To bottom, or not to bottom...

[2hard2tame]

That is the question.

 

Until lately, I have always been a solid, no nonsense Top. I had a very bad experiance a few years ago, and hasnt interested me since. But, recently, have been having the urge to have someone do it. I figured I might incorporate it into this side of my life, but how do I tell someone i might bottom, unless his dick is too big?

 

I mean, not to sound bad, but I would really need a small cock to start with. Anyways, I know there are toys and such, but I am not trying to take a massive 9 incher. That just seems so painful and not good. So, if you gentlemen have any ideas, hit me up.

[+ nycman]

Sign me up!

 

Seriously, I've been lusting after your pics for a while, but the

TOP advertising kept me at bay. Although two TOPS can certainly

have a lot of fun together...to me it's not a scene worth paying for.

 

I'd suggest breaking the topic with someone you already "know" well

who is versatile. In my experience "TOP" guys generally suck at

topping another "TOP". The patience and understanding just isn't there.

 

Either way, I say go for it bro. Getting hung up on being a TOP, for

whatever reason, isn't worth it. Bottoming may or may not be for you

in the long run, but I guarantee you'll be a better TOP after the experience.

Your earlier experience sounds like it was traumatic. It doesn't have to be

that way. Just find someone you trust and explain the situation to them.

The right guy will work hard to make sure you have fun while confronting

your fears.

 

My unsolicited advice to TOPS topping TOPS:

 

When topping another TOP...you gotta take your time and realize that

the experience is all about him trying something new. You as the TOP

will not have much fun in this scenario...except for the thrill of having

another TOP trust you enough to explore his bottom side with you.

You WILL NOT be pounding his ass with abandon like you do with

your favorite pig-bottom (and face it....every TOP has a favorite pig-bottom).

It takes lots of time, tons of reassurance, and constant but gentle pressure to

help him stretch his limits.

 

The payoff is that IF you get him there....he'll be eternally grateful, and

remember you fondly as an incredible TOP.

[Guest novabear22031]

>Sign me up!

 

You and I can do battle there!

 

>

>Seriously, I've been lusting after your pics for a while, but

>the

>TOP advertising kept me at bay. Although two TOPS can

>certainly

>have a lot of fun together...to me it's not a scene worth

>paying for.

>

 

I agree, the Top label kept me at bay.

 

In my personal relationships I have dome mostly top, which I love. But for the right lover I have done bottom.

>I'd suggest breaking the topic with someone you already "know"

>well

>who is versatile. In my experience "TOP" guys generally suck

>at

>topping another "TOP". The patience and understanding just

>isn't there.

 

Not always. <g> Have been a Top for most of the past 20 years. I say most since as a treat for my well hung ex and for the right guy, I was willing to give them a "treat".

 

>

>Either way, I say go for it bro. Getting hung up on being a

>TOP, for

>whatever reason, isn't worth it. Bottoming may or may not be

>for you

>in the long run, but I guarantee you'll be a better TOP after

>the experience.

>Your earlier experience sounds like it was traumatic. It

>doesn't have to be

>that way. Just find someone you trust and explain the

>situation to them.

>The right guy will work hard to make sure you have fun while

>confronting

>your fears.

 

So right on, on so many levels.

 

I learned on being a Top and a Dom from my "training" as a bottom. But then gain I am old school in that.

 

>

>My unsolicited advice to TOPS topping TOPS:

>

>When topping another TOP...you gotta take your time and

>realize that

>the experience is all about him trying something new. You as

>the TOP

>will not have much fun in this scenario...except for the

>thrill of having

>another TOP trust you enough to explore his bottom side with

>you.

>You WILL NOT be pounding his ass with abandon like you do

>with

>your favorite pig-bottom (and face it....every TOP has a

>favorite pig-bottom).

>It takes lots of time, tons of reassurance, and constant but

>gentle pressure to

>help him stretch his limits.

>

>The payoff is that IF you get him there....he'll be eternally

>grateful, and

>remember you fondly as an incredible TOP.

>

 

Let me add that when I see a review of Top only, I tend to shy away. No matter how hot the guy looks.

 

In John's case i would have been VERY interested in him but for the Top label. And despite my label as a Top, I would like to explore my bottom side with John. I have lusted after his reviews and pics - but the Top label has given me pause.

[2hard2tame]

Well I appreciate and srsly flattered thus far...*cough

 

But still, how would I advertise as such. I mean, i don't want to say vers, because I would have no control over the size of things. I wouldn't want to set up an appointment with someone, realize i cant handle it and then mess it all up. Not fair for the client.

 

Meh, maybe I shouldn't worry about it....

[+ newatthis]

It seems obvious that the place to start is not with a client, who will be expecting a certain level of expertise and performance just because you're getting paid. If you don't have the right sized friend nearby whom you trust to take it easy and teach you, why not hire someone with multiple good reviews as a top for new bottoms? (My guess is that there are well-reviewed guys who might even be willing to give you a free lesson or two :-).) Then it's your pleasure and satisfaction that takes first place.

 

Once you know what works for you and what you are capable of, you can tailor your ads accordingly.

[Bob]

My main advice is don't worry about size. I was strictly a top for more than thirty years. I never ever thought I could bottom. Much too painful. One night I found myself with an extremely attractive man who was very well endowed. Alot of mutual attraction and passionate lovemeking. Before I knew what was happening he had his cock buried deeply in my ass and I was begging, shouting, for more. What an awakening. Since then I tend to seek out escorts who are hung since it feels so good. Bottoming is alot about relaxation and preparing the mind.

 

A final note. You are such a sexy man it would be a shame to lose you as a top. A good top is hard to find.

[JT Brooklyn]

IMHO..Either IT'S IN YOU or IT ISN'T! LOL

 

If you have to "tell yourself" your enjoying it, "YOU AIN'T"!!

 

"Flip-Floppers" have the most Fun and are a Lucky Group, I definitely enjoy being in! LOL :P

[JT Brooklyn]

Judging by your Hunky Pix's "Big John"..You are a Cutie...

 

I'd definitely like to show you the Great Fun in "Flip-Flopping" when you visit NYC sometime! LOL :P

[Bigaguy]

I agree you shouldn't advertise yourself as vers initially

 

I had mixed success with bottoming and only recently hired some escorts that advertise as top only because of their reviews stating that they helped others who weren't that experienced bottoming. Both were EXCELLENT EXPERIENCES and in fact I have an appointment with one of them again tonight.

 

I have also had versatile bottoms top me because I figure we can flip if I have a problem.

 

As far as size both with both hookups and Escorts I have found a good top is a good top and a bad top is a bad top. I have actually had better experiences with some of the more endowed guys I've hooked up with. IN fact my two best ever were 8 - 9". the worst were both 6". But then again I've had some nice experiences with smaller or should I say Normal guys. So it depends.

 

Don't worry about size if you have the right top

 

I still don't present myself as vers with hookups and make sure any top escort I hire knows the situation that I am still hesitant.

 

ANYWAY

 

GIVE IT A TRY

 

Bigaguy

[Orson Kane]

>

>A final note. You are such a sexy man it would be a shame to

>lose you as a top. A good top is hard to find.

 

As a client, my observation is that a hard top is good to find

:7

 

It sounds like you need some quality experience as a bottom, so perhaps you should find a friend in your personal life or a client you know well who knows how to treat a bottom with little experience well - most good tops can do this. You probably don't want to advertise as versatile just yet, but you could at some point just simply say that you are "primarily a top" and be topped when the situation seems right. As a former "total top" who now is happy to flip, there is a real pleasure to going back and forth with a guy (would love to show you some time!)

 

Good luck

[Rod Hagen]

When I was versatile in the beginning, I found the demand was much higher for a top, so I dropped the bottom (happily.) Only start bottoming cuz it's what you want, not to increase $, because you won't.

[2hard2tame]

To all of you who have replied. Thank you. In case you were wondering, I will remain a top, and that will stay until I am more comfortable.

But, I will be trying things in my personal life. *wink