I always have the escort to my place so I meet him at the door. Then I will greet and most often we will kiss (but not 100%). I will take his coat and put it on a chair. I ask him to sit on the couch. On the cocktail table I will various nibbly things (cheese/crackers, olives, nuts). Then I will ask if he wants anything to drink. The hard stuff I will already have out so that I just have to get the ice from the bucket. Or I will offer the softer sorts of drinks/tonics. Once on the couch we can just start up a casual conversation about this and that. Eventually (and this can be my decision or his decision) it is back to kissing and on to touching. From there it is the rest of the evening. It is never the same but I always have a repertoire that I can rely on.