Luv2play

I am easily satisfied with the very best.

For what it’s worth, I find it easier, and less emotionally risky, to treat every new escort experience as if it were a physical therapy appointment with a new PT, or a workout with a new trainer. Then it becomes an exercise of his pleasure-giving skills, and of my capacity to respond, and give pleasure back. I don’t pay my PT or my trainer to be my friends — but if they’re doing their job, and I’m doing mine, then there’s a chance that friendship can grow out of mutual respect, even if the relationship remains an essentially commercial one.

I often felt like that after hiring. It was a high followed by an even more intense low. This was the norm until I met the person who would become my first regular. I saw him for many years. Overnights, weekends, even longer. I would probably still be seeing him today if circumstances wouldn't have made that impossible. But the important thing in this, was that I finally met someone who didn't make me feel bad about myself afterwards, and that made all the difference.
After, I still saw escorts.. but less frequently. Again those bad feelings about myself afterwards returned. Just when I was about to give up, I met the escort that would become my second regular. We have progressed from an hour to overnight to full weekends. Once again I never feel bad about myself after seeing him.
 
Here are few important things to keep in mind though.
Do not allow seeing escorts to replace your real life experiences of making real friends and dating. To do so will definitely reinforce those negative feelings and self-worth doubts because you will not experience friendship and affection without paying for it. Unfortunately, it's way too easy to fall into this trap.
 
While escorts and clients can develop deep relationships of some sort, always remember that its almost always transactional based. You can be friendly, your companion may actually enjoy your company... but It's a job for your companion. When the $ stops so does the "friendship & affection".
*There are a VERY few exceptions to this (but it's so extremely rare) and should never be expected.
 
You don't pay people to be your real friends.
 
Most importantly, if the net effect on you is negative, definitely stop seeing escorts.

BTW I also vote in favour of getting a dog IF you consider all aspects of the commitment; emotional, time, financial, proper care and feeding, exercise and all the other things a dog requires to be healthy and happy. An unhappy dog will take it out on you and your house and furnishings. I got my first dog at the height of the AIDS epidemic before effective treatments were developed. Friends of mine were dropping like flies but I took the step as a bet on my future. Twenty five years later I got another dog after I had been diagnosed with prostate cancer and before I had entered treatment. Again an affirmation of my future. For insurance I called him Lucky. Four years later I found another dog and adopted him to be Lucky’s pal. Lucky died of old age a year and a half ago and my other dog keeps me healthy, emotionally and physically (those walks every day, rain or shine or snow, do wonders for me as well). If something were to happen to me, I have a family that is dog crazy and he would be well taken care of if I were gone. You only have one life to live and putting something off that you want and think would add to your life means foregoing your happiness today and in the future, something you can never get back.

Currently I don’t see a problem. I use it exclusively to find escorts. I am also comfortable with their being based in Europe where laws on prostitution and gay sex generally are much more relaxed and progressive. Being in Canada I also get access to all the comments in their reviews, which is very helpful in making decisions re hiring.

Currently I don’t see a problem. I use it exclusively to find escorts. I am also comfortable with their being based in Europe where laws on prostitution and gay sex generally are much more relaxed and progressive. Being in Canada I also get access to all the comments in their reviews, which is very helpful in making decisions re hiring.

I lived in Geneva for 4 years back in the 80s and had a very fulfilling gay life including a live in Swiss lover. Worked there occasionally during the 90s and haven’t been back since. I guess I should pay it a visit again as soon as travel permits to see what changes have occurred.

Greg (Coach) in LA; nicest guy; beautifully built; started by undressing you, lots of caressing, kissing, great massage; he changed careers and is no longer giving massages (drat!)

Greg (Coach) in LA; nicest guy; beautifully built; started by undressing you, lots of caressing, kissing, great massage; he changed careers and is no longer giving massages (drat!)

20 years ago I had a regular masseur (once a month) who was a CMT and a real hottie. Our combined weight was just over 300 pounds and he could get on my back for a full body massage. Then when it got serious he would pull me down so that my chest was on the table and my butt hanging over the end with my legs on the floor. And then he went to town. He also let me suck him before the transition. This was either when he was at the top end of the table and I was on my front or at the side of the table and I was on my back. And in those days it was only $100 for the hour. It was a nice variation on the bed scenario with full service escorts who at that time charged around $150.

I prefer table. Feels more legit for my kinky mind and a bigger surprise when they feed you at the end.

Yes if I could get that large sum of money back I would go back and warn my pre Bosley self. I could have put that money into apple stock and been an uber rich bald guy. Money seems to make many blind to flaws. JK

Is it mean to say ... SharpieGate?

The details do go online. If you live in the US, you don’t get to see them but we do in other countries. You should speak to your congressman about that.

I saw his ad on RM over a year ago and was intrigued. He’s on my bucket list but with travel restrictions he’ll be there a while.

I agree. If there‘s not an active ad, let the fantasy fade.
 
At a very high brow benefit in NYC, I once ran into an escort I had hired.
He was the trainer of one of the mega corporate wife’s at the event.
As soon as he saw me, I saw the panic in his eyes that he might reveal
our secret and that he didn’t know how to greet me. When we were
formally introduced, I threw my arms open wide, screamed his real
name (which I didn’t know until that exact moment) and greeted him
like we were long lost best friends from the gym. I could feel his sigh
of relief as we hugged.
 
Crisis averted. He later sent me a text thanking me, and we’ve met
several times since. The lesson? It’s only awkward, if you make it
awkward.

The good thing about aging is that all of the sudden we're surrounded by SO many younger men...

Almost every new app/website idea comes from the US but in this case you're not going to have someone in silicon valley develop an app to facilitate male prostitution because of how strict the US laws are. That's why a dutch website has captured the market in America.

Can someone That pm’s him tell us how much he needs?

I don't know, I feel like because the nature of the job isn't that of an escort, it shouldn't be expected that the masseur will be aroused during an erotic massage. We are human, after all. To me, erotic goes beyond gently touching certain areas, it is more interactive, but doesn't necessarily have to involve the masseur getting hard. It could involve fingers, body contact, simulation, but I wouldn't fault a masseur for offering erotic and not popping a boner. An escort not popping a boner however, whose job it is to penetrate (if hired in an active role) would be an issue for me. But even then, I would still understand to a certain extent that some level of attraction (or Viagra) needs to be involved.

If you say so. I had a great time with him!

I could easily accept your premises if you were speaking about an escort.

Nowadays masseurs aren't supposed to advertise that they are sexual or even provide a HE. But back when they could, a NY masseur I saw advertised that he did NOT, and the client was NOT to even ASK! But, he came highly recommended so I hired him. By the time we got to where he was fucking me I realized that the ad was meant to screen those he wasn't attracted to. Your mileage may vary.

I disagree. I can think of many massages that were very erotic but did not involve the insertion of the male organ into an orifice on my body. Some masseurs are wonderful teases and when the climax comes it is as erotic as a backyard blowjob!

U.S. laws that leave them open to prosecution if knowingly shown to U.S. website viewers