Vin Marco

Wait…I think that was MY address in Philly.
That was you?

@nate_sf
Years ago in San Francisco, in Pacific Heights ( was one of my first appointments ) I met a really wonderful guy that I still see  currently that prepared a fabulous multi course dinner... Beluga caviar from the Caspian Sea, many wonderful appetizers,  entrées and loads of all kinds of  spectacular courses  including dessert, but because it was my first time meeting him I told him I had just eaten, and I was completely full. I was completely full of shit, I was starving, but I was mortified and certain I was going to be drugged, chopped up and put in a crawl space... a few visits later I confessed, and he laughed, but ultimately he completely understood where I was coming from.  Needless to say, I never again turned down anything he prepared and I still do not turn down anything he prepares. I adore him and I trust him implicitly. 🥰

Thank you... I appreciate that... it was a valuable lesson I needed to relearn...  like I said , I'm sort of glad it happened because now I absolutely will not let that happen again.  Sometimes when things are going so good for so long it's easy to get complacent. 

Unfortunately, things like this do happen thankfully not with a lot of frequency but a lot of times these things are slipped under the rug. The story I'm referring to occurred between 15 and 20 years ago in the state of New York. You can never be too safe in this business. It's never a bad idea to let someone know where you're going ( at least for a first time visit with a total stranger ) for those that don't it's fine,  no judgment, but you can't fault somebody for being cautious. 
 
i'll share a story about myself.... about eight years in San Francisco I got complacent, let my guard down and accepted a soda from someone I had never met. They were three of us....  at a certain point , I couldn't tell if I had been there 30 minutes or five hours luckily I didn't finish the beverage and  at that point I told these guys "game over" I took what was mine and left. I immediately called a psychiatrist friend /client of mine who lives in San Francisco and he informed me that I had been  most likely drugged and because I'm a big guy it helped but had I consumed the entire beverage I might not be here writing this story. In a weird way, I'm glad that happened because it reset my guard and I've never been complacent about such a thing since. 

This is also why I have a hard rule about not doing overnights with people I've never met on an hourly basis first. The only exception is if someone I know can vouch but most of my colleagues like Zeb have retired so I can't really rely on that anymore... people tell me "you're a big guy and you can defend yourself " to which I always reply with the fact that no amount of strength,  no amount of jiu-jitsu can help me while I'm asleep 😴 it may sound funny, but it's true. 

I guess you never read about or heard about the escort that was tied up for EIGHT hours before he was set on fire with gasoline. 

It works both ways. Even after all these years on the occasion that I make a visit to somebody totally completely new ( particularly someone's home ) I always tell somebody where I'm at... " if you don't hear from me in..... "  😉

Unfortunately, things like this do happen thankfully not with a lot of frequency but a lot of times these things are slipped under the rug. The story I'm referring to occurred between 15 and 20 years ago in the state of New York. You can never be too safe in this business. It's never a bad idea to let someone know where you're going ( at least for a first time visit with a total stranger ) for those that don't it's fine,  no judgment, but you can't fault somebody for being cautious. 
 
i'll share a story about myself.... about eight years in San Francisco I got complacent, let my guard down and accepted a soda from someone I had never met. They were three of us....  at a certain point , I couldn't tell if I had been there 30 minutes or five hours luckily I didn't finish the beverage and  at that point I told these guys "game over" I took what was mine and left. I immediately called a psychiatrist friend /client of mine who lives in San Francisco and he informed me that I had been  most likely drugged and because I'm a big guy it helped but had I consumed the entire beverage I might not be here writing this story. In a weird way, I'm glad that happened because it reset my guard and I've never been complacent about such a thing since. 

I have a very good friend that also hires and we text each other the providers link/info before an appointment.  Then after we do a kind of mini review. We tend to have the same taste in men and have overlapped providers. (My husband and I both hire and strangely have never shared info like this!)
I don't think I've ever given thought to the dangers, but I guess it's good to know where the authorities can start looking if something ever were to happen to us.

Unfortunately, things like this do happen thankfully not with a lot of frequency but a lot of times these things are slipped under the rug. The story I'm referring to occurred between 15 and 20 years ago in the state of New York. You can never be too safe in this business. It's never a bad idea to let someone know where you're going ( at least for a first time visit with a total stranger ) for those that don't it's fine,  no judgment, but you can't fault somebody for being cautious. 
 
i'll share a story about myself.... about eight years in San Francisco I got complacent, let my guard down and accepted a soda from someone I had never met. They were three of us....  at a certain point , I couldn't tell if I had been there 30 minutes or five hours luckily I didn't finish the beverage and  at that point I told these guys "game over" I took what was mine and left. I immediately called a psychiatrist friend /client of mine who lives in San Francisco and he informed me that I had been  most likely drugged and because I'm a big guy it helped but had I consumed the entire beverage I might not be here writing this story. In a weird way, I'm glad that happened because it reset my guard and I've never been complacent about such a thing since. 

Existing client I've seen or that I see regularly, no problem, happy to share... an inquiring mind on RM that has seen the multitude of nudes, localized nudes, full mast at attention nudes, it's a "red flag" for me in which case  I kindly say, "if 15 nudes aren't enough, 150 won't be enough"  Most likely I'm dealing ( not for long ) with a tire kicker and or a "pic collector" And this comes from years of experience and collected test market analysis 🧐 📊 📈 😜

Existing client I've seen or that I see regularly, no problem, happy to share... an inquiring mind on RM that has seen the multitude of nudes, localized nudes, full mast at attention nudes, it's a "red flag" for me in which case  I kindly say, "if 15 nudes aren't enough, 150 won't be enough"  Most likely I'm dealing ( not for long ) with a tire kicker and or a "pic collector" And this comes from years of experience and collected test market analysis 🧐 📊 📈 😜

Existing client I've seen or that I see regularly, no problem, happy to share... an inquiring mind on RM that has seen the multitude of nudes, localized nudes, full mast at attention nudes, it's a "red flag" for me in which case  I kindly say, "if 15 nudes aren't enough, 150 won't be enough"  Most likely I'm dealing ( not for long ) with a tire kicker and or a "pic collector" And this comes from years of experience and collected test market analysis 🧐 📊 📈 😜

This photo photo was taken in Uptown Dallas. Yes, indeed it was leg 🦵🏽 day. I'd go into the sauna after and it would make my veins go crazy 🤪  I like adding some backstory to the photos I post of myself. 

Existing client I've seen or that I see regularly, no problem, happy to share... an inquiring mind on RM that has seen the multitude of nudes, localized nudes, full mast at attention nudes, it's a "red flag" for me in which case  I kindly say, "if 15 nudes aren't enough, 150 won't be enough"  Most likely I'm dealing ( not for long ) with a tire kicker and or a "pic collector" And this comes from years of experience and collected test market analysis 🧐 📊 📈 😜

Existing client I've seen or that I see regularly, no problem, happy to share... an inquiring mind on RM that has seen the multitude of nudes, localized nudes, full mast at attention nudes, it's a "red flag" for me in which case  I kindly say, "if 15 nudes aren't enough, 150 won't be enough"  Most likely I'm dealing ( not for long ) with a tire kicker and or a "pic collector" And this comes from years of experience and collected test market analysis 🧐 📊 📈 😜

Existing client I've seen or that I see regularly, no problem, happy to share... an inquiring mind on RM that has seen the multitude of nudes, localized nudes, full mast at attention nudes, it's a "red flag" for me in which case  I kindly say, "if 15 nudes aren't enough, 150 won't be enough"  Most likely I'm dealing ( not for long ) with a tire kicker and or a "pic collector" And this comes from years of experience and collected test market analysis 🧐 📊 📈 😜

What is not a red flag for you may and can be a red flag for for someone else. 
 
The question posed here is " what is YOUR red flag?"
 

What is not a red flag for you may and can be a red flag for for someone else. 
 
The question posed here is " what is YOUR red flag?"