I'm not really out but more because as an over 30 yo I never really had a reason to let anyone know. Ironically I assumed that people just knew. From what I don't know. I was outed to my family when one of my female friends (who I would bring to family functions because she also accompanied my siblings when we all went on vacations) asked my siblings why they hadn't found a "nice cute guy" for me and that they needed to try harder. I nearly passed out when she much later told me she did that.