Luv2play

I think overnights or extended meetings are very dependent on chemistry, communication, and how much each person can handle or not handle particular situations.
 
I don’t need a lot of sleep to function normally, but most people do. So I know there is a limitation there with most providers. I think there are only 2 guys who were willing to forego their regular sleeping time for sex. One I met, the other I didn’t. The one I met was relatively early on in my hiring career so I wasn’t sure what to expect, but he said flat out he was perfectly willing to stay in the hotel all weekend and have as much sex as I wanted. We did have a lot of sex but we did other things outside the bedroom. We live on the opposite ends of the country and he hates flying and the pandemic worsened the matter. So one day I plan to take him up on that offer of a sex marathon. I don’t know if I could keep up with him as I did when first meet, but I’m going to definitely try. Lol!
 
The other man I didn’t meet, but as we talked about expectations, literally told me he wouldn’t let me sleep. That he’d play with my dick all night. I don’t know if that was all hyperbole, but I was game. There were scheduling issues. So the meeting never took place. He isn’t currently advertising but we’ve been in touch and he still wants to meet.
 
If there is a lot of deep passionate kissing and my partner is responsive to whatever I do to him, I can go at it back to back. I have a quick recovery time and sometimes I will even stay aroused after orgasm. Although my stamina isn’t what used to be. I need a break sometimes. ? The guy I see the most needs at least 6 hours of sleep 8 preferably. He’ll sometimes sleep less if the mood takes him. However, he says he can’t take my dick but x number of times, as I leave him sore. The most we’ve had sex was 4 times during an overnight. We average 3 times... when we first meet, sometime after dinner or whatever (we’re doing outside of sex) before bed and once in the morning. Morning sex is his favorite and he loves that I wake him up with a dick in his butt. Lol!
 
Overnights are not not always about sleeping with the provider, depending on the provider. For some having access to a sex partner for 12 hours or more is what they want. Yet for some others, just having someone to (temporarily) cuddle up next to while you sleep plays a big role in the whole event.

One of my best....unusual for me but I arranged an overnite at his place for our first meeting —
good looking, 33 / 34 yrs old, blonde hair, 6’3” / 210 / hairy bod / top....”retired” semi-pro baseball player....
I drove down from San Francisco to his place in San Luis Obispo....
I probably arrived around 3pm....we briefly chat & then pretty soon get it on in bed....
probably around 6pm, we showered & went out for some dinner....
back at his place about 90 minutes later.....
we probably chatted for a short while before heading back into the bedroom....
once we were naked again & mostly settled in for whatever the nite was going to be about,
he‘s the guy who tells me that he is there to be “used & abused”.....
including the morning play before I hit the road, he topped me 5 times....
& we each shot our loads each time....
a long time ago.....a ridiculously low “donation” that he requested.

Hahaha

I contacted him a year ago or so. After discussing various things in several texts, it became clear to me that hard chems were high on the list of sex assists in any encounter. I passed.

Only did that in my youth. Free sex then:)

Only did that in my youth. Free sex then:)

Wow.... Are you high Clairee?
 
I find the 'skill level' in tops varies WILDLY. Some can't find the hole, some don't know how to treat a hole, some don't know how to pound, some don't know what to do with their hands, some don't know how to get the bottom in the best position so they both experience pleasure..... I mean I could go on for hours..... Bottoms can just 'lay there'....grunt, groan, and moan....and easier for a bottom to fake an orgasm. And why can't a bottom provider be texting his next client..... face down, ass up, head under a pillow.... he could be texting his next pounding!
 
My personal preference is to be total bottom and I like finding people who can be 'total tops' with skills to match. The sexual chemistry can be out of this world if you both know what you are doing.

As far as the sleeping well...Well, it's difficult, because if you've just met you are both strangers. And even if you know each other, you don't live together. I have been on some overnights with clients who snore horribly. When I was doing overnights, I still had a full time job, and I needed quality sleep to get through a day of work after the overnight, so I learned quickly, to slip in the silicone earplugs just as we turn off the lights, and also take ambien or benadryl an hour or so before I estimate we will go to sleep.
 
Now, personally, I'm able to take ambien or benadryl and not be in a coma, so waking up early, or even for some fun in the middle of the night, was not a problem for me. If these medications tend to really knock you out, maybe work on the dosage. You can break ambien into pieces, and liquid benadryl is very easy to control, dosage-wise.
 
But when I didn't have to get up for work, I remember several overnights where we did stay up until 4 or 5 am fucking and talking and such. Once I flew to New York (not direct, I had to change planes). I'd never met him before. He picked me up at JFK at 5pm. We went straight to manhattan for dinner, then the hotel, then later we went to the Gaiety, then played till about 2am, then we called in another escort, he stayed till about 4:30 am, then we fell asleep about 5:30 am. Got up at 9, played a lot, went to that stupid shopping place on the pier in lower manhattan, then he took me straight to the airport and I flew home, again not direct. All of this was without drugs and was really fun. It was 21 years ago, we never met again, but we still email.
 
I'd say, if both of you are able to go without much sleep, if the next day demands aren't too great, and it seems as if the client would enjoy staying up most of the night, go for it. You're young. You'll be fine.
 
But, if you have demands on your time the next day, then yes, make the waking hours the best he's ever had, then put in the earplugs, take the liquid benadryl, ready the coffee for the next morning, and try to get as close to 7 hours sleep as possible.
 
Just be sure that if the client wants to cuddle-sleep, you fucking cuddle-sleep. Escorts who want to sleep separate from their client are asking too much. If that's the case, you should not be doing overnights.

You're kidding right? You wouldn't be able to do oral to that unless you are a giraffe.
 

As someone who does a lot of overnights I’ve sometimes considered this. What you would lose is getting some action in the middle of the night. I am a light sleeper so 3 o’clock diversions beat staring at the ceiling!.
Also, I have never been woken by an escort snoring. If anything, it’s sometimes me and maybe they wake me up and stuff something nice in my mouth to stifle the noise.
And thirdly, waking up with a hot man with morning wood takes me back to my youth when I had the same ”affliction”. I would much rather take care of the problem with my partner myself on the spot!

If bottoming for hand or small toy, heed the guys above- fiber supps amazing! Once you see how well they work. Find your natural rhythm of elimination. A brief shallow flush 1 bulbx2 is all that need to follow if you’ve already moved bowels in solid condition.
 
For deep play, I plan ahead, lower food intake day and a half before. Lots of liquid, an egg, a small salad, some fruit, Greek yogurt. no meat. No alcohol Same fiber. 4hr ahead of meeting: 1 round of 2-bulb clean out. Use shower shot only if needed:
Med flow, warm, to a count of five, hold for 20 sec then expel. Repeat a couple times more until clear - use your body to help, isolating core muscles, leaning to one side than another as you expel. Breathe as you push out. Adjust quantity and hold time as needed. There is a learning curve. Having a long skinny 12-16” toy to do a final reconnaissance mission is a good idea. Done by 2hr lead time
Lie down for 15m, followed by getting up and moving, stretching, breathing. Check in over toilet. Bulb rinse as needed. Then proceed with grooming routine.
Try to allow your body its natural elimination process Douching above is NOT for daily routine. Only when a hand or silicone buddy might be in the vicinity of the ...holding bin
Hint: day before use an emollient on your hole and taint (Vaseline, coconut oil, etc) so the imminent water-use doesn’t chap your ...lips. Reapply after wiping, etc and before sleep.
Long Live the Home Bidet!!

Because some clients are looking for more than sucking and fucking. As someone who enjoys long make-out sessions and cuddling when I sleep, I enjoy that time as much as, if not more, than the physical sex. I just had an overnight on Saturday with my regular and had a blast. We made out for over an hour, had some hot fun, showered, had some food, watched a movie together while cuddling and drinking wine, moved to my bedroom for some additional fun, slept wrapped around each other all night, and awoke to some more fun. We've started calling it our "date night." If you're just into getting your rocks off I can see where an overnight wouldn't make sense. At times, I wish I was one of those guys who want nothing more than get in, get off, and get out. It sure as hell would save me a lot of money, but I don't find that completely satisfying and I actually enjoy the connection made with a guy during longer sessions.

I’ve been to Rio and São Paulo and agree it is a paradise for clients. But that was quite a few years ago. I wouldn’t consider going there now under the current political and economic conditions. I think that’s why there are so many hot Brazilian men in NAmerica and Europe who have concluded the same thing as I have.

Your pain is our entertainment. <deep sigh>

I saw him over 20 years ago. At the time, he said all of his clients were going to get producer credits on his movie because he was using the money he made from them to pay for the film. He offered to list me. I declined. Too weird for words. He is now 36, Funny, he was in his late 20's then. Maybe some sort Dorian Gray thing going on....

Yeah really. Brazil is not too far behind the US in Covid19

As someone who does a lot of overnights I’ve sometimes considered this. What you would lose is getting some action in the middle of the night. I am a light sleeper so 3 o’clock diversions beat staring at the ceiling!.
Also, I have never been woken by an escort snoring. If anything, it’s sometimes me and maybe they wake me up and stuff something nice in my mouth to stifle the noise.
And thirdly, waking up with a hot man with morning wood takes me back to my youth when I had the same ”affliction”. I would much rather take care of the problem with my partner myself on the spot!

Sounds pretty ideal. The escort to my mind more than made up for the delay in his arrival. Things happen to cause a delay but when they keep you in the loop during that period it eases any anxiety you are feeling. I’ve been in that position more than once and I know they are doing their best by keeping me advised. I think they appreciate the fact that I don’t make a fuss about it and show their appreciation in other ways to my benefit.

My only ever overnight was in Bali , with a well reviewed international escort.
 
his hourly rate was quite high, I don’t like to rush so was thinking 3 hrs, he wanted to talk so phones me, he up sold me to an overnight .
 
he did stipulate 14 hrs and at least 4 hrs sleep.
 
he was late for our 8 pm but kept me informed.
I had rented a one bedroom villa with pool for the night with an outdoor living area and outdoor kitchen.
 
he arrived we had some good scotch, had some play, ordered food, in a tropical rain storm. Had more play.
drank more scotch and smoked cigars I had with me,it was fun hanging out and chatting in the moonlight .
we went to bed had more fun slept and in the morning had more fun and a relaxed time before he headed off.
 
blew my budget by remains a memorable night

That is true about some guys getting sensitive right after they cum. Best to ask before if you are planning on a long oral session.

Like quill pen, standard transmission, wood stove, black and white tv.

Well, shit happens.

Sort of like the distinction between masseur and masseuse. The latter frequently misused.

Is it because there tends to be more wear and tear on a bottom?

I personally find the complete opposite! It seems like everyone I consider seems to be versatile/bottom, versatile/top or just plan versatile. The few true tops don't seem to have the Daddy's Reviews seal of approval by other members! ? I realize my tastes are a particular niche group but I suspect geography might have something to do with it. Back in my younger days people on both coasts used to claim that "All the tops live in NY and all the bottoms live in SF!" In my general region all seem to be some variation of versatile. I always seem to live in the wrong place at the wrong time. ?