Luckily for me I love to rim a guy long, hard, and for a long time. I find that most guys want to fuck after a long rimming session. I guess they know that I would like to open them up to other things but really for me I do not have to fuck. As suggested above, fingering is great and combine that with a nice, long BJ. Things seem to get accomplished. You know I have always assumed that gentlemen will come clean and luckily I have not been disappointed. HOWEVER, as some noted above that may be because I let him know that a rimming by me is going to be a must. I think you will have a great time without insertion.