thedanNYC

Fixed it for the cool kids.

They actually expected the market to be the same in Berlin as it is in Zurich? That's so interesting to me. Not even the price of water is comparable in those two cities.

Too much drama for nothing.
Talking about stereotyping, who said that most gays have mannerisms associated with femininity? That is an old prejudice, from the old times when the only visible homosexuals were the ones fitting the mainstream stereotype. Nowadays we should know better.
But then, again, perhaps they are correct if you think of the difference between "gay" and "homosexual".

I couldn't last 30 seconds watching that video. Am I crabby?

Don't do it.
You're in your 40s, you're independent, and you don't need any headaches. There's so many ways this could go wrong, so why take the risk? So that he doesn't have to feel uncomfortable by living with his own family? He's 24, he can move back home and deal with it.
Just don't do it.

The important thing would be to not have any mail to that person at that address, no drivers' license or voter registration, etc....nothing. but even then having clothes, etc there would be an indication of residence. 
unfortunately it usually becomes a matter of having to allege personal violence to have a chance of getting someone else out who's been staying at your place. this is something police deal with everyday. they will rarely force someone out without a court order. 

Don't do it.
You're in your 40s, you're independent, and you don't need any headaches. There's so many ways this could go wrong, so why take the risk? So that he doesn't have to feel uncomfortable by living with his own family? He's 24, he can move back home and deal with it.
Just don't do it.

How romantic.

Or don't do it. What if he doesn't want to (or feels like he can't) leave after the trial run/tenancy is supposed to end? Do you want to deal with an eviction?
 
I will fight anyone who tries to rationalize this bad decision for @7829V 🤪

Would you be so quick to help if he wasn’t in his 20’s and cute?
I know lots of nice 80 year olds who could use a helping hand.
Just saying….let’s not get too self righteous. 
 
 

Don't do it.
You're in your 40s, you're independent, and you don't need any headaches. There's so many ways this could go wrong, so why take the risk? So that he doesn't have to feel uncomfortable by living with his own family? He's 24, he can move back home and deal with it.
Just don't do it.

Don't do it.
You're in your 40s, you're independent, and you don't need any headaches. There's so many ways this could go wrong, so why take the risk? So that he doesn't have to feel uncomfortable by living with his own family? He's 24, he can move back home and deal with it.
Just don't do it.

Or don't do it. What if he doesn't want to (or feels like he can't) leave after the trial run/tenancy is supposed to end? Do you want to deal with an eviction?
 
I will fight anyone who tries to rationalize this bad decision for @7829V 🤪

Don't do it.
You're in your 40s, you're independent, and you don't need any headaches. There's so many ways this could go wrong, so why take the risk? So that he doesn't have to feel uncomfortable by living with his own family? He's 24, he can move back home and deal with it.
Just don't do it.

Don't do it.
You're in your 40s, you're independent, and you don't need any headaches. There's so many ways this could go wrong, so why take the risk? So that he doesn't have to feel uncomfortable by living with his own family? He's 24, he can move back home and deal with it.
Just don't do it.

Well, all ages and types might be allowed to enter. But whether non-six-pack-20s will be particularly welcomed is a different story... The answer is "not likely" more often than not, even at regular gay clubs. That is unless those non-six-pack-20s intend to mack on other non-six-pack-20s.
 
To be honest, I think people (of all ages and types) who have to ask that type of question at all should probably not bother going to circuit parties (or perhaps even regular club nights). That'll save them some grief because their idea of having a good time hinges too much on getting attention and validation from other partygoers. Instead, they're likely better off going to parties/gatherings that are clearly aimed at attracting the tribe they think they fit in well with (e.g., bears, daddies, leather, etc.).

Well, all ages and types might be allowed to enter. But whether non-six-pack-20s will be particularly welcomed is a different story... The answer is "not likely" more often than not, even at regular gay clubs. That is unless those non-six-pack-20s intend to mack on other non-six-pack-20s.
 
To be honest, I think people (of all ages and types) who have to ask that type of question at all should probably not bother going to circuit parties (or perhaps even regular club nights). That'll save them some grief because their idea of having a good time hinges too much on getting attention and validation from other partygoers. Instead, they're likely better off going to parties/gatherings that are clearly aimed at attracting the tribe they think they fit in well with (e.g., bears, daddies, leather, etc.).

I have sort of aged out of the "gay community," but I am maintaining my membership card, because I worked hard to earn it, and I still drop into the social center at times. It's sort of like my membership in my college alumni association: I make regular donations and read the publications, but I rarely attend events anymore.

Sounds like someone in their office is on this forum and read my previous post.

I consider myself lucky to have friends and colleagues who are not so self-centered and narcissistic to believe that they are entitled to demand that the world learn to use made up words to refer to them. But if I ever encounter such a person, I would simply never refer to them using pronouns. I would just always refer to them by name. 

It sounds to me like everything happened exactly as expected.

First, I think that you need to completely disregard their claims for your risk assessment. Whether they claim to be HIV Negative, Pos/Undetectable, or a virgin, you should assume, for the purposes of your decision making process, that they're HIV+ with a high viral load. Horny people lie. Or, they are unaware that they're infected.
So, your actions should be based on the assumption that everyone you have sex with is HIV+ and act accordingly. PrEP has proven to be very effective, but the risk is not zero. Condoms further reduce that risk, but they're imperfect, too. If your risk tolerance is truly zero, you shouldn't have sex with anyone.
 

I consider myself lucky to have friends and colleagues who are not so self-centered and narcissistic to believe that they are entitled to demand that the world learn to use made up words to refer to them. But if I ever encounter such a person, I would simply never refer to them using pronouns. I would just always refer to them by name. 

I consider myself lucky to have friends and colleagues who are not so self-centered and narcissistic to believe that they are entitled to demand that the world learn to use made up words to refer to them. But if I ever encounter such a person, I would simply never refer to them using pronouns. I would just always refer to them by name.