cougar

OK this trip has been in the works for a month so I’ve probably done too much “research.” Will only hire once or twice so would obvs like to find the best guy for me. Here’s my current wish list (now in addition to the recommendations above) - if you know anything about any of them - I don’t need a full explanation if you are crunched for time - maybe just a yes or no – that would be helpful. Thanks again. And when any of you come to San Francisco I promise to give you EVERYTHING  
https://app.rent.men/HectorHD
https://app.rent.men/Joseleo
https://app.rent.men/ErnestoMaldonado
https://app.rent.men/YordanCuban
https://app.rent.men/Tomasgrazianove
https://app.rent.men/MACHINEFORSE
https://app.rent.men/Andrewjj
https://app.rent.men/APhill
https://app.rent.men/Onlyours_X
https://app.rent.men/BemjaHungBoy
jeez. I seem like a real pig. If only. 

This is common, unless you’ve developed a sexual rapport with them that amplifies the erotic experience over time. I’ve been seeing a young local who will accommodate most of my desires and is a deep kisser, but he’s a little out there in his presentation and I’d be hesitant to be seen with him in public. A taller and more emo provider has now taken up my interests and we are passionate with each other and enjoy being out in public as well. He’s androgynous and even wore a pair of high black riding boots over skinny black jeans to a nice restaurant with me the other night, so I’m certainly not nervous about any flamboyance. He also has a sparkling smile and personality. 
You’re best advised to let the so-so local provider recede into your rear-view mirror and take a chance on someone new and exciting. Refreshing one’s wardrobe is essential.

Just tell him to put on 50 pound of belly fat, dye his hair purple, and grow a beard. Problem solved.

All I have to do is send my pic on Grindr and they block me....that gets rid of it!

I have the opposite problem.  Any time I have tried to post a photo of myself, my computer messages me, "For the love of God and humanity, please don't post yourself"...  LOL

I would not consider your statement that "I suggest early evening" is a firm commitment on the part of either party. Unless the provider came back to you at that time to nail down a time, then you had no date set up. 
It's not surprising that by the next day, he wasn't available. You can't fault him because you were not specific in setting up a time.

Blue contacts , bleached hair? Sounds dreadful. 

Handsome, well built, nicely endowed, no tats or piercings. What the hell's up with this freak?
He seems delicious!

He really turns me on too!! Unfortunately, I’m not in California. But since his ad has only been online for two weeks, you’re not likely to find someone on here who has met him.
I think he’s hot enough to go ahead and try to meet up with him. But I’d proceed with lots of caution. Definitely no deposit for someone this new. If anything sounds fishy, ABORT!! Lol. If I was in California, I’d take the plunge for you. Lol

I'm stunned, and so incredibly sad.  I haven't been coming to the forum very often lately, and when I did just now, I saw this devastating news. Wayne and I were looking forward to seeing @Epigonos here in Palm Springs next month.  It grieves me to no end that we won't be seeing him again.  But I'm honored that we got to know him for as long as we did.  He was one of a kind, and will definitely be missed.

I’m the opposite - girth trumps length for me. 
 
This! Doesn’t matter how hot the guy is, how “perfect” his dick is - if he doesn’t know what he’s doing with it, and/or, his focus is solely on his pleasure, not yours, it’s not going to be an enjoyable time for the bottom. 
I’m not a sizeist so I’m never looking for a huge one either IRL or this hobby. Like I said above, a proper fat one works for me - I find the feeling of being full, stretched rather pleasurable. However, I have had some rather big boys. Some really didn’t know how best to use their assets, while some others knocked my socks off, so to speak. A general rule of thumb would be, if he’s looking to get in right off the bat with no prelims, no foreplay, that’s not a good harbinger of things to come. Just like a blowjob helps get a top in the mood, a bottom also needs to be put in the mood, and relaxed. Good, intense, passionate foreplay goes a long way in stoking the desires, and getting one to relax to receive. 

Like others have said, whether it’s girth or length you’re looking for, best way to prepare to enjoy them is practice, practice, practice. Whether it’s toys or cocks - think of it like Russian nesting dolls in reverse. Start small, and move up a notch when there’s no difficulty or pain with the size you’re using. 

Also, make sure you’re fully clean - nothing extreme just warm water douching. I only add this as I know the worry -however slight- that one isn’t clean enough can inhibit one’s enjoyment. 

Finally, never, ever forget that lube is your friend! Use as much as you need to, and reapply as often as you need to! 

Of course, it goes without saying that in this hobby, always check the gents references. Whether that’s here in the Deli, or with other hobbyists you know who also know the gent, look to find someone who can attest to his skills or lack thereof. 

Good luck!
BBD 

Yes, that is what you do. I also have Google Voice (free) and that is what I use to chat and text. Once I have met them, I might give my actual cell number. 

Yes, that is what you do. I also have Google Voice (free) and that is what I use to chat and text. Once I have met them, I might give my actual cell number. 

Get a google voice number. It protects you from all of the crazies out there!

If you're married...always keep a burner phone handy.

I live in the south, in a major metropolitan city. I actually don’t find the southern fratty preppy guys to be all that attractive. Southern girls are very pretty and demure, but the guys, not to my taste. But then again I prefer the exotic type guys with dark features. Like the ones you’d find in northern new jersey or nyc, or miami.

I love the look of the guys in smaller towns with a large university.  For example, I like the preppie look of the guys in Oxford Mississippi.  

Miami: a city of 10s looking for 12s.

Maybe 20 minutes is something you need to work up to with this guy…  You should send him a photo of your floaties in a tub and pick things up with him again.

AKA "unemployed".

did look up scalawag/scallywag for clarification.....I'd forgotten this origin:
a white Southerner who collaborated with northern Republicans during Reconstruction, often for personal profit. The term was used derisively by white Southern Democrats who opposed Reconstruction legislation.

...If they are lurking, they ain't gonna reply!

The bod doesn't look 29!