I just don’t understand us men sometimes....

[Jarrod_Uncut]

Guys with little experience at hiring feel extremely vulnerable - they're expecting to get screwed, expecting it won't work out for one reason or other and are just very nervous. There are some escorts who can deal with that - very often they advertise as being "good with first timers." You may not be one of those.

 

These weren't first timers though. They're guys who I've met several times. But, as a whole yeah....they like are new to how the whole escort dynamic works. And that I was glad to explain.

 

As an update: I been able to sit both guys down (figuritively) in question. I just had to let them know to #1, not be so quick to take things to offense and #2, understand where I'm coming from when I say things.

 

The Texas guy, we were able to get on good terms again, and he admitted he thought one thing while I was thinking another. I told him it's no guarantee that I'm even going to have enough to pay for my daily expenses and there and back. So he can't just hypothetically expect that I could just come way down and there and be okay on my own dime.

 

I told him, he's the one who decided to take the job out there for 3 months, I shouldn't have to extend my finances to go see him...on my dime. We talked it out, but we seemed to agree to "take a break" for the time being. Which I think is best because, I'm starting to learn any kind of long distance relationship or friendship is best left to where you wait til you meet again. Because when communications get misunderstood and arguments arise, it always messes with the dynamic.

 

So basically, we just not going to talk anymore until it's time for him to either come back, or be in position to have a week or few days off and at-least take care of the transportation part. But we're friends on Facebook so he gets to see me throughout the week anyway. But there's just not going to be any conversations 1 on 1 about what I'm doing and what he's doing.

Edited August 24, 2020 by Jarrod_Uncut

[Jarrod_Uncut]

@Rudynate On another note note, there's another local client who would regularly text me after a session, and go on and on about how he felt about something. It was like a therapy session. I'd explain, make him feel better...he'd hire me again, then swear he'd never see me again after, then hire me again...then be okay for a couple times, and then find something else to be offended about lol. Once he even accused me of elderly abuse because I asked him for a little extra funds because we went 2 hours overtime (generally in the form of varied conversation, not sex..which I didn't mind and actually liked to hear him talk about interesting things, except each time I visit him its an hour drive...that's 5 hours for a 1 hour session) I had to explain to him, $250 does not cover 3 hours of time together lol. Then he added something along the lines of hearing me counting cash in the other room. I'm like dude...yes, I counted your money in the other room along with my money just to verify what I had all together.

 

Last time, I think he got offended about something again because he seems to have gone into "blow me off" mode. But now he's probably afraid to tell me because at one point I suggested he speak to a sex therapist instead of a sex worker, about discovering what he wants.

 

So, I'm fine with first time and newbie client's. But I'm just not mentally equipped to handle that kind of baggage.

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@Rudynate On another note note, there's another local client who would regularly text me after a session, and go on and on about how he felt about something. It was like a therapy session. I'd explain, make him feel better...he'd hire me again, then swear he'd never see me again after, then hire me again...then be okay for a couple times, and then find something else to be offended about lol. Once he even accused me of elderly abuse because I asked him for a little extra funds because we went 2 hours overtime (generally in the form of varied conversation, not sex..which I didn't mind and actually liked to hear him talk about interesting things, except each time I visit him its an hour drive...that's 5 hours for a 1 hour session) I had to explain to him, $250 does not cover 3 hours of time together lol. Then he added something along the lines of hearing me counting cash in the other room. I'm like dude...yes, I counted your money in the other room along with my money just to verify what I had all together.

 

Last time, I think he got offended about something again because he seems to have gone into "blow me off" mode. But now he's probably afraid to tell me because at one point I suggested he speak to a sex therapist instead of a sex worker, about discovering what he wants.

 

So, I'm fine with first time and newbie client's. But I'm just not mentally equipped to handle that kind of baggage.

 

Sounds like guys with time on their hands