Defining 'party' in 2003

[Ethan_NYC]

When a client calls on the phone for info and asks if I 'party' I'm always at a loss for words. Maybe it's a generational thing. I sure do party, but not in the seedy illegal way that most clients insinuate. I take pride in living a fairly healthy life. I party but it usually requires a group of close friends, a game of Trivial Pursuit or an upstate college kegger.

 

Not to mention that every prospective client that says they 'party' usually flakes out and offers a sorry/sad/silly excuse when they don't show up. "Oh, I thought I called, I got a machine...." "Oh, didn't you get my message, I'm too wasted to drive, wanna come here?" NO THANKS.

 

So a question for NON-GEN X crowd out there...

Is it safe to assume that "Do you party?" infers illegal drugs, at risk behaviour and a general unpleasant time?

[Guest gentle guy]

>>So a question for NON-GEN X crowd out there...

>Is it safe to assume that "Do you party?" infers illegal

>drugs, at risk behaviour and a general unpleasant time?

 

 

I think your assumption is correct. "Partying" implies drugs and "tweaking" and all the dangerous behavior that ensues. (With the possible exception of Chuck, I am probably the least cynical poster here, so I doubt that anyone else would disagree!)

 

I also prefer the old-fashioned Trivial Pursuit types of partying. Geography, anyone?

[Guest Love Bubble Butt]

>Is it safe to assume that "Do you party?" infers illegal

>drugs, at risk behaviour and a general unpleasant time?

 

Yes.

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

History is more my topic

 

Instead of sitting around a table at Numbers, why not get a board game going, escorts verus clients?

[Guest gentle guy]

Although someone better be good at Sports

 

Nope. We need integrated teams.

 

I want to be on the same team as you and Benjamin Nicholas. I think among the three of us, we have all topics covered! :+

[bigguyinpasadena]

RE: Although someone better be good at Sports

 

I through a B'day party last year for a friend.A boy(has done some porn/hustling)who was invited showed up spun-Took one look around and left saying he thought he had been invited over TO party,not TO A party!

[VaHawk]

I assume that you direct your question at non-genxers, as the majority of your clients fall into that category? Yes imo, party, regardless of generation means illegal drugs, but the drugs of choice are most likely radically different between the generations.

 

To the older generation, party most likely implies a little pot, booze and maybe a little coke. That doesn't mean an unsafe or unpleasant time, but just that the client prefers an escort who is okay with that. If you aren't and reply to the client with the words of your post, I'm not surprised that those clients would turn out to be noshows as they probably don't want to really hookup with someone escort or otherwise for a "good time" without using drugs. Of course, they shouldn't make an appointment with you knowing that you don't.

[+ Lucky]

RE: Games

 

Or you could play Old Maid!

[Doug69]

RE: Although someone better be good at Sports

 

>I through a B'day party last year for a friend.A boy(has done

>some porn/hustling)who was invited showed up spun-Took one

>look around and left saying he thought he had been invited

>over TO party,not TO A party!

 

His reaction was more likely due to the fact that he probably just got a glimpse of his host.

[nate_sf]

>Is it safe to assume that "Do you party?" infers illegal

>drugs, at risk behaviour and a general unpleasant time?

 

Yes, yes, and yes. I suppose if you were also partying you might not have an unpleasant time, but if you are not partying and are in the presence of someone who is, you are guaranteed to have an unpleasant time.

 

I think the 2003 definition of "party" probably refers more to "speedy" drugs than pot and alcohol. Having lived with several people using speedy drugs, the flakey behavior you've experienced is not unusual. In my experience clients who use pot or poppers or have a drink or two are still OK to do business with, but if they're into "pnp" you'll find you're in for a lot of bullshit.

 

Some escorts such as myself have policies of not meeting with people who are using drugs, or specifically using speedy drugs (and for that matter a lot of clients have the same policies regarding escorts). It can be a drag when you're setting up an appointment and things look all set and then they ask if it's OK to use drugs, because usually that will be the clincher and the appointment will fall through. But trust me on this one, you're best to avoid those appointments because they will give you a lot of grief, if in fact they even show up. Hate to sound like such a mother hen, but my experience has been pretty consistent on this one!

[Trixie]

I think it best to reply, with just a touch of haughtiness in your voice/e-mail, that "Party" is not a verb. Then, ramble on about sequined ball gowns and well-known authors and opera stars whom you count as close personal friends. The client in question should lose interest fairly quickly.

La Trix

[nate_sf]

>I think it best to reply, with just a touch of haughtiness in

>your voice/e-mail, that "Party" is not a verb. Then, ramble

>on about sequined ball gowns and well-known authors and opera

>stars whom you count as close personal friends. The client in

>question should lose interest fairly quickly.

 

Amusing, and no doubt very effective! ;-)

[bigguyinpasadena]

RE: Although someone better be good at Sports

 

There goes Doogie again.Spreading good cheer in his post.Gee,what a kind a loving person he must be in real life.

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Re: Clients Play

 

>Or you could play Old Maid!

 

Ah, Lucky, Lucky, Lucky.

 

Old Dog, Old Tricks.

 

I expect better of you. That is just so DONNIEDOUGTHUNDERBUNS . . . .

 

Now, ease your legs down, flip over to the Game Show Network and pull out pad and pencil.

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Seriously

 

The "flaky factor" is not the most serious problem, unfortunately. If a client showed up for an in call, it could be problematic. I once took the keys away from a client, called a cab, took a twenty from the money he would have spent from me, made the cab driver take him home and call me to let me know he was in the door.

 

My client was not happy at the time but appreciated it afterwards, although after we did the make up session, he never called me again. I always assume this is due to the awkwardness of what happened.

 

I have also left a client's home if, in between the time the appointment was made and I actually showed up, the client got in a state which made an appointment inappropriate to say the least.

[+ Lucky]

RE: Re: Clients Play

 

And just where has Donnie been lately? Back in the home?

[duke37]

RE: Re: Clients Play

 

>And just where has Donnie been lately? Back in the home?

 

I thought woodlawn outed him as being Boston Guy.

 

Jeff

[Guest Yog-Sothoth]

>Then, ramble

>on about sequined ball gowns and well-known authors and opera

>stars whom you count as close personal friends.

 

 

Hey, I *do* know a lot of authors (well-known in the genres I am interested in!) who are maybe-not-close, but personal friends. Well, some are close actually.

 

Filmmakers too.