Unwanted attention

[myophile]

Hey guys—I usually appreciate when providers visit my RM profile and/or reach out to me, even if that outreach is a “form letter.” But there is one provider who shows up in my RM inbox or Who Saw Me list like every. damn. day. He’s not being creepy or menacing; but he seems unable to take non-response for an answer; and I’m reluctant to engage since he’s pretty thoroughly NOT what I look for in a hire. Would you: 1) block him? 2) gently suggest he direct his outreach elsewhere?

 

He can’t have read my profile, or he’d presumably know that we wouldn’t be a good match.

 

Thoughts?

[+ sniper]

Is it possible he's simply swiping through a list as opposed to closely looking at you? I wouldn't think much of it if he's not actually contacting you. I once got a nasty message in Grindr fro. someone to "stop looking at me" when i was just using the swipe feature to scroll through profiles amd his came up often because he was relatively close

[former lurker]

Hey guys—I usually appreciate when providers visit my RM profile and/or reach out to me, even if that outreach is a “form letter.” But there is one provider who shows up in my RM inbox or Who Saw Me list like every. damn. day. He’s not being creepy or menacing; but he seems unable to take non-response for an answer; and I’m reluctant to engage since he’s pretty thoroughly NOT what I look for in a hire. Would you: 1) block him? 2) gently suggest he direct his outreach elsewhere?

 

He can’t have read my profile, or he’d presumably know that we wouldn’t be a good match.

 

Thoughts?

 

If it bothers you enough, block him. On the plus side, you got and have shared some insight into how escorts must feel about all of the lookers who visit their profiles but never contact them. They've got to be wondering what's up with that, or speculating that some of the visitors are there to get off to their pics.

[+ StLouisOct]

I can’t think of any reason not to block him. His actions bother you. It’s an easy step to take and you can move on.

[+ poolboy48220]

I'd certainly try the "gently suggest he direct his outreach elsewhere" approach first. "Thanks for the interest, but don't think we'd be a good match." If he persists, then block him.

[jjkrkwood]

I have a similar situation from a guy on A4A, and its been going on for years. Its very cordial, non-threatening, but persistent...

 

I have NEVER replied, yet the guy keeps trying.... It does me no harm, and i dont want to hurt his feelings, so i just delete the messages when I get them and move along. I guess it sometimes takes some people longer to get a message ?

[John]

I have a similar situation from a guy on A4A, and its been going on for years. Its very cordial, non-threatening, but persistent...

 

I have NEVER replied, yet the guy keeps trying.... It does me no harm, and i dont want to hurt his feelings, so i just delete the messages when I get them and move along. I guess it sometimes takes some people longer to get a message ?

 

Me too. After a while I did reply saying that I was flattered by his interest, that I was not going to hire him, and that I wished him well. He went away.

[+ oldNbusted]

Block

[RealAvalon]

Hey guys—I usually appreciate when providers visit my RM profile and/or reach out to me, even if that outreach is a “form letter.” But there is one provider who shows up in my RM inbox or Who Saw Me list like every. damn. day. He’s not being creepy or menacing; but he seems unable to take non-response for an answer; and I’m reluctant to engage since he’s pretty thoroughly NOT what I look for in a hire. Would you: 1) block him? 2) gently suggest he direct his outreach elsewhere?

 

He can’t have read my profile, or he’d presumably know that we wouldn’t be a good match.

 

Thoughts?

Tell him

[+ Keith30309]

Start sending him sales pics of your Orlando timeshare.

[+ sniper]

Oh, I was missing that he was sending you messages, just thought he was viewing you. You could just reply, thanks but not interested and see if it stops, and if it doesn't, then block.

[rvwnsd]

...You could just reply, thanks but not interested and see if it stops, and if it doesn't, then block.

My thoughts exactly.

[DallasClient]

I hire a lot but I window shop even more. I love seeing new pics added by regulars and I love seeing new people in my area. Sometimes I add a lot of criteria filters and search for guys that I add to my buddy list. Some I fly here for a visit and I look at their pics as I look forward to seeing them. Some locals change their names and/or the profile picture and I click on them not realizing I had seen them before and not my type.

 

My point is I probably look like a stalker too because I'm sure my "view count" could probably be considered high for some providers. I could browse hidden but I don't care. If they reach out to me, I'm up front and will let them know I'm thinking about hiring them or just browsing.