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I love to kiss. The two best dates of my limited dating life both involved long sessions of kissing and stroking without any actual sex. But if I am having sex I prefer to cum. I did read a letter-possibly a Penthouse letter years ago. The guy said he had found out that if he was a little bit buzzed from alcohol, he could stay hard forever and not cum. He said he liked to cum. But he described cumming as dessert. And that sometimes he was satisfied with a meal without dessert. Gman

I think some guys are made to bottom and some guys can learn to like bottoming. But I doubt everyone is made to bottom just like not everyone is made to top. A roommate of mine when I was 21 had a stash of gay magazines. I wasn’t sure what to think. When I confronted him, he said someone had given them to him, and he wasn’t gay. But more to the point I read a fiction story in one of them. It was about a ship about to cross the equator, and one of the young sailors was worried about what happens to guys on their first equatorial passage. Well he needn’t have been. The captain told him he was going to protect him and make him his boy. He introduced him to the joy of gay sex. That was the first time I really read about bottoming. And I was immediately put off by it. Twelve years later and still 8 years before I ever had sex I went out to eat at a Chinese restaurant one night. Before the food came I went to the necessary room to take a leak. I got back to the table, and thought ‘how funny’ because I felt like I needed to take a leak again. The following morning I woke up with this incredible burning pain-some of the worst pain of my entire life-that started right above the base of my penis and extended down the shaft. That pain with an occasional remission lasted almost every day for about two months. At one point my urine stream was decreased to the point that I almost couldn’t pee. The urologist thought that maybe I had a urethral stricture forming from a childhood injury. I had to undergo a cystoscopy where they used a rigid telescope thru my urethra into my bladder. They didn’t find a stricture. But he said my bladder was inflamed. The diagnosis for all this was prostatitis. For years I would have flare ups of pelvic pain-some minor and some more major. In addition for years I would hurt for at least several days, if not more, after prostate exams by the urologist. Lately the prostate exams don’t usually cause me days of pain anymore. But I sometimes still get pelvic pain after cuming. I had never wanted to bottom to begin with. In fact among multiple other issues (like not wanting to be gay to begin with) the thought of bottoming was one factor that kept me away from gay sex for so long. But I also figured years ago that if a doctor gently pushing on my prostate could cause me days of pain, I definitely didn’t want anyone deliberately trying to hit it. Gman

I most likely would have been familiar with him back then. Even if he was a top only there’s a good chance I would have at least looked at his ad. But the name doesn’t bring up a mental picture for me. Gman

I used to be fairly familiar with the Dallas escorts. But while the name sounds vaguely familiar, your description of him doesn’t. How long ago was this? Gman

All I know is that the naked revealing pictures of Giallo don’t seem to show a tattoo that his less revealing pictures show. And Mr. Ground’s profile is expired. Gman

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5nMrIjBBov8 Gman

Is he smoking a doobie in one of ththe pictures? Gman

Yeah I’m still not totally understanding whatever point he’s trying to make. Gman

Rules can occasionally be broken with impunity. So I hope this is one of those times. Gman

It sounds like it was at least an overnight hire if not a weekend equivalent. Really in general how much communication for normal details does there need to be? It would be very unusual for an extended session like that to only take place in the bedroom. I’m definitely willing to give the escort the bye on not wanting to meet with @Reluctant Daddy’s friends. But you really seem to be bending over backward to make it all Daddy’s fault with the escort blameless. Gman

Assuming this Killian, is KILLIAN JAMES, I’m not sure I really understand his post unless he’s comparing himself to Mr. Sheen. You must have missed his meltdown(s) or possibly you don’t care. Gman

I’m of two minds. I’m willing to give the escort a bye for not wanting to meet @Reluctant Daddy’s friends. I understand how that could be difficult. But @Reluctant Daddy said the escort in question also bolted after restaurant meals when they were dining alone. If we assume that @Reluctant Daddy is an averagely discreet person, as I would hope most of us on here are, then that’s totally unacceptable behavior by the escort. And unless the escort in question lets clients know that the only activities they can count on him for are in the bedroom, then he needs to find a new line of work. Gman

I have to agree with you here, @KennF. As often happens in these discussions, the pendulum seems to slowly (or sometimes not so slowly) swing to the side of the escort-i.e. the client must have done something wrong. This is especially prominent when someone has ‘picked on’ another member’s favorite. I’m sorry-people of different ages associate with each other all the time. I have a Facebook friend, the father of three. He’s currently in NYC with the two oldest-a girl and a boy at least one of the children is probably 21 and the other is close to it. If he goes out without his husband, and is alone with his son is everybody going to think the young incredibly handsome son is an escort (although to be truthful the Dad is really handsome too). Years ago I took one of my nieces-probably 20 years old at the time out for lunch when I was visiting the city she went to college in. I’m a fat bald guy and a subordinate of mine saw a picture of my niece once and asked whether she was a model. So did I have to be her sugar daddy just because we were having lunch together? Sure we-esp in our gay community at large and esp in this one -might wonder at seeing an attractive lad with an older gent, but it could be a father/son, actual Uncle/nephew, grandfather/grandson, or a boss/employee as just some examples. Gman

It’s always been surprising to me, considering how long he has been escorting, that if his pictures were accurate, how few reviews he has had over the years. I guess from what people are saying it’s because the pictures aren’t accurate, and he’s not a great escort. Gman

I guess it’s a good thing I’m not hiring anymore. I’d hate for him to fall in love with my full-figured hairy physique. Gman

A very sad circumstance for all of us tops out here in Forum Land. Gman

Who are these two lovebirds? Gman

On re-reading this -does ‘giving up your secret place’ mean you actually bottomed? Gman

Not bad. I like this one too. I was upset that I could never find it on iTunes. Gman

That’s my preferred position for topping except I have them either lift their legs or rest them on my shoulders (and boy are they heavy at times). That way I can hopefully lean over for kissing and stroking them while I’m inside them. Unfortunately I’m so underendowed I often slip out, but one does what one can. Gman

I just googled Flex Spa Bathhouse Atlanta https://www.flexspas.com/ Gman

Well even for the survival of our species, I’m not putting my tallywacker in there. I hope you can. Gman

I often have trouble topping even non-bodybuilders as I’m underendowed. But what I’ve noticed, because I’ve had to, is that some guys’ anuses are slightly more forward positioned. And some guys are a bit more backwards. I usually find it slightly easier to top the forward guys. Gman

He’s not my type at all. But I hope you have a stellar time. Gman

Over the years I’ve seen very occasional dry spells in Chicago. But normally I’d say it’s been one of the better places to hire. The ‘wasteland’ comments always seemed to me to be more of ‘the grass is always greener...’ type of comment. I mean people have made these same types of comments about both NYC and LA. Gman