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I appreciate the importance of sharing information, especially to avoid scams of various kinds and certainly to avoid physically dangerous situations. At the same time, one concern I have about inviting people to critique escorts on an anonymous forum is that there is no vetting process and in most cases no opportunity to hear “the other side of the story.” This really does not seem fair when someone’s livelihood is on the line and his reputation can be sullied by gossip or innuendo. I believe there have been incidents in the past where clients and/or escorts have joined the forum simply to cause trouble, making false claims to hurt someone’s business, whether out of a rivalry with a competitor or a misguided attempt to “get back” at someone who rejected their requests or offended them in some minor way. I know it’s not your intent to create some kind of “all out bitch fest,” but I think we need to tread carefully here.
 
Having said all that, I don’t mind saying that I would personally avoid “Sexy Mega Pornstar Brodie Sinclair” who claims to be “Rentmensfinest.” IMHO, discretion is the number one rule in this business, and he has demonstrably transgressed it. https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/escort-outs-conde-nasts-cfo.106197/ In addition, he is reputed to be “batshit crazy.” https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/does-rm-have-a-responsibility-to-block-ads-from-people-like-brodie-sinclair.110665/#post-1041585 So yeah, he’s probably one to avoid.

While Hollinghurst’s novels are fundamentally literary rather than pornographic, there are certainly explicit sections, and I've really enjoyed everything I've read of his; most recently, The Spell and The Line of Beauty. I can also recommend Reinaldo Arenas. Before Night Falls gives a frank assessment of gay life in Castro’s Cuba, including a fair amount of gay sex.

I think you should apologize to your partner about not being open and honest with him about your extra-curricular affairs. But I don’t think you should apologize for having them. IMHO, celibacy is not a reasonable demand to make in a relationship; honesty is.
 
After you have apologized and given him some time and space, he will hopefully back down on the threats and instead become open to a more constructive dialogue. If he insists on divorce, I would not assume it will all be on his terms, at least not without speaking to a family law attorney in your state.

I'm not sure I'm getting your point. Is it the darndest thing because he was annoyed that you cancelled on short notice or that he thought his time was important?

I think you should apologize to your partner about not being open and honest with him about your extra-curricular affairs. But I don’t think you should apologize for having them. IMHO, celibacy is not a reasonable demand to make in a relationship; honesty is.
 
After you have apologized and given him some time and space, he will hopefully back down on the threats and instead become open to a more constructive dialogue. If he insists on divorce, I would not assume it will all be on his terms, at least not without speaking to a family law attorney in your state.

I think you should apologize to your partner about not being open and honest with him about your extra-curricular affairs. But I don’t think you should apologize for having them. IMHO, celibacy is not a reasonable demand to make in a relationship; honesty is.
 
After you have apologized and given him some time and space, he will hopefully back down on the threats and instead become open to a more constructive dialogue. If he insists on divorce, I would not assume it will all be on his terms, at least not without speaking to a family law attorney in your state.

I think you should apologize to your partner about not being open and honest with him about your extra-curricular affairs. But I don’t think you should apologize for having them. IMHO, celibacy is not a reasonable demand to make in a relationship; honesty is.
 
After you have apologized and given him some time and space, he will hopefully back down on the threats and instead become open to a more constructive dialogue. If he insists on divorce, I would not assume it will all be on his terms, at least not without speaking to a family law attorney in your state.

I think you should apologize to your partner about not being open and honest with him about your extra-curricular affairs. But I don’t think you should apologize for having them. IMHO, celibacy is not a reasonable demand to make in a relationship; honesty is.
 
After you have apologized and given him some time and space, he will hopefully back down on the threats and instead become open to a more constructive dialogue. If he insists on divorce, I would not assume it will all be on his terms, at least not without speaking to a family law attorney in your state.

I think you should apologize to your partner about not being open and honest with him about your extra-curricular affairs. But I don’t think you should apologize for having them. IMHO, celibacy is not a reasonable demand to make in a relationship; honesty is.
 
After you have apologized and given him some time and space, he will hopefully back down on the threats and instead become open to a more constructive dialogue. If he insists on divorce, I would not assume it will all be on his terms, at least not without speaking to a family law attorney in your state.

I think you'll find a lot of value to participating in the forum but you might want to wait longer than a few weeks to make that determination.
 
Also, clients won't always tell you how they found out about you or where they've checked you out. That's OK - that's their business.
 
To me, the value of participating in this forum comes from the change to be part of the community. This is a chance to let folks know who you are and what you're about.

Yes. He sent them an email with another name and then I chatted with the guard; she didn't give me any trouble.
 
The amazing thing is that they would presume to ask for that AND that people would give it to them.
I refuse to give my doctor's office some things.
Businesses ask for all sorts of information that they don't need to provide service and is none of their business.

Although it has to be experienced to understand it, Mike Gaite's ad on Rentmen is the most singularly accurate description I've ever seen. [i think I may have been part of his self-description text].
 
He is exactly as he describes himself ... well, at least with me he is. Thank goodness we live a far way apart, or he could become a very expensive habit.

Lol, I never understood the last one. Flicking someone off looks cute in theory, but never for an ad. Unless it means "I will fuck you" versus simple "fuck you/fuck off".
 
In addition to your above terms, things like alpha seem to be popular terms too. However, some guys take the alpha thing too far. I had a friend overuse the word so much to describe any and every beefy/chubby guy he could find...that I only want to hear the word to be used to describe the actual Alpha and Omega....not used to describe a random guy who goes camping and doesn't wear deodorant.

https://rentmen.com/JakeWetmoreXXX

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Don't miss Alexander. He is yum yum yum. Although my all time favorite with videos is Tristan Baldwin.

Lots of things are harmful, but I disagree with the prudes that porn is any worse. Likely the food ads bombarding TV are worse in that they get the couch potatoes to raid the fridge... again. In Asian countries like China, there is now an obesity problem that didn't exist two generations before thanks to all of the advertising. A network like Fox News is harmful with all of that Trump trash talk and fear mongering that, in turn, prompts increased medication and an increased need for those Cialis ads since the typical TV addict can never find the "right" time.
 
Everybody is unique, as Mister Rogers on PBS taught us.
 
Some like a lot of structure in their lives. They won't cook anything as an experiment. It must be by the book. Instructions are key. Porno movies may be instructions to some since so many of them are repetitive.
 
Some of us got bored with Saturday morning TV after seeing Scooby Doo run past the same stock trees, backgrounds and display the same recycled animation of moving legs in episode after episode... just as the pre-Baby Boomers got sick of seeing a cowboy hop on a horse for the twentieth time and gallop after a stagecoach. Since there were so many westerns made from the 1910s through the '50s with pretty much the same plot (just as every cartoon TV show in the 1970s and '80s had pretty much the same plot), I remember an interview with researchers working with the American Film Institute complaining about falling sleep while watching each feature that needed documented in print.
 
Then there are sports. Unless you are emotionally involved with a certain team playing the SuperBowl, it is all about guys chasing after a ball and numbers changing on the screen.
 
Ditto seeing everybody jump to The Basic Actions in BOTH hetero and same sex porn. Especially now with the internet video extracts focusing on The Goods with no build up or fore play.
 
There was an interesting time after nudist documentaries like The Raw Ones (1965) removed the fig leaf and gradually you saw the first mainstream porno films actually sport storylines so that the lawyers defending the producers could argue their right to be shown in public theaters in the name of Art (i.e. as long as they wear clothes and talk during the film too). This was the era that begot The Devil And Miss Jones, Adam & Yves (in which we even got descriptive narration during all of the man on man action) and The Opening of Misty Beethoven. Once VHS came in, the fast forward button was put to use. The lazy viewers just wanted to get to The Goods, which... let's be honest here... still pretty much looks the same close-up despite differing body types and sizes. As with a B budget western. you can only watch a man mount a horse so many times.
 
In regards to those articles listed, the problem is more with individual younger men raised with computers almost since birth having too much available on their laptops and iphones to watch and suffering from the same problem as sports addicts.

In addition to things others have mentioned, I like the POV or “point of view” camera angle, which makes it easier to imagine oneself in the scene.
 
I apologize as this is a bit of a side note, but this thread got me thinking about the purpose and effects of pornography itself. I’ve seen a number of articles recently suggesting that it may be harmful to mental health and sexual function. http://www.nytimes.com/2016/07/08/fashion/mens-style/anti-internet-porn-addict.html?_r=0, http://www.theatlantic.com/politics/archive/2016/04/porn-culture/477099/
 
I suspect much of this is just a cover for moral prudishness, but I suppose it’s possible that there’s a grain of truth in it…at least in the sense that watching a lot of porn may have some negative influence on one’s real-life sexual encounters. For example, I find that I tend to push the sequence of things into the typical order shown in porn scenes, with a focus on the climatic moment, just as in porn. It is a struggle for me to get out of this pattern and be more spontaneous, to enjoy the moment, instead of thinking of the next step in working towards the ultimate “goal” of climax. I strongly suspect these mental processing issues are related to all porn I’ve watched, which my brain is probably trying to subconsciously imitate.

See photo #2 in his ad

I agree with dutchmuch - super nice guys and accommodating!

I hadn’t really been following this thread, but just the other day I was thinking, “Where is QTR? I haven’t heard from her in weeks. I miss her posts.” Well, here she is again, and I, for one, am glad. I also believe that the administrators of this site have made clear that women are welcome here, so I don’t think it’s really fair to suggest that this forum is just for gay and bisexual men (even though most of us probably are).
 
I do tend to agree with you that people should be considered innocent until proven guilty, but I think reasonable people can disagree about how far to take this concept. Certainly, in this country, the State is supposed to prove that someone is guilty beyond a reasonable doubt before sending the person to jail. But if the State can’t meet this burden, that doesn’t mean the accused person is innocent. The accusations might be false, or they might be true, but without sufficient corroborating evidence to secure a conviction. In this situation, I try to assume the person is innocent because I think trying to guess at the truth based on inconclusive evidence is unfair to the accused and would leave him/her vulnerable to general prejudices I may hold, even if unconsciously. On the other hand, I have to admit there is something to saying, “where there’s smoke, there’s fire.” Suspicions and rumors and circumstantial evidence may not be reliable enough to justify jailing someone, but they may be enough to reverse the burden of proof in some people’s minds, if not in a courtroom. This may be unfair and have unfortunate consequences if the person was falsely accused, but it’s not crazy or irrational.

Regardless of his crime, are you seriously condoning this kind of vigilante prison violence?

There has been quite a lot of speculation about that, but I suppose you would have to ask the feds to know their rationale (assuming they have one, which is a rather generous assumption I think). Maybe it was simply easier for them to collect evidence against RB than others to suggest they were illegally promoting prostitution. Carrying a business card that said “cyberpimp” probably didn’t help the website’s owner. Or, maybe they decided to go after the largest site to have the biggest impact with the minimum cost. Or, maybe this was just a trial balloon, and if they’re successful in this prosecution, they’ll be going after other websites next. Just another reason to contribute to the legal defense fund as far as I’m concerned. http://www.companyofmen.org/threads/heres-a-way-to-voice-your-outrage-over-the-shutdown-of-the-rentboy-website.109618/