Dealing with harrassing phone calls - tips?

[jasoncarter_dfw]

I know as escorts from time to time we get a few prank calls, hangups, etc....it comes with the territory. Recently however, I have encountered some extreme harassment on my cellular phone which I advertise. I have someone calling me from "unknown number" calling me the usual names (prostitute, filthy ####, etc...all the fun ones), saying they're going to call the police on me, and the granddaddy of them all...saying they're going to kill me. This happened 8 times Saturday, 22 times Friday, 24 times on Wednesday and 7 times on Tuesday. My question is...what is the best course of action for me to handle this? My first thoughts are to discontinue accepting unknown/blocked calls. Should I bother with a police report? Thanks for the input!

 

- Jason Carter - Dallas, TX

- (214) 274-8127

- jasoncarter53@hotmail.com

[Zippy]

Check out this thread in the Deli:

 

http://babydb.male4malescorts.com/dc/dcboard.php?az=show_topic&forum=7&topic_id=52362&mesg_id=52362&page=2

[eastbayguy]

Call your cell phone provider and see what they can do for you. No need to tell them what you do, etc. Just tell them you're getting harrassing calls, and see what they have to say. This happens more than you might realize. Randomly selected people are targeted sometimes. It is a weird world out there.

 

Even though the caller ID is blocked to you, the source AIN is not blocked at some level of the billing systems. Everything is recorded, if not kept indefinitely.

 

Give your mobile phone provider a call. Good luck. Keep us posted.

 

--EBG

[ErikMcAlister]

I promise not to call again.

Just kidding.

If you really feel that your life is in danger, go to the police. Some psycho made similar threats to me via email & on the phone in the fall. I ended up contacting the Newport Beach, Cal police department & the harassment/threats stopped.

[noviceny]

wow,

 

That is some fucked up shit...i really cant believe that an adult would do that kind of shit unless he is dealing with diagnosible problems...find out who he is and beat the shit out of him...need help ?

you know how to get in touch with me : )

[BigD]

My first thoughts are to discontinue accepting

>unknown/blocked calls. Should I bother with a police report?

>Thanks for the input!

>

 

Hi Jason,

Hate to hear about this; of course it would be troubling.

I think you are rightly thinking when considering discontinuing

unknown/blocked calls. Why put yourself through this anguish?

You are both the most professional and sweetest escort in

Dallas. WHoever this is must be a very troubled person.

Take good care of yourself,

D

[Vincent_Michael]

There are two solutions to this problem...One you take a page from Old Benji(BN) and not publish your number and refuse to talk to anyone unless they are paying customer or you can just suck it up and accept the fact that this type of work you chose to be in.

 

If this doesnt not help I would get a secound line for personal calls.

[happyguy2]

While I have never met you, I know from this site that you are a very highly regarded person and if I ever found myself geographically near to you, I would certainly try to reach you.

 

Some people I hook up with do not publish their phone numbers. I am happy to contact them via e-mail. Others list a phone number, and I still contact them by e-mail, especially if they are somewhere I will be visiting.

 

I say you must take this type of contact seriously. Once or twice in a day can be overlooked, but you are dealing with some kind of sociopath who, admittedly, may or may not hurt you.

 

At the very least, I say contact your phone service provider to see what they can do or what you can do to protect yourself. You may put yourself in a difficult position with the police, but only you - and maybe enlightenment from a friend who knows the law in your area - can make this judgement call.

 

Whatever you do, you have to, in my opinion, do something about stopping this man in his tracks. Whenever I have had to deal (I am not an escort, as you would know from my postings) with this type of person, they usually are cowardly and get scared off quickly. ....then there is that one in a million type who could be a real threat...

 

Good luck, my friend.

 

hg

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

>There are two solutions to this problem...One you take a page

>from Old Benji(BN) and not publish your number and refuse to

>talk to anyone unless they are paying customer>

 

 

... Gotta love those backhanded compliments }(

 

Vincent, it's not that i refuse to talk to anyone who 'doesn't pay,' but i just don't feel the need to put my number out there. I'm still allowed some form of personal preference, am i not? Email is a much easier way for me to handle things on an intro basis. From there, working into that first phonecall becomes the priority. I guess that's just my logical way of doing things.

 

Also realize that a voicemail inbox fills MUCH qucker than an email inbox.

 

 

Your public swipe was duely noted. I'm dissapointed

 

 

~BN

[Donnie]

>Your public swipe was duely noted. I'm dissapointed

 

Much better to do it as a blind gossip item, eh?

[Vincent_Michael]

I understand that we all have our own way in doing buinsess but lets get real here Mr. Benji...and stop living in neverland.

 

1.E-mail is yes a very efective way to answer any and all questions people may have and yes you may have more storage than a phone but lets take anouther look at this...If memory recalls you are natorious for not reponding to e-mails at all or being very late at responding to them...maybe you should think of that phone angle once more eh?

2.In all my time escorting my phone never got full not because of a lack of calls but because i actully took the time to answer the people who called me.

 

As for being a backhanded complement...you bet and expect allot more now that I am retired.

[Doug69]

> As for being a backhanded complement...you bet and expect

>allot more now that I am retired.

 

Even though it's only early June, I can say with great confidence that when I compile my annual year-end Top 3 HB Posts of the Year, this one is going to be included.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Donnie: It might be best for your other 'persona' on this board if you keep to yourself on this one. My reply on this thread was to Vincent.

 

Vincent: My reviews speak for themselves. I'm not only proud of how i handle myself in this industry, but will also continue to provide the very best service i can to my guys.

 

That being said, i really don't want to get into a public pissing contest here on the MC. Now that you're retired, i understand that you have quite a bit less to loose around here, so let's not tarnish what we've both worked so hard to build...

 

 

~BN

[Guest ChgoBoy]

>Donnie: It might be best for your other 'persona' on this

>board if you keep to yourself on this one. My reply on this

>thread was to Vincent.

 

 

BN-Talking to Donnie as if he were a 12 year old needing to take a time out in the corner is an indication that your kitty litter box is probably full and that you should take a moment to clean it. It provides for a much better dumping experience and will probably help you to be less irritable when communicating with adults. Please understand that this is a public message board where other peoples opinions and viewpoints are welcomed and encouraged.

[Donnie]

>Donnie: It might be best for your other 'persona' on this

>board if you keep to yourself on this one.

 

In other words "Keep your mouth shut or I'll reveal that personal information that I think I've obtained about you".

Blackmail is pretty ugly. Not as ugly as a bleached mohawk, but you get my drift.

 

>My reply on this

>thread was to Vincent.

 

Should of sent it as an email then dude. The new rules don't say "Only post to Benji if He posts to you first".

[Boston Guy]

>>Donnie: It might be best for your other 'persona' on this

>>board if you keep to yourself on this one.

>

>In other words "Keep your mouth shut or I'll reveal that

>personal information that I think I've obtained about

>you".

>Blackmail is pretty ugly. Not as ugly as a bleached mohawk,

>but you get my drift.

>

>>My reply on this

>>thread was to Vincent.

>

>Should of sent it as an email then dude. The new rules don't

>say "Only post to Benji if He posts to you first".

 

 

I agree with Donnie on both issues. (Private to Donnie: shocking, I know. Don't have a heart attack!)

 

First, the comment did reek of a threat of action unless Donnie refrained from commenting. "Blackmail" seems to me to be a pretty fair description of the threat as I read it. And it implied revealing some kind of personal information about Donnie that he wouldn't want revealed. That sounds like a violation of the rules.

 

Second, it's a public forum. Comments made here are "fair game" according to the rules. Even though a poster may direct them to a specific other poster, he has to expect that others will read them and have a right to comment on them in any way they see fit. Information that should remain private should not be posted in a public forum.

 

BG

[Guest ChgoBoy]

>>>Donnie: It might be best for your other 'persona' on this

>>>board if you keep to yourself on this one.

>>

>>In other words "Keep your mouth shut or I'll reveal that

>>personal information that I think I've obtained about

>>you".

>>Blackmail is pretty ugly. Not as ugly as a bleached mohawk,

>>but you get my drift.

>>

>>>My reply on this

>>>thread was to Vincent.

>>

>>Should of sent it as an email then dude. The new rules don't

>>say "Only post to Benji if He posts to you first".

>

>

>I agree with Donnie on both issues. (Private to Donnie:

>shocking, I know. Don't have a heart attack!)

>

>First, the comment did reek of a threat of action unless

>Donnie refrained from commenting. "Blackmail" seems to me to

>be a pretty fair description of the threat as I read it. And

>it implied revealing some kind of personal information about

>Donnie that he wouldn't want revealed. That sounds like a

>violation of the rules.

>

>Second, it's a public forum. Comments made here are "fair

>game" according to the rules. Even though a poster may direct

>them to a specific other poster, he has to expect that others

>will read them and have a right to comment on them in any way

>they see fit. Information that should remain private should

>not be posted in a public forum.

>

>Bg

 

So then, the question that is begging to asked here is this; Has BN been sanctioned or warned by management that his behavior; threatening another poster with blackmail, is such, that his behavior and self righteous ego is not tolerated here?

[Boston Guy]

>So then, the question that is begging to asked here is this;

>Has BN been sanctioned or warned by management that his

>behavior; threatening another poster with blackmail, is such,

>that his behavior and self righteous ego is not tolerated

>here?

 

 

Where in the world did you get that from?

 

I simply stated my opinion, just like the others in this thread have done.

 

BG

[Guest ChgoBoy]

>>So then, the question that is begging to asked here is

>this;

>>Has BN been sanctioned or warned by management that his

>>behavior; threatening another poster with blackmail, is

>such,

>>that his behavior and self righteous ego is not tolerated

>>here?

>

>

>Where in the world did you get that from?

>

>I simply stated my opinion, just like the others in this

>thread have done.

>

>BG

 

BG, I respect your opinion, I always have, even though we may be at different ends at times. My question was more rhetorical in nature, asking what actions against this very serious breach of the rules had been taken by the moderators of the site. Did I mention that I think your hair looks really hot today?:-)

[Boston Guy]

First, thank you. I fall firmly into the group that seeks a genuine community here, and always have. I think the potential of this site is greatest when adults act like adults and treat each other with respect. But I always state my honest opinion, no matter which side of the coin it falls on. In this case, I sided with Donnie twice in one post. That might be a first. But I thought he was correct on both counts.

 

Next, I hope you realize that I am not a moderator or administrator. I'm just a poster like you or anyone else.

 

Finally, while I think BN's post was off-base in a couple of ways, I don't see that he's broken any rules. I just went back and re-read them quickly and that quick scan doesn't reveal any broken rules at all.

 

I think that's probably a good thing. Protecting the right of people to say things you don't like is fundamental to protecting the right of all to post their opinion.

 

BG

[Guest ncm2169]

ChgoBoy - I "get" your jibe about sanctioning Benji for his very intemperate comments to Donnie, but why have him sanctioned? At the rate he's going, he's already hung himself with a LOT of people who visit here, me included. The list can only grow as he runs at the mouth.

 

Benji - IMHO you're smart not to get into a public pissing contest here with Vincent, unless you're a watersports bottom, that is. }( Vincent might be the only (former) escort who's more popular here than you. I can't recall anything negative ever being said about him (except one no-show Review). You may have read the post by Deej wherein he said (paraphrasing), "Vincent could own this place, but he doesn't want to, which is precisely why he could own it." Seems to me that Deej "got it" - that arrogant, snotty, and, in particular, threatening posts here eventually reveal the true character of the escort, whereas humble self-deprecating humor will always rule. Vincent seems to know that instinctively. No wonder you're insecure.

 

Vincent - Sorry we couldn't ever connect before you retired. I thoroughly enjoyed our phone conversation and I know we would have really hit it off. I hope you're happy and I wish you the best.

 

Jason - My apologies for participating in the hijacking of your thread, but I think that began before my post. ;-) I hope you solve your harassment problems. P.S. Get back to me about my questions. :7

[Guest ChgoBoy]

BG now writes: Finally, while I think BN's post was off-base in a couple of ways, I don't see that he's broken any rules. I just went back and re-read them quickly and that quick scan doesn't reveal any broken rules at all.

 

So your opinion where you just stated..."First, the comment did reek of a threat of action unless Donnie refrained from commenting. "Blackmail" seems to me to be a pretty fair description of the threat as I read it. And it implied revealing some kind of personal information about Donnie that he wouldn't want revealed. That sounds like a violation of the rules."... Is no longer your point of view? What might have changed your viewpoint so quickly, BG. I, like you, before you're half hearted retraction, felt nothing less than a threat from BN towards Donnie. Has there been an offline intervention with those that choose not to speak that we as readers have not been priviliged too? Can you explain this sudden reversal?

[Boston Guy]

If I threaten to reveal your name and address, that would be threatening to reveal personal information. The threat itself, while unsavory, does not seem to be against the rules. However, actually revealing the information would indeed clearly be a violation of the rules.

 

BN's post that I commented on contained what sounded to me to be a veiled threat to release personal information. If he were to follow through and release the information, that would be a violation of the rules -- as I said.

 

However, the threat itself does not seem to violate any rule that I can see. It may be unsavory but it seems to be legal.

 

I stand by both of my posts.

 

BG

[SAdler]

Welcome to why I have never and will never post my phone number. I just didn't want to get into that little arguement above. Looks FIESTY ::REOW::

 

The moral of the story is:

 

Be on time with emails, learn in whom to place your trust, and never flippantly reveal something you will regret later.

[seaboy4hire]

>Donnie: It might be best for your other 'persona' on this

>board if you keep to yourself on this one. My reply on this

>thread was to Vincent.

>

>

>

>~BN

 

Hmmmmm sounds like blackmail to me and should be reported. Geeee and this coming from boy wonder. Great to see he takes his clients best interest at heart. I think that if the time ever came where I wanted to hire BN would not be on that list just for the above statement he just made.

 

Hugs,

Greg

 

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