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On the topic of Red flags .. 😮‍💨
 

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On the topic of Red flags .. 😮‍💨
 

On the topic of Red flags .. 😮‍💨
 

The pic collector Venn diagram circle almost completely covers the sex chat Venn diagram circle in my experience.
They say they’ve seen my ad (and presumably the pics on it) and they are interested in booking but want more information…. “what happens during a session?” (‘we drink tea and play dominoes obviously 🙄)….then they ask something like “how big is it?”…then “can I have a pic”….then the sex chat starts “what will you do to me…. I’m very tight, do you like tight?”…and they want more pics. I say “if you want to book a session please let me know” and close it down because this chat is going nowhere.
They always come back with “definitely going to book once I sort out my calendar or once I get paid etc”. That means he’s never going to book and once he’s finished wanking over the sex chat and pics he’ll forget about it until next time he’s horny and he contacts me again (often months later having forgotten the first time!). 
Dealing with enquiries is just part of the business. It’s fine, many are genuine and turn into great regular clients. I think some clients ask these questions to see what kind of person you are. If you’re irritated by a few questions, want payment to send a pic, don’t want to engage with someone who genuinely seems to be seeking information about booking (especially if all of this hiring thing is new to them), then it tells them you’re probably not going to be a great experience.
I’m ok for potential clients to know as much about what I’m like as possible because if they then choose me I know it will be a great experience for them (and therefore for me too). 

Existing client I've seen or that I see regularly, no problem, happy to share... an inquiring mind on RM that has seen the multitude of nudes, localized nudes, full mast at attention nudes, it's a "red flag" for me in which case  I kindly say, "if 15 nudes aren't enough, 150 won't be enough"  Most likely I'm dealing ( not for long ) with a tire kicker and or a "pic collector" And this comes from years of experience and collected test market analysis 🧐 📊 📈 😜

Most of my interactions with people asking for cock pics have been photos collectors. 

I share a dick pic or other pic if they want one. Clients can also see my pics and a demo video of me on my website. I think it’s fine if they want to see that because it’s a better session if they choose to book knowing what I look like. 
Where I draw the line is multiple requests for pictures via text or WhatsApp. That’s just a picture collector. I tell them if they want more pics they should follow my twitter. They usually go quiet after that. 
 

I offered him a taxi/uber but didn't like it. He wanted me to go and pick him up myself, open his door etc...
In any case I am glad I did not meet him. I just came out of a 2 year relationship with another nut case, I could use a break. 😆

My red flags are pictures that are headless or fuzzy or clearly are composites of two or more different men. As a personal preference any escort who declares himself "straight" while hawking his wares to presumably gay men would NEVER get my business. I am not an ATM. I am not putting myself in the way of dealing with any man's unresolved sexual identity issues.

Same here, Michael and Grant are on my list to try.
Robert in Mission Valley is excellent. He’s straight. Strictly therapeutic, draped, him fully clothed, which is all fine by me. His waitlist is the only way to book him.

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My initial communication with the Damiano was very smooth. He responded promptly and provided clear directions to his place, which is located in a gated community in the Mission Valley area. Upon arrival, he greeted me at the gate and guided me to a designated parking spot.
He lives with his husband and a roommate, though during my visit, they were not present. I'm unsure if this was coincidental or a regular occurrence. The massage took place in a dedicated room within his apartment, where he had a soothing projection of a night sky on the ceiling, adding a calming ambiance to the experience. He also played music and used scented oils at the beginning of the session, which enhanced the overall atmosphere. When the session began, he was wearing only underwear.
Despite not being formally trained, his massage skills were very good! The session was conducted on a massage table and no drape. The session concluded in a manner that most would hope for. He was generous with his body, and I can confirm that his physique is exactly as advertised in his photos. I'd repeat

I run a snake charming school…😆 
In all seriousness, I continue to learn every month, every year. I am happy to share my journey and lessons learned with those who want to grow. Big ask since the youngest among us think they know everything, and the older ones think the same, but for very different reasons. Technology and culture are in constant flux. Nothing is exactly the same as it was five years ago, and nothing will be exactly the same five years from now. A few core tenets are exactly the same because they are rooted in human nature.
Unabashedly, I don’t know everything. I aim with an open mind to keep growing and learning from both those older and younger than myself, peers, and clients alike. That’s one of the main reasons why I’m here. Plenty of providers know about this site yet see no value in engaging with it. I do.
Accommodation selection is one of many hiring topics. To any provider that wants my input, I’m an open book. 
^Understandable. Be kind and patient with your providers speaking English as a second (or third) language. Anyone offering services in a culture different from their own should take it upon himself to use whatever tools available to communicate as clearly as he can. Some things, however, get lost in translation no matter the level of effort. That’s just the way it goes.

Yes, search for recommendations by others on Company of Men.

Maybe you remind him of an ex or someone else in his past and he finds that upsetting.  I wouldn’t assume it’s anything you did or didn’t do.

I’m probably just more insecure than you. I just think “they’re a human being too and they’re sharing time with me. My hope is that I’ll be welcome back.”  I do a lot of the same (obviously not all) things before I go to the dentist or eye doctor or anyone else that will be close to me.
 
I’ve had a couple of really nice private messages that make we realize a need to clarify that this was purely therapeutic.  The CA state licensure board representative could have been in the room with us and his license would have been fine.   And I wasn’t emotionally attached to him.  It is like if your dentist suddenly said they couldn’t be your dentist anymore. 
 
anyway, thank you for the thoughtful replies.  I appreciate you. 

There is a new review for Reyn on rentmasseur:
I am always nervous meeting a new masseuse, you never know if you're getting what you expect, so I arrived a little early, sky was very professional. I knocked on the door and he welcomed me into his lovely home and walked me to his very relaxing massage room. He had a chair for me to place my clothing and told me to lay face down. He left the room to allow me to undress and lay down, the background music qas perfect. I opted for the mutual touch massage, more than anything because I am a nudist and prefer my masseuse to be nude as well. Sky has an absolutely beautiful body, he was not shy in allowing me to touch him, his skin felt so amazing. He didn't say much during the massage, which I actually prefer, it allows me to focus more on the touch of the masseuse and not the conversation. His technique is very unique and very sensual, he gets up on the table with you and positions himself in a way to massage you fully and deeply. The massage was by far the best massage I have ever had. Towards the end of the massage he had his legs strattling over nine, and lifted me up and we embraced face to face. The hug was one of the most intimate feelings I have ever encountered with a masseuse. I felt so safe and protected but at the same time cared for and connected. We embraced for a few minutes, he allowed me to linger in the embrace until I was ready to let go. It did not feel rushed and I felt so relaxed and satisfied after the massage. He has a beautiful shower to rinse off in and after, as I dressed, we chatted. Then as I left I asked for another hug and he obliged me, he gives the most amazing hugs I have rarely experienced one as good. I will definitely be back to visit him, and I definitely look forward to feeling his warm and caring touch and embrace. He is definitely someone you will want to visit.
   

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I haven't seen a recent review of Michael, so I thought I'd share one.  
He's one of the nicest, most accepting people I've met.  He's very respectful of whatever boundaries you may have.  
His studio is in North Park, and he has a parking spot for clients.  It's easy to find.  His space is very relaxing and impeccably clean.  
His glute work is phenomenal, and the rest is also incredible.  
His prices are really good and the photos don't do him justice.  

I used to see Michael when he visited Palm Springs on a reg. basis. Sexy man, wonderful massage. Sensual but not erotic.

Hey guys,
I was hoping to get input on quality technically gifted masseurs in San Diego - I am a big fan of Grant and Michael. Previously saw Will. What they all share in common besides being very sexy is great therapeutic massage before any thing else. Hoping to hear who else I should consider scheduling with and is on their level.
 
As a reference:
 
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Oh that’s awkward. At least he told you. I once turned up at an outcall and the guys wife and daughter were there. We go into the room he wanted to do the massage in and his daughter was playing in there. He said to me “don’t worry she’ll go upstairs with her mother”. Throughout the massage I could hear them upstairs. I asked him if he was ok with this and checked that he knew it was a sensual massage (happy ending style, done naked etc) and he confirmed yes all ok. He didn’t even lock the door to the room we were in. I felt quite uncomfortable but as I was there and he seemed fine with it all I went ahead but it wasn’t the most relaxing session (for me at least). He seemed to enjoy it. Paid me a nice tip. Honestly you meet all sorts of people doing this work, I’m constantly surprised. 

This has been covered a lot elsewhere, ad nauseam…..but let’s dive in again because new red flags crop up occasionally.
Mine are (from the providers perspective)
- Endless chat. I have one guy who crops up every few months ‘hi what’s your rate’…’hi can I suck you during the massage’…’where are you’…’how does it work’.. It’s gone on for 5 years. He’ll never book.
- Cock pics. Honestly I’ve seen every type of cock. Yours might be lovely but I really don’t care until it visits me ok?
- Calls from excited husbands (who are self pleasuring during the call) to book a surprise massage for their partner or wife….”she’d like you to fuck her”… No mate she wouldn’t appreciate that and I’m not doing surprises, goodbye.
- A text or message from clients who can’t type more than one word: ‘service’ or ‘massage’ or ‘rates?’. If he can’t be bothered to form a sentence how’s he going to be bothered to visit?
- Any enquiry that is ‘hey are you free now / in next half hour’. No, sorry I’m not free at short notice. If you don’t want me to prepare properly you’re probably not visiting for the right reasons. Have a wank it will be cheaper. 
- The phrase “I’ll definitely book” used during the conversation about services etc. It actually means ‘I’ll definitely think about definitely booking’. The interaction by chat and the booking in their head is all that will ever happen. 
90% of clients are fabulous. None of those red flags happen. The other 10% however could take up > 50% of the time if you let them however from experience the red flags are so obvious that you can just cut them off quickly. 
 

 
 

 
 

I am not experienced enough to answer that; however, I have worked for businesses before.  We sold a service to our clients. We would not have provided the service without pay, but that didn't mean we didn't care for them as people and meet their needs for the right reasons. The staff got paid to provide a service, but they cared about the people they were working for,  sometimes working a bit longer unpaid or taking client calls on personal time because they cared.

So I went and saw Austin/Hugh against the warning on this forum because, candidly, he's my type and I was curious.  I disagree with the negative feedback in this thread (though to be fair, it's referencing reviews that have now been deleted as the masseur must have deleted his old profile).  I have no idea why Hugh deleted his old profile or changed names.  I didn't ask him.  That all said, here was my personal experience...
I texted with Hugh earlier today asking to set up a massage for later and he agreed on a time.  He texted me back seconds later indicating he had a conflict and needed to push back our appointment by 30 minutes.  I didn't have a problem with this and he was very quick to respond.
I drove to SF and met him at the hotel he's staying at.  He said he's just touring around the city and avoiding the heat where he lives in South Bay.
Is He the Guy in the Pics?
When I got to the room, the person I met matched the photos on both the rentmen and rentmasseur website.  That said, he has this odd habit of taking pics from angles that make his chin look more triangular than it is in real life.  I wish I could explain it better but his chin was more masculine in person versus the feminine chin in the photos.  His body also matches pretty closely with the online pics though obviously he's flexing his abdominal muscles in the online pics.  In person his abdominals aren't as pronounced but his arms and chest match the photos exactly.... and that's definitely his ass 😅.  His body was extremely smooth with silky skin.  He's a cute guy, probably in his mid 20's.
Does His Massage Suck?
While he's not at all a professional masseur (nor does he claim to be) he was far better than the "pinching massage" review from earlier.  I can see where that reviewer got that impression as Hugh gives a traditional Chinese massage... the kind you would get at a local asian massage parlor where they apply percussive hand claps on your back up and down to signify the massage is over.  So if you're expecting a great Swedish style massage, that's not what Hugh offers.
He's very gentle but capable of applying a lot of pressure if you want it deeper.  He also has a fun light and teasing touch if you want a more sensual massage.
Overall I'd call him average at giving a massage.  Nothing horrible but not great enough that you'd see him just for his massage skills.
He's definitely open to an erotic massage experience.  He charges more for his time in that case and you'll want to be clear in your initial texts on what you're looking for to ensure that he's aligned with that.
Personality
He was very sweet with me both via text and in person.  I don't know if this is a your mileage may vary situation but with me he was very sensual and seemed to genuinely enjoy our time together.
Should You Go See Him?
If you're just looking for a hot asian guy to give you a sensual massage, do yourself a favor and book time with Karl Kang who is practically an SF institution at this point.  He's a better masseur and he'll check most of the boxes that Hugh will.  Karl is probably 10 older so if you're only into younger guys then Hugh might be the better choice.
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RENTMASSEUR.COM View my profile on RentMasseur.com  If you're looking for a more erotic massage experience then Hugh will have less limits on what he's willing to do that Karl does.  Again, discuss beforehand and potentially YMMV.

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