How did you know you would be a good escort?

[hiJinX]

I dated an escort for a bit who told me I would be good at escorting (good company even with strangers, way fun in the sack, extremely high sex drive, able to find something attractive about just about everyone) and had another BF tell me he could see me doing well at it (I had a good mindset for enjoying someone without getting too attached he thought).

At strip clubs I have often been mistaken for someone who works there or at another club by dancers and patrons alike.

 

So it got me to thinking: How did you know you had what it took to be an escort? It is not something everyone could do well. Did you just take the dive into it? Was it a calling? I remember a story about someone who was mistaken for a escort and decided to play along and ended up really enjoying it and took it up thereafter.

 

Really would like to know what made you think you could do it.

-hijinx

[Rick Munroe]

I'd been hooking up (off of AOL) with regular, kinda shlubby, average Joes...and getting really turned on by them, as much as I would get turned on by yummy little lean bottom boys and macho dominant muscle tops. In other words, yeah, it was the same realization of, "Hey, I love sex...period" and knowing I could get off on almost any kind of guy. Plus it was the fact that I am good at striking up conversations with total strangers (like at the bank, post office, etc) & am not shy at all. Oh yeah and being horny 24/7 was a deciding factor as well.

[+ deej]

> regular, kinda

>shlubby, average Joes...and getting really turned on by

>them

 

So an average deej has a chance? :9

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Great Questions

 

It is a shame that thus far more guys have not answered you. I believe the answers would be very different for most

 

Friday afternoon, I got to meet and interview escort and adult film performer Matt Sizemore for Hook On Line - once the link is up, I will share it; he started escorting on a dare and found escorting was work he could and which was more profitable for him than his day job.

 

I believe the person you refer to in your original post, the guy who was confused for an escort, was someone I met today (Saturday), Gabe from St. Louis who was in town for a quick vacation. He wrote about an incident in Europe (Paris?) which I believe is what you refer to.

 

In my own case, many of my friends in San Francisco were also artists, they painted, wrote (plays, fiction, and so forth), made films, acted, took photographs, etc. Some of them supported this work by being "coffee jockeys" or waiters, others did porn, stripped, escorted. It really depended on temperment and outlook. I lost a really well paying job during the first Bush administration and was unemployed for a while when my sex worker friends suggested I try this. I was bored, I had too much time on my hands, I enjoyed sex and I was able to distinguish between sexual pleasure and intimate romance. I only gave it up due to a well-paying job offer and a romance where we agreed to monogamy.

 

I think I am a good escort because, like Mr. Munroe, I enjoy sex and like to get guys off. If that is you, or someone you know, they too may make a good companion for others.

 

http://www.gaydar.co.uk/francodisantis

[Will]

>So an average deej has a chance? :9

 

Sure! Besides, from what I've understood from your posts, there's nothing average about at least one part of you. As for the rest, maybe he'll give you a professional discount. You could make out like a bandit, deej!

[Guest jeffOH]

RE: How did I know I would be a GREAT escort?

 

I was quite promiscuous from the ages 19-25 and most of the time the

sex was OK for me. I knew I was good sex from the feedback I got from my sexual partners. But, most of the time I felt that they had a much better time than I did and that they should have paid for it.;-)

 

I felt so at ease with my first client. It seemed so natural for me to get paid. The majority of my clients are repeats and the ones I've been seeing for several years tell me that it just keeps getting better.

 

My promiscuous days are long gone. 99% of the sex I have is with my clients. Something happens to me when I'm having sex with a client. I'm very focused on their pleasure and not my own. I believe that is incredibly important not only to be a great escort, but to have real longevity in this business.(11 years this month!)

 

JEFF

jeff4men@hotmail.com

[Rick Munroe]

>As for the rest, maybe he'll give you a professional discount.

 

Will, are you pimping me out now? (not that I mind)

[chrismac]

RE: How did I know I would be a GREAT escort?

 

>I'm very focused on their pleasure and not my

>own. I believe that is incredibly important not only to be a

>great escort, but to have real longevity in this

>business.(11 years this month!)

 

Now I'm REALLY looking forward to our next meeting

}>

[Guest DevonSFescort]

Certain things about my personality made me think escorting would be good line of work for me:

 

1. I had done the kind of work in fundraising and sales where basically getting the donation or sale was 99% influenced by the personal chemistry I was able to strike up with someone I had just met.

 

2. I was already slutty.

 

3. Some of the most satisfying encounters in my life, both sexual and otherwise, have been of the "two ships in the night" variety -- situations in which I found myself spending time with a stranger and we connected intensely. In most cases I never saw the stranger again but I considered it important and valuable somehow that we had met.

 

4. I've always been someone people confided in. I've lost track of all the times I've been the only person someone's ever told something or other. In many cases, by the way, I've also lost track of the people who told me their secrets. There's a type of trust I seem to inspire that has nothing to do with the longevity of our relationship.

 

5. For most of my life I've been insecure about my looks. This has changed in recent years, but the change was recent enough that I am still absolutely thrilled when men are turned on by me, and I love the feel of a man's hands on my body.

 

6. I genuinely enjoy meeting and getting to know people with whom I apparently have nothing much in common.

 

7. These aren't so much personality traits as experiences, but working out at a gym of VERY mixed age range and body types got me used to seeing all kinds of bodies in all kinds of shapes and sizes. I'd also spent some time in sex clubs, which are more democratic than bars in that one's parameters re what's "acceptably attractive" tend to be broader (partly because everyone's there for the same reason). I'd also taken an erotic massage class in which the instructors did a great job of setting a friendly, "everybody's sexy" tone, and that experience really influenced me.

 

So for me it boiled down, basically, to a tendency to see pleasure and value in casual connections, a little narcissism (maybe a little more than a little) and an opening up in my abilities to see what's attractive in a wide variety of men. But the only way I KNEW I'd make a good escort was after I tried it. I didn't take out a year's worth of ads; I ran an ad for a week and saw how it went, which was very well. That's what I'd suggest you do if you're sufficiently curious.

 

By the way, if escorts of more than the most minimal level of experience are telling you that you'd make a good escort, there's a good chance they're right. But you can always send pictures to devon@devonsf.com if you'd like some additional feedback...

[btmstudnyc]

I started out just giving massages...and clients just kept asking for more and more and then more time and then more conversation and then for dates. I kept telling them that I couldn't afford it...so they offered to pay, when I said I had another client and didn't have time...they offered to pay for the time.

 

I think everyone has something to offer in this world. They get and take what they need...AND SO DO I. I love giving myself up completely for the whole time. I love sweating profusely in a massage. I love to work for someone who APPRECIATES IT. Then I give even more.

 

This may sound new-age...but I'm not crunchy granola at all.

 

Just happened that way.

 

Jim----btmstudnyc@aol.com

[Guest RodrigoBoston]

I've been having sexual encounters since I was very little.

I dated a boy for part of my teens, and we were very horny all the time. It was sex sex sex 24/7. I had no sex for a looooooooong time.

 

So when I found out about what escorting consisted of (I had no idea what it was. I met someone that mentioned it, so I looked into it), I was like, DAMN!!! This is a great way to get laid!!! I didn't give a fuck about the money, especially because I have never seen myself as attractive. But after I put an ad online, and E-mails starting coming in like crazy, I started to get laid all the time.

 

So I didn't start because I thought I was hot or good at sex, or outgoing. I started cuz of my uncontrolable need to get laid as much as I could. And i sure am glad I did! I not only quench my desires, but I also meet great people.

 

Rodrigo/Boston

http://www.male4malescorts.com/reviews/rodrigoboston.html

[Guest RodrigoBoston]

"I dated a boy for part of my teens, and we were very horny all the time. It was sex sex sex 24/7. I had no sex for a looooooooong time"

 

 

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

That sentence made no sense cuz I think I deleted what I had written or something.

Anywayz, what i meant was

 

I dated a boy for part of my teens, and we were very horny all the time. It was sex sex sex 24/7. When I moved to US at age 16, I had no gay sex for a loooooooooong time. That was a killa!

[Rick Munroe]

>I'm not crunchy granola at all.

 

As opposed to Fruit Loops?

[btmstudnyc]

>>I'm not crunchy granola at all.

>

>As opposed to Fruit Loops?

 

Well if they made PIG Loops... ah..they do....that's me and you.

Ok..who would like to have Rick and Jim with cream?

:-)

[Guest dstud4hire]

I remember a story about someone who was mistaken

>for a escort and decided to play along and ended up really

>enjoying it and took it up thereafter.

>

>Really would like to know what made you think you could do

>it.

>-hijinx

 

not sure if that story you rememebr was the one that I think I shared on this site before a while ago, but if not, here it is, since mine is earilly similar:

 

I was in Paris many years ago, by myself, on the metro late at night, having just finished a dinner, though having spent a lot of money that I couldn't afford to spend.

 

This older man started winking at me. I was rather green so to speak, thought he was winking at someone else. I eventually figured out it was me....at one of the stops, he beckoned for me to come off the train. I did, thinking this would be a fun adventure, not knowing what to think. He led me down all these darkened strange, not sonice streets. He spoke no English, and I spoke no French. I was geting nervous.

 

Eventually, we ended up at tihs beautfiful marble-floored, elegant condo complex.I rememebr us walking in, and passing the front desk, where the receptionist eyed us with a shit eating grin.

 

We went up to his place, picture of his wife and kids glaring at me from his bed side table. After a mere 5 minutes of me on top of him, he shot his load, then rudely pushed me aside to clean up, without even considering taking care of my needs.

 

I was furious! So as he cleaned up, I angrilly put on my clothes, making a mental note of how upset I was at being treated like a comon whore!! (Funny now, in retrospect!) After he finished cleaning up, he re-entered the room, and began to shell out french francs at me, and suddenly the light bulb struck...(ahhhhh, I see what he thinks I am!) So, I of course accepted the money, which wasn't much, but considering it was only fr 5 mins, it was enough to pay for the nice dinner I had treated myself to earlier that night.

 

Suddenly, of course, I played the part (even then at an early age, it came to me naturally, like a duck to water) Now of course, I had to again, pass the front desk clerk, who had an even bigger griun on his face, and now of course, I understood why.

 

As I left the bldg, I broke out laughing hysterically, cause all that flashed before my mind was the word 'prostitute'. I thought, "WOW that was so easy, and actually, I could do that!" So the next day, all I did was tour Paris trying to catch the eye of every older male passing by , (not realizing of course that is not how it is done.) So, I gave up, and didn't think much about it until a couple years later and I was leaving a relationship, and I really needed the money, and thought about that incident, and took out my first ad. That was some 5-6 years ago, and I have loved almost every minute of it, have never regretted it, and to this day, have NEVER been treated as rudely as that 1st time. Have met nothing but great guys, though with a handful of my kinkier, wilder clients, LOVE on an occassional moment, being treated like 'the pig whore that I am'...hehehehe but it's aklways done and said with respect and love <grin>

 

so, that is my story....

[hiJinX]

Thanks for sharing your stories. I really appreciate it.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Personally, it was a huge decision since my initial experience with escorting was right after i had a bit of national exposure touring with a Broadway musical. It was that age-old dilemma of wanting security, but also wanting to keep my nose clean publically with directors/producers/casting people. When push came to shove i decided against a career in theatre, got a great dayjob in advertising and worked as an escort in the evenings. I didn't want to waste my degree in the longrun and still wanted the fun of escorting...

 

I suppose the things that made me so pliable as an 'good' escort were my flexibility, high sex-drive, intelligence and an uncanny ability to read people well. Fortunately, much like an actor, escorting requires one to constantly hone their craft~ you NEVER stop learning things and always have to be open to change. Criticism isn't always a bad thing and i've seen way too many escorts completely explode when it comes to responding to an 'off night.' We've got to look at criticism as a chance to get better at what we do....

 

 

Maybe i'll start bringing alone postage-paid comment cards to future appointments *hmm*

 

 

 

Warmest Regards,

 

 

Benjamin Nicholas

Escort@ChiKindaKid.com

http://www.ChiKindaKid.com