for bad experiences a few previous clients might have left. Being in this since at least 2023, I’d imagine some bad experiences are par for the course. No business has a 100% success rate and a 0% loss rate. 
Your website is rather cold. Even to have a potential client reach out and see if you’re a good fit is gonna cost him $20. 
Tour profile basically reads as: “pay me for every minute I’m working for you, or move on”. 

My own lived experiences:
I live in Montreal, it’s the second biggest city in Canada. Much smaller compared to American big cities, but I think my experiences hold true here. I’ve only been a provider for a year. I don’t have the ripped body and six pack, but I carry myself well, and have an ability to connect with people, identify their needs, and provide what they are looking for. Because I only sign on for clients who I am confident I am able to help, I get to really enjoy my job, and that results in my clients really enjoying their time with me (not bragging or anything but just speaking to my strength)  
In Montreal, I work a pretty consistent and stable number of hours from one week to the next, and each week it’s roughly 50% new clients and 50% returning (I’m a big nerd when it comes to data so I have stats and dashboard on everything). 
I also visit Ottawa, a much smaller city, about once a month. My first time there, I only had three clients. But I connected with many more who weren’t available the weekend I was there. The following month, I reached out to many of them to let them know I was going back, and had my busiest weekend to date. 
What seems to be happening is that I will have a higher % of returning clients in Ottawa. As it’s a smaller city, the clients I’ve connected with there will want to see me when I’m in town. I also reach out to them and don’t wait for them to message me. 
Back home in Montreal, it continues to be 50/50 new and returning. 
I’m going to Atlanta this weekend, and it will be the biggest city I’ve ever worked in. Part of me is intimidated by the number of beautiful providers there (and what they are packing!). The other part of me knows that the client that connects with me is going to leave with a huge smile on his face, have their needs met, and not feel like I was just doing this for the money. I don’t know how many clients I’ll see. The purpose of my trip isn’t work, but I do have a “nice to have” target I’d like to hit, which would help pay down my flight/hotel costs. 
Outside of my work, I also make sure to create lots of downtime for my hobbies, friends, family, etc. A year in, I saw that it was getting hard to not go after every dollar at first. Then I asked myself what my goals were. Now, I have a target yearly income I’d like to make. Every week/month, I get to see if I’m on track. I base my targets on 48 weeks vs 52 so that I have a month off during the year, which also acts as a buffer when weeks are quieter. Having an actual goal makes things much easier to accept. I don’t get thrown off by a quiet week because things are still moving forward. Or, if I see that I’m having a longer quiet stretch, I look at my options. 
This profession has turned me into a branding, marketing, operations, sales, accounting, and customer satisfaction expert 😂. I don’t always wait for clients to come to me, and I don’t push the credit card terminal in their face when they say hello. We get enough of that with the crazy tipping culture everywhere else. 
Lastly, the definition or busy vs quiet week can also be subjective. Maybe a quiet week for you is a really busy week for me. That’s where my goals and targets come in. It gives me perspective on how I’m doing, rather than constantly worry about when the next dollar is gonna come in. 
 
I hope some of this helps. Would love to hear your thoughts and if you have anything else to share! 
Cheers,

Your website reads as follows to someone who lands on your page:
”Hi. Want to connect with me? $20. Where did you see my ads? Give me details. What are you looking for? Choose between 4 options. Oh you want details on those options? I need a deposit. Here are all my fees and extra fees. You want to see pics of me? Pay me.”
On your RentMen ad, you refer clients to your website in the first line. You have tons of pics on your ad but you’ve directed the client away and onto your site, where you are wanting to exact as much money as you can just so they can even ask a question about what your services are. 
You touched on race being an important barrier to meeting clients. As a white guy, I won’t pretend to know what that’s like. I imagine you’re right. I will say though that if you want to bring race into your discussion about big city vs small city, then business models are fair game too, and my discussion on your presentation and ads are not micro-topics. 
I’m going to be a little blunt and argue that I think your ego is not letting you see things clearly. After so many years in this line of work, you have put yourself on a pedestal. You’re convinced that the issue solely rests on the socio-economic realities of big vs small cities, and won’t even acknowledge how some of your current practices might also play a role. 
I’ve been on this website for less than a week. You are by far the name I’ve seen the most here. Both in terms of your posts, as well as being the subject of other people’s posts. Unfortunately, not all of it has been positive. 
Just remember that the more limits you place between you and your clients, the tougher it is to get booked. 
I don’t even know what your brand is. All I know is that you need to be paid up front. It’s all I retain from viewing your ads and website and posts here. You’re so dead set on not getting burned financially that you’ve sacrificed your entire personality in the process. If you’d like to have a chat about this please reach out. 

Before commenting on your post, I decided to go through your links, to get a better idea of how you might present to a potential client. 

Here are my observations:
Your RMen ad has been up since 2013. Tons of positive reviews, but the last one being Nov 2013. I know it’s probably because you promote your personal website, and likely have people reach out through there, but your premium clients aren’t keeping up with the reviews. It’s something I always look at when searching a provider, and question why someone suddenly stopped receiving them.
The most apparent thing in both your website and RM ads is that the money comes first, and is the most important thing for you. As a provider, I feel like you are having all future clients pay for the consequences for bad experiences a few previous clients might have left. Being in this since at least 2023, I’d imagine some bad experiences are par for the course. No business has a 100% success rate and a 0% loss rate. 
Your website is rather cold. Even to have a potential client reach out and see if you’re a good fit is gonna cost him $20. 
Tour profile basically reads as: “pay me for every minute I’m working for you, or move on”. 

My own lived experiences:
I live in Montreal, it’s the second biggest city in Canada. Much smaller compared to American big cities, but I think my experiences hold true here. I’ve only been a provider for a year. I don’t have the ripped body and six pack, but I carry myself well, and have an ability to connect with people, identify their needs, and provide what they are looking for. Because I only sign on for clients who I am confident I am able to help, I get to really enjoy my job, and that results in my clients really enjoying their time with me (not bragging or anything but just speaking to my strength)  
In Montreal, I work a pretty consistent and stable number of hours from one week to the next, and each week it’s roughly 50% new clients and 50% returning (I’m a big nerd when it comes to data so I have stats and dashboard on everything). 
I also visit Ottawa, a much smaller city, about once a month. My first time there, I only had three clients. But I connected with many more who weren’t available the weekend I was there. The following month, I reached out to many of them to let them know I was going back, and had my busiest weekend to date. 
What seems to be happening is that I will have a higher % of returning clients in Ottawa. As it’s a smaller city, the clients I’ve connected with there will want to see me when I’m in town. I also reach out to them and don’t wait for them to message me. 
Back home in Montreal, it continues to be 50/50 new and returning. 
I’m going to Atlanta this weekend, and it will be the biggest city I’ve ever worked in. Part of me is intimidated by the number of beautiful providers there (and what they are packing!). The other part of me knows that the client that connects with me is going to leave with a huge smile on his face, have their needs met, and not feel like I was just doing this for the money. I don’t know how many clients I’ll see. The purpose of my trip isn’t work, but I do have a “nice to have” target I’d like to hit, which would help pay down my flight/hotel costs. 
Outside of my work, I also make sure to create lots of downtime for my hobbies, friends, family, etc. A year in, I saw that it was getting hard to not go after every dollar at first. Then I asked myself what my goals were. Now, I have a target yearly income I’d like to make. Every week/month, I get to see if I’m on track. I base my targets on 48 weeks vs 52 so that I have a month off during the year, which also acts as a buffer when weeks are quieter. Having an actual goal makes things much easier to accept. I don’t get thrown off by a quiet week because things are still moving forward. Or, if I see that I’m having a longer quiet stretch, I look at my options. 
This profession has turned me into a branding, marketing, operations, sales, accounting, and customer satisfaction expert 😂. I don’t always wait for clients to come to me, and I don’t push the credit card terminal in their face when they say hello. We get enough of that with the crazy tipping culture everywhere else. 
Lastly, the definition or busy vs quiet week can also be subjective. Maybe a quiet week for you is a really busy week for me. That’s where my goals and targets come in. It gives me perspective on how I’m doing, rather than constantly worry about when the next dollar is gonna come in. 
 
I hope some of this helps. Would love to hear your thoughts and if you have anything else to share! 
Cheers,