Muscleking Posted May 31 Share Posted May 31 Hey guys I have a question.. I’m going on a work trip next week, and was chatting with a guy I hire from time to time and he proposed an overnight, I assumed for overnight means you stay with the escort all night have some fun then sleep together and wake up together etc, he explained to me that over night just means spending the whole night together not sleeping together so usually like 5/6 hours of fun then he goes home. I’ve never done an overnight so wasn’t sure how it works? Any advices ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ BenjaminNicholas Posted May 31 Share Posted May 31 (edited) An overnight is perhaps different for every provider, but for most, it's 12-14 hours of time. What happens during that time can be discussed. That's for you to determine. 5-6 hours feels a bit abrupt. Edited May 31 by BenjaminNicholas + APPLE1, Muscleking, Luv2play and 8 others 6 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blck37 Posted May 31 Share Posted May 31 Overnight with my regular always mean start from early evening till next morning after breakfast. But ultimately i reckon practice differs each provider. And also what $$ they charge. Walt, + APPLE1 and Muscleking 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BuffaloKyle Posted May 31 Share Posted May 31 14 minutes ago, Muscleking said: I assumed for overnight means you stay with the escort all night have some fun then sleep together and wake up together etc, he explained to me that over night just means spending the whole night together not sleeping together so usually like 5/6 hours of fun then he goes home. You assume correctly in my opinion. An overnight should be all night. I'd suggest just going with whatever you feel best suits you in this case and depending too on what kind of fee he's asking for. 5 or 6 hours is quite a long time for playtime. In my experience I can go multiple rounds but I don't think I've ever gone that long overall. I'd say more around 3 to 4 hours in those scenarios. Wanderoz, Luv2play and Muscleking 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Muscleking Posted May 31 Author Share Posted May 31 2 minutes ago, BuffaloKyle said: You assume correctly in my opinion. An overnight should be all night. I'd suggest just going with whatever you feel best suits you in this case and depending too on what kind of fee he's asking for. 5 or 6 hours is quite a long time for playtime. In my experience I can go multiple rounds but I don't think I've ever gone that long overall. I'd say more around 3 to 4 hours in those scenarios. I thought 5/6 hours was long and I kinda like the idea of just hanging out for a while and not being rushed in 1 hour and just playing around and getting off a few times but not actually sleeping together and waking up with the guy as it may feel a bit awkward in the morning. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pubic_assistance Posted May 31 Share Posted May 31 38 minutes ago, Muscleking said: he explained to me that over night just means spending the whole night together not sleeping together so usually like 5/6 hours of fun then he goes home. I've always understood this to mean you're waking up the next morning with your companion (and maybe breakfast and another ejaculation) before they head home. Can't say I have personal experience but most every comment I've read here is about a sleep over session, not a five hour hang n bang. + Pensant, mike carey, + WstVlgChris and 3 others 2 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Muscleking Posted May 31 Author Share Posted May 31 26 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said: I've always understood this to mean you're waking up the next morning with your companion (and maybe breakfast and another ejaculation) before they head home. Can't say I have personal experience but most every comment I've read here is about a sleep over session, not a five hour hang n bang. I assumed the same but I see maybe different for every provider mike carey and pubic_assistance 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thelatin Posted May 31 Share Posted May 31 (edited) Omg - there is no ambiguity, no oh jeeze shucks, maybe it means different things. The guy is trying to rip you off. Edited May 31 by Thelatin pubic_assistance, Wanderoz, + nycman and 1 other 2 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mike carey Posted May 31 Share Posted May 31 On 5/31/2024 at 11:51 AM, Thelatin said: Omg - there is no ambiguity, no oh jeeze shucks, maybe it means different things. The guy is trying to rip you off. He can call a longer appointment whatever he likes, if he tells you what his overnights involve before you agree to the appointment, then there is no deception. If you agree to his terms and set the appointment and then later tell him that it wasn't an overnight, that's on you not him. I like over-night meetings, but a 5-6 hour appointment seems too long to me as a regular meeting (unless it involves agreed out-of-the-bedroom activities) and too short as an overnight so I wouldn't accept that version of an overnight. Blue text added to remove potential ambiguity in what I was saying. spidir, Muscleking, + Pensant and 4 others 5 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Muscleking Posted May 31 Author Share Posted May 31 3 minutes ago, mike carey said: He can call a longer appointment whatever he likes, if he tells you what his overnights involve before you agree to the appointment, then there is no deception. If you agree to his terms and set the appointment and then later tell him that it wasn't an overnight, that's on you not him. I like over-night meetings, but a 5-6 hour appointment seems too long to me (unless it involves agreed out-of-the-bedroom activities) so I wouldn't accept that version of an overnight. You’re right, to be fair the provider explained to me that he would arrive around 10pm/11pm and leave around 4/5am. And in that time we can do whatever we choose. So he was clear and I’ve hired him before so I wouldn’t say he was trying to rip me off.. I just didn’t understand what overnight meant.. but I see it can mean different things depending on who is offering it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Simon Suraci Posted May 31 Share Posted May 31 Overnights are different for everyone. You, the client, communicate what you want and what you expect. Your provider will propose a fee, a timeframe, and you go from there to land on a mutually agreeable arrangement. Typical overnights are around 12 hours, sometimes a bit less, sometimes a bit more. Baseline: 9pm-9am. Maybe start earlier or end later. You negotiate and agree on expectations ahead of time in terms of duration, activities in bed, activities outside of bed, how much (if any) sleep you expect to get, sleeping arrangements, and the fee. You might start early evening with dinner, maybe cocktails, or whatever relaxation activity floats your boat. See a movie, visit an art show, go to the beach, dance at a club, play video games, go shopping, whatever the client wants based on his interests. A lot of times it looks like a traditional nice dinner date. You talk, you flirt, you connect. Some of my clients like me to give them a massage, body scrub, and manscaping in addition to, or instead of, meals or other going out activities. It can look however you want. Then the really fun part. Usually one or more rounds of sexual activities you like, often going into the wee hours. It could last from 2-4 hours, maybe more, depending on a few factors. You might break these romps up with snacks, laying in one another’s arms, talking, watching a show, or what have you. For some of you kinky bitches, these can be pretty long, drawn out, and elaborate sessions. Maybe others join (arranged ahead), but usually just 1:1. Then some sleep. Perhaps only a few hours. Maybe 6-8 if the client is satisfied with plenty of action the night before and the morning after. You might like to sleep cuddled up with your provider. Or in an adjacent hotel bed, or in completely separate rooms at your home, or whatever works best for you both. Some clients want and expect their provider to stay up all night. That’s ok too, but please do communicate your expectations up front. Most of us can’t go for 5-10 hours at a time just having sex, and not everyone will be good company staying up that late. There’s a natural limit. Drugs are another matter, however. If you want to party, be sure to find a compatible provider and be upfront with your expectations. After some nap time, you might wake up to your man initiating another round of sex. Morning wood is raging. Things happen. Then coffee/tea, breakfast, more chatter, showering, and getting dressed. Maybe you skip breakfast and go out for brunch. Pay your provider, and he’s on his way! mike carey, + JamesB, Dr.Daddy and 6 others 4 1 1 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thelatin Posted May 31 Share Posted May 31 For me an overnight would be, meeting around 5-6 PM and them leaving after breakfast. Depending on what they like the time would involve a nice steak house, maybe checking out a bar, the hotel fitness center and pool, some Netflix etc. I've gone out of my element a bit lately and tried both older providers and shorter dates. Just not my cup of tea. It's like the car wash, I want the super deluxe wash with extra carnuba. Dr.Daddy and Luv2play 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jamie21 Posted May 31 Share Posted May 31 Most providers are flexible, ask for what you want. If they are ok to do it they’ll say yes, if not…it’s a ‘no but…’ and you can find an arrangement that works. I have my set offerings but guys ask me for things they want and I’m always happy to vary things up if it’s in my repertoire. Luv2play and JourneysEnd 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
56harrisond Posted May 31 Share Posted May 31 Some recent discussions: MikeBiDude and + Vegas_Millennial 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ DrownedBoy Posted May 31 Share Posted May 31 If an escort says an overnight is only 6 hours, and he expects the same 1 to 1.5K as everyone else, he's full of it. Ripoff. I've had gay bodybuilders do 14 hours for the same. pubic_assistance and + APPLE1 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
big-n-tall Posted June 1 Share Posted June 1 In all my years of this hobby, I have never had an overnight be less than 12 hours, save one. That one instance it didn't, the guy came late (claims he didn't have transportation) and left early while i was still sleeping. I haven't hired hi again. + DrownedBoy and pubic_assistance 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ glennnnn Posted July 6 Share Posted July 6 You guys are so awesome and experienced. Thank you for your advice, but the one thing I still don't know is how much I should expect to pay. I figure 12 hours total from dinner thru breakfast (8 pm to 8 am); 4 hours eating; 2 or 3 hours spent making out and/or fucking; 1 or 2 hours in a bar drinking, dancing and conversing; a 3 hours swimming, bathing, shopping, television, porn, and;6 or 7 hours sleeping in his arms. That adds up to over 12 hours total from 8pm to 8am. How much would you charge? (providers) How much would you offer? (clients) This escort is a gem: handsome, sophisticated, built, educated, hung, intelligent, considerate, kind and loving. I want my night with him and I'm ready to pay for it; I just don't want to offer too little and embarrass us both. pubic_assistance, Luv2play and Johnrom 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thelatin Posted July 6 Share Posted July 6 3 hours ago, glennnnn said: How much would you offer? The rate probably varies depending on where you are located, how attractive you are, where you are offering to take them etc. Perhaps just tell him you want and ask him the rate. MikeBiDude, pubic_assistance, Johnrom and 1 other 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
big-n-tall Posted July 6 Share Posted July 6 7 hours ago, glennnnn said: You guys are so awesome and experienced. Thank you for your advice, but the one thing I still don't know is how much I should expect to pay. I figure 12 hours total from dinner thru breakfast (8 pm to 8 am); 4 hours eating; 2 or 3 hours spent making out and/or fucking; 1 or 2 hours in a bar drinking, dancing and conversing; a 3 hours swimming, bathing, shopping, television, porn, and;6 or 7 hours sleeping in his arms. That adds up to over 12 hours total from 8pm to 8am. How much would you charge? (providers) How much would you offer? (clients) This escort is a gem: handsome, sophisticated, built, educated, hung, intelligent, considerate, kind and loving. I want my night with him and I'm ready to pay for it; I just don't want to offer too little and embarrass us both. Did you ask the provider what his overnight rate is? In another topic, I mentioned that the average rate I've paid is 1200. However, the rates also are different from provider to provider. The least I donated for an overnight was 500-600... the most 1600. I have been asked for as high as 6000 for an overnight. I didn't hire that guy. LOL! If you have seen the provider long term, sometimes they reduce the overnight rate for you, but that's not a guarantee. The guy I have seen the most initially asked for 1k but now will do it for 800. Honestly, whatever you want to do with the escort, I think you should leave wiggle room in your plans. You seem to have your time scheduled down to a tee. I don't think you should be so regimented, but that's just me. One last thing... I know you didn't bring this up but I assume you met this guy before. So talk to him about what you want to experience with the overnight. I know some on here say you should meet the guy before you attempt the overnight to guarantee compatibility. Honestly, that hasn't been my experience. Most of the overnights (or longer) I have done have been guys I've never met. The overnight was the first time we shared any time together. All but three or 4 became regulars. I hope this helps. pubic_assistance, Luv2play, Johnrom and 1 other 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marcel Posted July 13 Share Posted July 13 I would not recommend scheduling an overnight with someone you’ve never before met in person. I did it twice (with very well-known pros) but it didn’t “click” in the long-run. Dinner and playing afterward we’re great, but sleeping and morning were not. Also, an overnight might imply fantasies of how it would be to have a relationship on the client’s part, and, let’s face it, hiring a guy is not the same as having a relationship. My two cents worth. + DrownedBoy, Johnrom, TorontoDrew and 6 others 6 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
56harrisond Posted July 13 Share Posted July 13 On 7/6/2024 at 3:20 AM, glennnnn said: I figure 12 hours total from dinner thru breakfast (8 pm to 8 am); 4 hours eating; 2 or 3 hours spent making out and/or fucking; 1 or 2 hours in a bar drinking, dancing and conversing; a 3 hours swimming, bathing, shopping, television, porn, and; 6 or 7 hours sleeping in his arms. That adds up to over 12 hours total from 8pm to 8am. How much would you charge? (providers) How much would you offer? (clients) I just don't want to offer too little and embarrass us both. Unless there's a lot over overlap, isn't there in excess of 20 hours of time accounted for in the plan? There should be a noticable price difference between a 12-hour and 20-hour engagement. I concur with those up thread, just ask him about his overnight rate. Don't ask for a discount with the number he gives you. And be prepared to pay for all incidentals during the date. 1 hour ago, Marcel said: I would not recommend scheduling an overnight with someone you’ve never before met in person. I did it twice (with very well-known pros) but it didn’t “click” in the long-run. Dinner and playing afterward we’re great, but sleeping and morning were not. Absolutely this. Don't schedule an overnight if it's your first time meeting. If the vibe doesn't work, then you will still be out the money and you won't be satisfied. Johnrom and TorontoDrew 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daniel84 Posted July 13 Share Posted July 13 On 5/30/2024 at 5:28 PM, BenjaminNicholas said: An overnight is perhaps different for every provider, but for most, it's 12-14 hours of time. What happens during that time can be discussed. That's for you to determine. 5-6 hours feels a bit abrupt. A overnight is 6-8 hours. I have never heard of a overnight being 12-14 hours.. + Vegas_Millennial and pubic_assistance 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luv2play Posted July 13 Share Posted July 13 On 5/30/2024 at 8:24 PM, Muscleking said: Hey guys I have a question.. I’m going on a work trip next week, and was chatting with a guy I hire from time to time and he proposed an overnight, I assumed for overnight means you stay with the escort all night have some fun then sleep together and wake up together etc, he explained to me that over night just means spending the whole night together not sleeping together so usually like 5/6 hours of fun then he goes home. I’ve never done an overnight so wasn’t sure how it works? Any advices ? I’ve done those but not called them overnights. They were entire evening sessions. Lots of fun but then everyone gets to sleep in their own bed. + DrownedBoy and Muscleking 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luv2play Posted July 13 Share Posted July 13 2 minutes ago, Daniel84 said: A overnight is 6-8 hours. I have never heard of a overnight being 12-14 hours.. You haven’t slept with the right providers who make an overnight 12 to 14 hours. + DrownedBoy 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daniel84 Posted July 13 Share Posted July 13 38 minutes ago, Luv2play said: You haven’t slept with the right providers who make an overnight 12 to 14 hours. I am a escort lol. When I do a overnight it's only for 6-8 hours Muscleking 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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