+ DrownedBoy Posted May 14 Share Posted May 14 1 hour ago, jmichaeliii said: It's like a box of chocolates, you can't just sample one! Unfortunately, guys are more expensive than chocolate. You can really screw up your finances if you can't control yourself. Casual, + m_writer, + KensingtonHomo and 1 other 1 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jmichaeliii Posted May 14 Share Posted May 14 12 minutes ago, DrownedBoy said: Unfortunately, guys are more expensive than chocolate. You can really screw up your finances if you can't control yourself. I hear you. I am very careful budgeting, but your point is well taken. I'm just having a great time acting on something I kept suppressed my entire life. I am lucky to have a few regulars that are priced reasonably. Johnrom 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rod Hagen Posted May 16 Share Posted May 16 (edited) When I was young I was amazed that some men hired me once a week, and sometimes I'd also see them additionally for lunch or coffee or this or that. Then, in 2012 I found a non-sexual masseur who trained at the same school I did a decade earlier, but is light years ahead of me in skill (though I would say our intuition is about level), and I found myself hiring him nearly weekly until lockdown 8 years later. And I don't have money, at all. But, I kinda needed him. So, what surprised the young me, made complete sense at 40. Edited May 16 by Rod Hagen + Vegas_Millennial, + DrownedBoy, Casual and 1 other 2 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ DrownedBoy Posted May 17 Share Posted May 17 9 hours ago, Rod Hagen said: And I don't have money, at all. But, I kinda needed him. So, what surprised the young me, made complete sense at 40. I get what you're coming from. It's funny, but "my relationship with money" is probably the only thing that keeps me from doing the same. Rod Hagen and Casual 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BuffaloKyle Posted May 17 Share Posted May 17 On 5/4/2024 at 11:31 AM, Rick M said: Sometimes my sexual energy just isn't there. I pretty much only hire when I am using PTO for that very reason. I like to enjoy sessions to the fullest so it's best when I got a few days off work. Casual and Simon Suraci 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Simon Suraci Posted May 17 Share Posted May 17 My relationship with money is a committed one. I haven’t hired very much in a while, maybe two legit massages over the past several months. I would really like to do more but have been saving. To economize, I’ve been doing massage trades from time to time, 1:1 with local guys, usually 90 mins each. A few weeks ago I hosted four other masseurs for a group massage exchange. We shared tips and techniques and enjoyed switching off on one another for 25 mins at a time, rotating out who is getting a massage and who is giving, 1:1 and 2:1 since we had an odd number (5) and space for two tables. All nude of course - purely for practical and efficiency reasons, I assure you 😆. It was a lot of fun. Good guys. From left to right: André, Brant, Yours Truly, Peter, and Newell (not pictured) Newell had to run to his next client before we thought to take this group pic. Sorry for the low quality selfie. Better than nothing, I guess. We all showered together afterwards in my large dual head shower and scrubbed each other down. Yes, we all fit together, even hulking Newell, with space to spare. Truly a big shower! One of these days I’ll have a whole rugby team in there #goals. TorontoDrew, sider, Hot4latin and 9 others 4 5 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ Just Sayin Posted May 17 Share Posted May 17 @Simon Suraci, that sounds like great fun; and your shower is amazing! Although I have disposable income, I am happy I live in a massage-and-escort desert so that I am not as tempted to spend the money that I do when I travel to larger cities with greater offerings; there will be a traveling providers here at times, and if my schedule permits and I think it would be a good match, I will schedule, but that does not happen that often. Simon Suraci 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Casual Posted May 17 Share Posted May 17 On 5/4/2024 at 9:40 AM, Charlie said: I haven't hired in a long time, but looking over my records of my hires between 1979 and 2011, I do see patterns that can mostly be ascribed to circumstances tied to my living conditions and my age. After an initial burst of about once per month, the numbers fell off during the prime years of the AIDS crisis in the mid-1980s, picked up again in the late 80s, fell off when I was living and working in another country in the early 90s, and then when my mother came to live with us in the mid to late 90's, picked up again when she left and during my early retirement, picked up when I became active on this site in the early years of this century, and finally declined to only about twice a year during the last four years before I stopped hiring altogether as I approached 70. My highest totals were 16 hires in 1987 and 15 (sometimes with a pair of escorts) in 1989. As you said, the practical difficulties of arranging hires usually had more to do with the numbers than my sexually energy did, until the last years. Did you keep a ledger? A journal? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Casual Posted May 17 Share Posted May 17 I hire only for massage. I have a subscription with Sky's Touch (the photos don't do him justice). I also wind up getting a second massage from a rotating group of providers every five weeks maybe. Honestly, I'm worried about becoming a junkie for massage. I probably think about it too much already. + Just Sayin 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
handiacefailure Posted May 17 Share Posted May 17 Precovid it was every couple months when I travelled. Post covid I think I hired a total of three times and last time was a year in July of last year. But I haven't been travelling as much and have beenl ucky enough to find guys to meet up with for free when I have been travelling. I would hire more if there were guys in my area, but Detroit is the nearest city and there just aren't that many guys into the fetishes I'm into Casual 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ DrownedBoy Posted May 17 Share Posted May 17 2 hours ago, Casual said: Did you keep a ledger? A journal? @Charlie tell him about the journal you keep. The one that fills 2 filing cabinets, I think... MikeBiDude and Simon Suraci 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ Charlie Posted May 17 Share Posted May 17 (edited) 1 hour ago, DrownedBoy said: @Charlie tell him about the journal you keep. The one that fills 2 filing cabinets, I think... Only one and a half filing cabinets. It covers every day of my life for the past 51 years. But there is also a separate list of every one of my hires, for quick reference. You never know when a journal will come in handy. Last week I received I letter from an insurance company about an "incident" they claimed had occurred on Mar. 8, 2023, which they said I was financially responsible for; I had no memory of what they said occurred, and by consulting my journal entry for that date, I was able to correct the company's records with accurate details that absolved me of financial responsibility. Edited May 17 by Charlie + Vegas_Millennial, liubit, Simon Suraci and 4 others 1 2 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ Charlie Posted May 17 Share Posted May 17 3 hours ago, Casual said: Did you keep a ledger? A journal? Both. + DrownedBoy and Casual 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
caramelsub Posted May 18 Share Posted May 18 Where I live there is not much of a selection. So once, or maybe twice monthly to get my fix. I’m on a budget and am not great with saving money. If I lived in a gay hotspot city with tons of hot escorts I’m convinced I would go broke pretty quickly. TorontoDrew, + Just Sayin and Casual 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hot4latin Posted May 18 Share Posted May 18 11 hours ago, Simon Suraci said: From left to right: André, Brant, Yours Truly, Peter, and Newell (not pictured) Newell had to run to his next client before we thought to take this group pic. Sorry for the low quality selfie. Better than nothing, I guess. Looks like a lot of fun @Simon Suraci. Two requests please. Video of this session? 😈 Links to the other providers' professional pages? (with their permission, of course) 😍 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Simon Suraci Posted May 18 Share Posted May 18 @Hot4latin Haha, we did not video the session for content or anything like that. We barely took one bad photo as an afterthought. Linking these masseur ads for you below. You will find some chatter on them here on CoM, which you can continue if you wish in the Spas and Masseurs threads that mention them. Didn’t mean to distract that much from the topic here. Peter is on the road, traveling frequently, so you will see him in different cities. He mentioned moving back to New York at the end of a months long tour. MasseurFinder banned Peter because he started a competitor site called Gay Wellness. The other guys are in San Diego. I’ve mentioned Tal Sharone before and his competitor site, Allformen, which is similar to Gay Wellness. Anyone interested in these guys feel free to PM me. André: https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/39190/ Brant: https://www.masseurfinder.com/massage-therapists/41104/ Peter: Peter | Wellness | Phoenix GAYWELLNESS.COM Learn about Peter , Massage in Phoenix, Arizona. Find Peter reviews and more on Gay Wellness. Newell: MuscleGingerXL on RentMasseur RENTMASSEUR.COM View my profile on RentMasseur.com I expect to do more group massage trades in the future with other guys, probably a larger group next time. Newell offered to host so we can set up 6-8 tables. We all enjoyed learning from one another. Hot4latin, Casual, + Balthazar and 1 other 2 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dandyman418 Posted June 19 Share Posted June 19 I think it's once a week for me and sometimes I feel my catholic guilt bubbling up. My inner-sabateur tries to make me feel bad about it but I feel that it is another form of therapy. Seeing everyone else's answers makes me feel more comfortable. Your Man in Arlington and pubic_assistance 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Muscleking Posted June 19 Share Posted June 19 I hire my regular masseur guys weekly or bi weekly.. and i usually hire escorts once or twice a month Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
big-n-tall Posted June 20 Share Posted June 20 (edited) I don’t hire as much as I used. Partly because I’ve been devoting my money to other endeavors; partly because my work schedule has prevented me from hiring; but mostly because the guys I find most appealing don’t seem to travel to my area as often anymore. There were providers who traveled to my area like clockwork. Sometimes monthly… sometimes every 2 to 3 months but pretty consistently. On a rare occasion some guys moved to my area and I would hire them frequently. In any case, I’d hire traveling providers at least once, sometimes twice when they were in town or do an overnight or weekend. Many of them don’t travel anymore or infrequently compared to years ago. So I often have to resort to bringing people in or traveling elsewhere. That added expense also contributed to the number of hires per whatever time being reduced. I’m thankful for those traveling escorts I still see, like @Mikegaite. I don’t get to see him every time he’s in town but I see him most times. Edited June 20 by big-n-tall Casual, BuffaloKyle and TorontoDrew 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
carolus Posted June 20 Share Posted June 20 About once or twice a month. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demmorick Posted July 14 Share Posted July 14 On 6/20/2024 at 7:32 AM, big-n-tall said: I don’t hire as much as I used. Partly because I’ve been devoting my money to other endeavors; partly because my work schedule has prevented me from hiring; but mostly because the guys I find most appealing don’t seem to travel to my area as often anymore. There were providers who traveled to my area like clockwork. Sometimes monthly… sometimes every 2 to 3 months but pretty consistently. On a rare occasion some guys moved to my area and I would hire them frequently. In any case, I’d hire traveling providers at least once, sometimes twice when they were in town or do an overnight or weekend. Many of them don’t travel anymore or infrequently compared to years ago. So I often have to resort to bringing people in or traveling elsewhere. That added expense also contributed to the number of hires per whatever time being reduced. I’m thankful for those traveling escorts I still see, like @Mikegaite. I don’t get to see him every time he’s in town but I see him most times. Well if you’re ever in Boston😏 I’m a free bottom to use😉 lol 😆 Simon Suraci, Cbilly17 and big-n-tall 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JuanamanteXXX Posted July 15 Share Posted July 15 As much money as you have . I like really hot guys anytime I have some extra I will just enjoy life with one of them hehe TorontoDrew and jmichaeliii 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BuffaloKyle Posted July 17 Share Posted July 17 On 6/20/2024 at 7:32 AM, big-n-tall said: Partly because I’ve been devoting my money to other endeavors; partly because my work schedule has prevented me from hiring; but mostly because the guys I find most appealing don’t seem to travel to my area as often anymore. Amen to that brother! 😄 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Muscleking Posted July 17 Share Posted July 17 On 5/4/2024 at 11:31 AM, Rick M said: My hiring patterns are highly erratic. As of today, I haven't made an appointment with anyone for at least a year. Now, suddenly, I'm anxious, so I may binge at a rate of once every 2 weeks or so. Sometimes my sexual energy just isn't there. And if I do have an assignation, I have to put a lot of effort into preliminaries and accessories. These requirements extend beyond what others might consider the usual; plus, I have to travel by bus/train and walk to the hosting professional. (Don't lecture me about the expediency of taxis and Ubers!) All this fuss results in 2 disadvantages: a strong desire to book far in advance (something most providers shy away from) and becoming subject to weather and last-minute delays and cancellations. I'm still searching for my ideal local go-to guy, but thus far my best matches live elsewhere and visit infrequently, if at all. I hire my regular massage guy usually once a week or every two weeks, and escorts usually once a month or twice a month depending on work and schedule. Casual 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
misterhumphries Posted July 18 Share Posted July 18 I hire about once or twice a year. It really depends on the quality of men on offer. I hire for fantasy, I can get sex for free. So my criteria to hire a man tend to be quite stringent. Casual and Johnrom 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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