BonVivant

My honest advice:  DO NOT DO IT….  This is a very heavy legal and emotional lift. I have done it. Worst experience of my life. (I had my head in the clouds. Thought I loved him. I was in love with idea of being in love).  And the main reason you should not go down this path: you do not love him. 

If you go down this road - you are 100% responsible for ALL of his needs until he becomes self-sufficient. Especially if you marry. Then during the marriage he has 100% access to everything you have. A prenup is only in case of breakup. 
 
I hope you fully understand all of the ramifications.  Please carefully consider all angles. 

I live is Southern California, North Orange County, where there are many hiring options.  Nowadays I prefer entertaining escorts in my home and thus don't have to drive into L.A. or West Hollywood.  Considering the above I DEFINITELY prefer hiring local guys.  As I have aged I also prefer repeat engagements which are much easier to arrange with local guys.  I currently have two local guys that I see on a somewhat regular basis.  The only visiting escort I get together with is Tristan Baldwin but then he is very, very special. 

I like to do both. On the one hand, locals often can become nice regulars that you can build a good rapport with. But then you do sometimes see them out in public or whatever which can be awkward.
Traveling escorts are great as well because they can be more available during the day (which is when I can often meet up). One thing I sometimes like to do with a traveling escort is have a bit of a longer session if I can afford it. That way it makes it a bit more worth their time to make sure everything is good for you. Plus I sometimes have been able to have nice company for dinner or a theater event or something and that makes it special too.

I tend to hire visitors as well.  I'm less likely to run into them at the mall, and I get bored with the locals.  Their is something exciting about hiring someone new who won't be here tomorrow.
However, there is a major con.  A good looking visitor is more likely to be overbooked to the point that they cannot perform.  While a good provider should show more restraint, that is often not the case.
I've met two in the past year that normally have 5-star reviews and one is even favorably reviewed here, but neither could keep UP, if you know what I mean.

Like masturbation I heard they could cause blindness. NOT

My honest advice:  DO NOT DO IT….  This is a very heavy legal and emotional lift. I have done it. Worst experience of my life. (I had my head in the clouds. Thought I loved him. I was in love with idea of being in love).  And the main reason you should not go down this path: you do not love him. 

If you go down this road - you are 100% responsible for ALL of his needs until he becomes self-sufficient. Especially if you marry. Then during the marriage he has 100% access to everything you have. A prenup is only in case of breakup. 
 
I hope you fully understand all of the ramifications.  Please carefully consider all angles. 

My honest advice:  DO NOT DO IT….  This is a very heavy legal and emotional lift. I have done it. Worst experience of my life. (I had my head in the clouds. Thought I loved him. I was in love with idea of being in love).  And the main reason you should not go down this path: you do not love him. 

If you go down this road - you are 100% responsible for ALL of his needs until he becomes self-sufficient. Especially if you marry. Then during the marriage he has 100% access to everything you have. A prenup is only in case of breakup. 
 
I hope you fully understand all of the ramifications.  Please carefully consider all angles. 

Color me suspicious.  If you look closely, his head and neck seem to have a different complexion from the rest of his body.  The one negative review comments:
"one of the worst experiences he had with a scort, he has false photos that are not his, you do nothing with him, he is only interested in money.
Authentic catfish that stole your money"

My honest advice:  DO NOT DO IT….  This is a very heavy legal and emotional lift. I have done it. Worst experience of my life. (I had my head in the clouds. Thought I loved him. I was in love with idea of being in love).  And the main reason you should not go down this path: you do not love him. 

If you go down this road - you are 100% responsible for ALL of his needs until he becomes self-sufficient. Especially if you marry. Then during the marriage he has 100% access to everything you have. A prenup is only in case of breakup. 
 
I hope you fully understand all of the ramifications.  Please carefully consider all angles. 

Prenup. Prenup. Prenup. Prenup. 

I'd tend to agree.  
Having been to all of their events at some point, the Berlin show was by far the most debaucherous. 
HustlaBall Vegas has always been just an S&M event:  STAND AND MODEL.

I had a somewhat similar experience many decades ago but with one striking difference. The young man was from Switzerland, a country as developed and rich as Canada. Also another distinction vwas that we had lived together in Switzerland for over two years before he moved to Canada with me.
But he only had a high school education and had a decent job and would have gone forward in it had he stayed. 
Marriage wasn't van option then so he came on a student visa and enrolled in a community college, which I paid for. The tuition was high as an international student. I also bought him a car. I paid him a monthly allowance and I picked up all the bills. In short, it wasn't cheap 
The relationship lasted less than a year. He was homesick for all his friends he had left behind and his family. He wasn't interested in my friends who were 10 to 15 years older and only made friends with one or two from college. 
His English was passable but not what I would call completely bilingual. His mother tongue was French but he found French Canadian pronunciation difficult.
I don't regret the experience. He was the only live-in lover I have had, 4 years in all. But I never repeated it.

So true! It is an effort but it can pay off when you find the right fella. Going on my first trip with a foreign student I met a few weeks ago. Our first date was a quiet dinner. Second date was dinner at my place. This coming week, work is sending me out of town. It was cheaper to fly out early so I booked a flight for today (Saturday morning) so I could enjoy the city over the weekend. Flights were so cheap, I offered him the opportunity to join me and he thought it was a great idea. Hoping for a great weekend. He asks very little - time and affection. How can I say no? 😁

Meet him in the lobby. No decent provider will have a problem meeting you in the lobby. Also it’s unlikely he will create a scene in the lobby when you tell him the meeting will not happen because he deceived you.
If clients ask to meet me in the lobby I’m happy to do so. I dress professionally and don’t turn up with “hey I’m a sex worker” written all over me so to speak! I’ve sat in the lobby of many top end hotels in London waiting for my client to appear. It’s actually quite fun to watch people and wonder who will approach me.
And I think you did the right thing to report him to the website. 

I travel a lot and stay at a lot of different chain hotels in different cities and different countries.  
Over the past several years, most large hotels now require a key card to gain access to a room or to use the hotel elevator. 
Without such a card, a provider could not gain access to a clients room.  The provider would have to be escorted up from the lobby.  
This means that the client would have to go to the lobby or first floor elevator to personally bring the provider to the room.  
If the provider is using fake photos of a different person and the client went to the lobby to bring him to the room, how would the client know who the faker is considering fake photos were used in the ad?   
How would the fake provider know who the client is?
Hotels with elevator key card requirements are a good way for protection from fake photo providers.  
Any ideas about how a provider could get to a client's room without a card key for the elevator?
 

I never let anyone come directly to my room the first time I see them until after I have confirmed they are indeed the person in the photo.  I'm very straight forward when I book them and say I will meet them in the lobby or coffee shop/bar and if they are the same person in the ad great, we will go right up to my room, if they are not, they will be asked to leave.  I always do it where there is someone around so they will not be tempted to throw a punch or something.  YOU have to control the situation, don't let them bully you.

Had this happen before, but went ahead with anyway. I made sure I was extra rough during the encounter to make a point that I didn’t appreciate the deception. 😈

He’s mixed. Says so in the profile. 

Here’s another Mr. Belly Ache: https://rent.men/Dimimick
“oh me oh my, I’m starving, need to pay rent. Send me $30 today and I’ll see you Tuesday”. 👌🏽
 
Avoid…..

..and that’s fine. I think clients oftentimes forget the pandemic is ongoing, and while the severity of the situation is a stark contrast from what it was, I take my health and the health and well-being of my clients very seriously. I was very transparent per “the why” (congregating around the holidays, wasn’t feeling my best), to which I got an “oh man,” not a “feel better.” I could have allowed you to hire me and underperformed had you preferred? 
 
If I had to choose, I much prefer one not attempt to hire me again because they were mildly inconvenienced and not because I underperformed while ill. Choices. In any event, I hope you found a suitable replacement. x

I would have hired him in Chicago, except that he makes clear in the ad that he won't kiss.

"Top" ?
I always expect the "barely legal" look to all be bottoms 🍑

As a provider I get where he’s coming from. If he’s a regular at this point, I think communication is always key to getting things across. Try letting him know you enjoy seeing him and you’ll contact him when you’re ready to meet. It’s no harm, cause you’re not rejecting him you’re simply letting him know you’ll be in touch. 

Just gently telling him to stop texting you and you’ll reach out when you’re ready lmao. 
 
But seriously you’re running into a problem a lot of us have had at least once. I had one guy that hit me up all the time and it got annoying. Honestly I think I was the one being used for sex but I was the one paying. I had to just tell him I wasn’t interested anymore. Try just telling him you’d rather be the one reaching out. Some providers I’ve seen may send me a text every now and then just to say hello or tell me their travel plans just so they’re on my radar which is ok with me.  Remember this is a business for them and It’s another way they advertise and keep you interested. However you have to do what’s comfortable for you. If you prefer to do the contacting let him know.

I’m thinking about it.