phil_hunter

Another newbie question. I understand masseurs who provide happy endings, and I guess that masseurs who advertise that they're tops can top you when you're already face down on the table. But how does it work when the masseur makes it clear, either in the description or with a series of photos, that they're bottoms? Not clear who's massaging whom. Or maybe I just lack imagination. 😀 (Funniest thing I seen on a masseur's page: "10 years of experience massaging people all the way to horses." I have no idea what that means!)

Thank you, everyone, for your responses. You've been very helpful. I took the advice of looking for a 30+ masseur who does erotic massage, rather than an escort, just to get started, and I've now seen Alex Neto a couple of times. He's amazing. We talked, and he doesn't care about my limitations. It felt so great to be touched again, all over. Thanks for your encouragement.

I'm a newbie, but I think the key is to look for the option/service called "Erotic Massage." That's what's used on rentmen.com and rentmasseur.com. Then read the profiles and reviews to see whether they're primarily a masseur who gives happy endings versus an escort who does some massage. Also, here on companyofmen.org, go to Daddy's Den > The Deli and search for the provider's name to see whether anyone here has commented on them. If not, you can always ask about them by creating a post called "411 on <provider>", where 411 is shorthand for "information." I've found that the people are responsive, friendly, and supportive. When you find a provider who looks good, send them a text or email, as @McKeeD said, and have a direct conversation. (I'm seeing my first masseur tomorrow!)

I should add that I live in San Francisco.

I am an older guy, still in good shape, working out twice a week, reasonably presentable, and easy to talk to. But I'm really self-conscious about my sexual ability. I was successfully treated for prostate cancer 10 years ago. I can have an orgasm but I don't ejaculate. I can still get hard, though typically with the help of a cock ring or ED pill. Even when I don't stay really hard for long, it still feels great. It takes a while for me to climax, and sometimes I don't get there. I'm happy to bottom; I like toys. But it's been a long time since I had sex with anyone, and it's time for me to experience physical intimacy again. So how do I find a provider who will have the patience that I need? I don't want to seem like "a lot of work." Maybe I should start with someone who does erotic massage, where they're accustomed to taking their time (and oil sounds like fun!). Eventually, I'd like to find someone to play with, so he's having a good time, too. I feel as if that's a lot to explain when contacting a provider, a bit much to leave in voicemail, but this forum is filled with the advice to be very clear when contacting someone. So how do I manage that?