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I think that one reason @peterhung85 might have trouble understanding is that when he is off the clock, if he’s not totally tired of sex, he can probably get sex just about anytime he wants it. Many of us who hire can’t. As for the Plan B, that can be very difficult to work out the logistics. I mean say you want to meet at the specific time. Well say the stars align, and Derek actually shows up. How do you cancel on Plan B Person so that it doesn’t hurt his business. I mean you could decide to pay Plan B Person if you have to cancel on him-and that would be fair. But this hobby is expensive, and rates seem to be increasing faster than the cost of living. So a lot of people probably can’t afford to do that. Gman

I think if I were squeamish I never would have had sex. Gman

I’m probably a prude. On second thought there’s no probably about it. I don’t mean to offend any of our members who have one-but vaginas never offered any attraction to me. The idea of inserting -and for the sake of this discussion I’ll use the term-my penis into one grossed me out. On the other hand, if I were to think too much about topping into an asshole-I can do it. But it’s definitely not the most aesthetically pleasing thing I can think of. I do kind of get turned on watching porn where someone is being topped. But I get totally turned off when they show rimming or someone continually fingering themselves or playing with ‘toys’. Now back to @TylerandAce’s recent experience. I think I’ve mentioned that I don’t watch a lot of porn. I was familiar with Tyler before he and Ace became partners but not intimately. However considering he was a former pornstar, I’m going to assume his tallywacker is more than a mouthful. And I know from direct experience (by sight only-I am a top) that Ace’s tallywacker is definitely more than a mouthful or two even. (Ace’ s beginning career as an escort coincided with my last few hires, and I was lucky enough to spend a weekend with him when he was 1st starting out. If I hadn’t been so used to be being ‘outclassed’ in the endowment department by the escorts I hired, looking at the size of his endowment would’ve majorly depressed me.) So with the size(s) of @TylerandAce in mind, I’m going to venture to say that the young man of the couple that they recently entertained had not just occasionally bottomed before but was most likely fairly experienced at it-or was accustomed to using large dildos (?dildoes) frequently because I don’t think either a virgin ass or someone who had only been topped once or twice would have been able to handle them. Gman

http://www.themoviescene.co.uk/reviews/_img/1624-2.jpg That’s Anthony on the left in 1987 -a year or so after the alleged event. He was in the movie Adventures In Babysitting. While he doesn’t look like he’s 6’2”, I’d say he was average sized. Now as to why he didn’t fight back-maybe he thought it was a game. Maybe he was shocked. Maybe he didn’t know what the heck was going on. Who knows what actions went on before. Depending on the party and what happened prior-I could see thinking it might be a game before the attempted humping started. But the main point is, if true, a 26 year old should not have been trying to hump a 14 year old. It doesn’t matter why the 14 year old didn’t resist. Gman

There are lots of causes of dementia. There are drug related-either overmedicated or a bad reaction to drugs. You can have multiple mini strokes which over time can have a cumulative effect. You can have brain damage from injury or cancer. Severe vitamin deficiencies. Certain infections. Etc. Gman

I was involved in drama as youngster. When I was 15, the local university was putting on Camelot. There were 3 pages needed and one young Tom. I think I was the oldest. The other guy in my same class at school was 14 or 15, and I think ‘Tom’ and the remaining page were 13-possibly 14 as it was in the spring. Not that it’s important, but I still remember my one line, “Your majesty, the queen is at the stake!!!! Shall I signal the torch? At the end of the production we -the pages- were invited to the cast party held at the director’s house. So here we were 4 adolescents at a party with a few adults-the director, his wife, maybe a few others from the Theater Dept. and a lot of late teenage or early 20’s college students who were about to get drunk. Not everyone did. But the ‘woman’ who played Morgan Le Fay was very drunk and managed to spill beer on two of us while she was returning from getting us the beer. I guess the point of the story is my parents trusted me. Since I drank beer, maybe they shouldn’t. But even at 15 I knew better than to get drunk. I saved that for my college years. And it’s not like I hadn’t ever had liquor before (did I mention I still love Passover wine?) But I guess what I’m getting at is that children and adolescents are around adults all the time. We need to take precautions for their safety. But really assuming Kevin did it, he could just as easily been a next door neighbor and have the same thing happen. Gman

They still let you drive in your condition? Gman

Most of the escorts I’ve met over the years as well as most of the hook-ups, I have put in my contact list. But I put a Z in front of their last name. For the escorts if I don’t have a last name, I’ll put the city I met them in as their last name. For hook-ups whether I know a last name or not I’ll often add the app I met them on with a hyphen. For example In my contacts Mike Gaite is Mike ZGaite with his phone number listed. Or if I met Harry Smith on Growlr Harry ZSmith-Growlr That way I have all my escorts and hookups in an easy to find place. If someone converts, from a hook-up to an actual friend, I often take the Z out and they are in the contact list where they would normally fall. Another bit of advice for newbies-and you may already be doing this. But while due to switching of phones I probably don’t have my full 14 years of hiring -in my Contacts List, I do have names from at least 5 years. Some of these guys I may have been interested in, but I never actually contacted. Other guys I may have met only once or twice. Notations like @Trick uses are helpful. I never did that. But I wish I had marked down the ones I had never actually met. Of course I know and remember very well the guys I saw multiple times. But in 14 years of hiring, it’s easy to forget the guys you only saw maybe once or twice 4 years ago. The other suggestion I have is to add an innocuous picture to your contact listing of them. When I started hiring, I had a small non-smartphone t-mobile phone which didn’t have a camera. During my last years of hiring I started adding photos to my contacts but not in a consistent manner. So in many cases I might have a listing such as Steve ZNYC-and unfortunately not know who the heck he is or whether we actually met-or if he was just a possible. To summarize: 1. Z’s to collect them all in one place. 2. Pictures to help you remember them years later. 3. A few notes about them to help you remember. Gman

Facially he looks a bit like @Mikegaite . Physique-wise, Mike has more muscle. Gman

I have no idea who either of these people are-I thought she might have been one of Prince Harry’s former girlfriends. But if I’m to assume the guy in this picture is a baseball player, he doesn’t look to be in that great a shape. Gman

Lovely, I’m doomed. On the other hand my parents had a pretty good marriage, and my father still died of Alzheimer’s-more of a euthanasia situation. But he was going steadily downhill over the last month or two. Gman

When I was just a little lad of about two or three years of age, I had stuffed monkey as my plush toy. I named him Junior. That was my favorite name back then. I was sorry it wasn’t my name. I vaguely remember thinking of him as a baby. And over the early kindergarten to early elementary years, I would occasionally think about being married and having children. I’m sorry I don’t have children. But on the other hand, I consider it a blessing. I don’t think I would have been a good father (even if I were the same as I am now, but straight, I don’t think I would have been a good father)-I’m barely taking care of myself now. Some people say they improve with age. Unfortunately for me in many ways-aside from being a bit more accepting of myself being gay- I did better job of taking care of myself when I was younger. While I may not ever be totally at peace being gay, I’m glad that I am so far on the gay scale that I was never able to think about finding a girl and getting married. Better for me to make a mess of my own life singly than to have tried to pass as straight and end up ruining some woman’s life along with any possible children we might have had when I wasn’t able to continue passing anymore. Gman

I just realized that was a baby. :eek:I hadn’t been paying that close of attention. When I first saw this, I thought it was a cake inside the boat. Gman

I’m just agog and aghast that hookups happen in gyms and non bathhouse steamrooms. I can’t ever imagine it happening to me. On the other hand, I have trouble imagining me in a gym too. Gman

I’m just as glad not to know. I’d probably cry at the amount especially since I’ve lost my career and won’t be able to ever recoup. Gman

Tour guides were people I hired to show me around and then after the ‘touring’ was completed, they decided they liked me so much that we had sex. I never hired the non-tour guides at all. Gman

I’m sorry for your loss, @jjkrkwood . Do you mean a vacuum pump for his tallywacker? I hired for about 14 years starting in 2002. In my first five years or so of hiring-and even after, I would from time to time try to list out all the “tour guides” I had hired whom I had had sex with. That would have been all the guys I had sex with as I don’t think I ever had non-tour guide sex until about my 10th year of hiring. Now while I haven’t hired for several years, I’ve probably still had more tour guide than non-tour guide sex in my life. But I can’t remember either all my tour guides or all my non-tour guides. Gman

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I'm sorry about your long night (day) of the soul. I know how I feel when I leave my mother after a long visit. And I'm used to being solo. I can only imagine what it must be like after 18+ years of a full house. I'm glad you are managing to stay busy. Not that you'd be interested in me -in that way-but I'm sorry I'm not nearer so we could have breakfast together. I love breakfast /burritos. Gman

He told me years ago that he doesn't kiss. Gman

http://dl.dropboxusercontent.com/s/iuwhdjolulnd611/File%20Oct%2005%2C%205%2006%2055%20PM.jpeg?dl=0 Gman

Ok I've got a question. He says he's only 6 inches. But I think I'm 5. Why does his tallywacker seem to look so much longer? Is an inch really that much? Mine would never be that visible from the back. On the other hand, if he is larger than 6 then that might go along with this being some sort of fake ad. Gman

He was definitely older when I saw him. The strange thing is that now when I think back 15 years-and just by coincidence October is my loss of virginity month-my recollection of what he looked like is that of a blond Robin Williams although not quite as hairy. My wet dreams would usually disturb me having an erotic dream-most likely just kissing a handsome guy in my dream (is that gay?). When I came, I would unfortunately wake up. Gman

In the interests of full disclosure, I must unfortunately admit that my body is pretty soft. Having a physique like Wimpy from Popeye will do that to you. I do however usually have a beard-and even when clean shaven am at least a little scratchy. But scratchy is all to the good. My neck is one of my erogenous zones. Feeling a man's beard or 5 o'clock shadow on my neck during foreplay usually sends tingles down my body. Gman