Contacting "ladies only" escorts

[Henric8]

There are a few straight performers that advertise in certain escort forums, especially here in Europe.  Although they  advertise for ladies only, I would not be surprised if they may bend the rules, at least to a certain extent for the right price.

Has anyone ever contacted someone like this, and what would be the right approach?   I do not want to offend anyone.  thanks.

[+ goosh69]

Yeah…there are far fewer women willing or pay versus men. 

[+ DynamicUno]

If the escort explicitly says he is only interested in female clients, then I don't see it being worthwhile trying to convince him "bend the rules".

Best case, if you do convince him by promising to pay a big enough fee, would be you end up paying a premium for a lackluster experience.  There are plenty of guys advertising as bi or gay who will deliver a superior performance without paying extra.

 

Edited June 15 by DynamicUno

[Henric8]

I wasn't really asking for a moral lecture or advice to go elsewhere, thanks though.

[+ azdr0710]

49 minutes ago, Henric8 said:

I wasn't really asking for a moral lecture or advice to go elsewhere, thanks though.

welcome to the forum......you're new here and may not know the vibe around these parts......the two replies you received so far are from longtime forum members and are par for the course in forum tone for your question.....I didn't see anything like a "moral lecture" in them.......you asked a question on an anonymous internet forum and are getting replies.....(by the way, don't ever join reddit if this place has already bothered you!!)

you are very free to contact "ladies only" advertisers who appeal to you.....they have no doubt received inquiries from men already.....be very polite, to-the-point, and discreetly professional.....identify yourself upfront, acknowledge their ostensible preference, and inquire if a meet with another man is sometimes available......their replies to you will range greatly, I presume, and will include "moral lectures" at times

Edited June 15 by azdr0710

[BuffaloKyle]

1 hour ago, Henric8 said:

I do not want to offend anyone.  thanks.

You won't be the first guy to ask I'm sure of it so they won't be offended. I'm sure they have been contacted by guys pretending to be women at first anyway so they'll be happy you are honest at least.  They'll say no way, nothing at all, or ask what you are interested in doing and then give you a price for what you are requesting. Just don't expect them to want to get into too much besides just getting worshipped and orally serviced most likely. 

[Monarchy79]

10 hours ago, Henric8 said:

I wasn't really asking for a moral lecture or advice to go elsewhere, thanks though.

There was no lecture on morality. Just common sense, logic  and critical thinking. 

However, I recommend you pursue the “ladies only” escort of your liking, and report back your experience. 
 

 

[soloyo215]

15 hours ago, Henric8 said:

There are a few straight performers that advertise in certain escort forums, especially here in Europe.  Although they  advertise for ladies only, I would not be surprised if they may bend the rules, at least to a certain extent for the right price.

Has anyone ever contacted someone like this, and what would be the right approach?   I do not want to offend anyone.  thanks.

I have seen some escorts using the "I'm straight" bullshit as means to appeal to those who are willing to pay (a lot) more for having them become "gay for pay". There might be some legitimately hetero escorts, but for what I know, they may not advertise that much, or advertise using different means, especially considering how women operate, think and act.

Personally, I come from a place where I used to call myself "heterophobic", so no, I have never cared much for guys who call themselves straight, and it's never been my place to try to prove them right or wrong. I just let them be. There's absolutely nothing wrong with perfectly fine gay and biusexual men (and FTMs for those who like them), so there's plenty to choose out there for me to bother pursuing a person who, by the very definition of who they are, doesn't have any interest in me.

Edited June 15 by soloyo215

[carolus]

Why not just contact an escort who says he only fucks men?  maybe it's me but I've never found it appealing to "turn" or "sus out" providers. Like, one doesn't go into a Chinese take-away and sus them out to make Iranian food. 

[+ nycman]

On 6/14/2024 at 10:13 PM, azdr0710 said:

welcome to the forum......

[SirBillybob]

“You’re the best looking guy on the ad site. Too bad I’m male. Ph 555-555-5555”

Edited June 16 by SirBillybob

[pubic_assistance]

6 hours ago, SirBillybob said:

“You’re the best looking guy on the ad site. Too bad I’m male. Ph 555-555-5555”

Funny...but I wouldn't say SO far off from the approach that one might make if trying to coax a straight (str8) provider to bend the rules enough to let you get him off.

I'm one of those guys who does prefer "straight"-ish men..so coaxing has long been part of my playbook.

Flattery to start: "I've been looking for an m4m escort but I keep coming back to YOUR photos because you're just so sexy/handsome and masculine. I just can't find anyone on the gay sites who is masculine enough for me."

Finances to close: "Just wanted to reach out just in case you might be open to a little man-on-man time with someone who's generosity would be in line with your making this special exception to your usual range of clientele."

Back to flattery: If not; that's Kool. I understand. Have a great evening. And keep up whatever it is you're doing. You look incredible.

Edited June 16 by pubic_assistance
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[Sub boy]

I’m sorry but this was triggering for me. “Bend the rules” sounds like creepy and borderline rapist behavior. I guess there’s no harm in respectfully asking, but if his ad specifically says “ladies only” he pretty much already told you no. And remember, no means no. Otherwise it’s pretty much the same scenario as the powerful men of Hollywood that dangle money & job opportunities in front reluctant women #MeToo

Edited June 16 by Sub boy

[pubic_assistance]

53 minutes ago, Sub boy said:

"Bend the rules” sounds like creepy and borderline rapist behavior

Only if you're forcing their hand.

Doesn't hurt to ASK.

Voluntary engagements aren't rape. (In spite of what some "me-too" cry babies want to claim).

[Monarchy79]

57 minutes ago, Sub boy said:

I’m sorry but this was triggering for me. “Bend the rules” sounds like creepy and borderline rapist behavior. I guess there’s no harm in respectfully asking, but if his ad specifically says “ladies only” he pretty much already told you no. And remember, no means no. Otherwise it’s pretty much the same scenario as the powerful men of Hollywood that dangle money & job opportunities in front reluctant women #MeToo

If this scenario is “triggering” for you, I’d recommend a therapist ASAP, because the things in life that you will encounter beyond this may push you into absolute psychosis. 

[Sub boy]

5 minutes ago, Monarchy79 said:

If this scenario is “triggering” for you, I’d recommend a therapist ASAP, because the things in life that you will encounter beyond this may push you into absolute psychosis. 

If sexual harassment and rape isn’t triggering for you, I’d recommend a therapist for YOU. 

Edited June 16 by Sub boy

[Sub boy]

6 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said:

Only if you're forcing their hand.

Doesn't hurt to ASK.

Voluntary engagements aren't rape. (In spite of what some "me-too" cry babies want to claim).

I already mentioned asking respectfully but thanks anyway. 

[Monarchy79]

17 minutes ago, Sub boy said:

If sexual harassment and rape isn’t triggering for you, I’d recommend a therapist for YOU. 

If you don’t clearly understand what sexual harassment and rape ACTUALLY is, I recommend a basic reading comprehension course for you. 😎🤓

[pubic_assistance]

1 hour ago, Sub boy said:

if his ad specifically says “ladies only” he pretty much already told you no.

I think we may all be reading the original question in different ways. By "advertising for ladies only" I read this as they are advertising in the section under providers for women and don't have additional advertising in the men's section. I don't think it means he's specifically advertising as "I ONLY sleep with women".

[Sub boy]

7 minutes ago, Monarchy79 said:

If you don’t clearly understand what sexual harassment and rape ACTUALLY is, I recommend a basic reading comprehension course for you. 😎🤓

“Sexual harassment includes unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors, and other verbal or physical harassment of a sexual nature in the workplace or learning environment” according to the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission.

Therefore, making unwanted sexual advances on someone who has already blatantly said “ladies only” is a form of sexual harassment. Got any other attempts to defend sexual harassment?

[Monarchy79]

11 minutes ago, Sub boy said:

 

“Sexual harassment includes unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors, and other verbal or physical harassment of a sexual nature in the workplace or learning environment” according to the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission.

Therefore, making unwanted sexual advances on someone who has already blatantly said “ladies only” is a form of sexual harassment. Got any other attempts to defend sexual harassment?

1.) Asking an escort if he’s willing to change his requirement for a potential paid sexual encounter, is not categorized as an “unwanted sexual advance”. 

2.) The rules of Sexual Harassment doesn’t even apply to EEOC rules as escorting isn’t a profession that’s recognized by EEOC or the Bureau of Labor Statistics…..

3.) Sir, there is no workplace…..LOL

Bottom Line:

Although you mean well, you overall stance on this topic exceeds reaching….. 

[CalTec]

Hey!  Good question.  I can answer with my own experience.  Over the last year or so, beyond my loyal male regulars I've pivoted to accept almost exclusively m/f couples as clientele.  In your case, if you have a female partner and are looking to hire, I see no issue with asking about yourself as a male looking to engage with your female counterpart as part of the session.  

For single males replying to a "Female Only" male escort, you may get a reply?  I know guys who advertise with multiple ads; one for the females and one for males.  Completely different photos, numbers, etc.  Then there are some that just won't do it.  

The only way to find out is to try, what's the worst that can happen? GL! 😉

[Sub boy]

53 minutes ago, Monarchy79 said:

1.) Asking an escort if he’s willing to change his requirement for a potential paid sexual encounter, is not categorized as an “unwanted sexual advance”. 

2.) The rules of Sexual Harassment doesn’t even apply to EEOC rules as escorting isn’t a profession that’s recognized by EEOC or the Bureau of Labor Statistics…..

3.) Sir, there is no workplace…..LOL

Bottom Line:

Although you mean well, you overall stance on this topic exceeds reaching….. 

1. Which is why I included the caveat of asking respectfully in my first post.

2. Since you want to try to use technicalities to defend sexual harassment, here’s the Oxford dictionary definition of sexual harassment: “behavior characterized by the making of unwelcome and inappropriate sexual remarks or physical advances in a workplace or other professional or social situation.” Therefore, making unwanted sexual advances on someone who has already blatantly said “ladies only” can be a form of sexual harassment. 

3. Escorts would disagree. Pretty sure they would consider places where they advertise their work and carry out their work to be workplaces. And are you really trying to argue that sexual harassment depends on where it happened?

 

 

 

Edited June 16 by Sub boy

[marylander1940]

On 6/14/2024 at 9:22 PM, DynamicUno said:

If the escort explicitly says he is only interested in female clients, then I don't see it being worthwhile trying to convince him "bend the rules".

Best case, if you do convince him by promising to pay a big enough fee, would be you end up paying a premium for a lackluster experience.  There are plenty of guys advertising as bi or gay who will deliver a superior performance without paying extra.

 

No doubt but some love to make others do things they don't advertise they do. Maybe having a few hundred dollars to spare gives them the thrill of "convincing" providers.

Countless times an escort advertises as a top and some folks wonder if he bottoms or a bottom who openly says in his profile, he ONLY bottoms for clients and some wonder if he could top. 

1 hour ago, pubic_assistance said:

I think we may all be reading the original question in different ways. By "advertising for ladies only" I read this as they are advertising in the section under providers for women and don't have additional advertising in the men's section. I don't think it means he's specifically advertising as "I ONLY sleep with women".

You're too optimistic!

If he actually was bisexual he would also advertise for men knowing that's the biggest market!

On 6/14/2024 at 8:55 PM, goosh69 said:

Yeah…there are far fewer women willing or pay versus men. 

 

On 6/14/2024 at 8:35 PM, Henric8 said:

There are a few straight performers that advertise in certain escort forums, especially here in Europe.  Although they  advertise for ladies only, I would not be surprised if they may bend the rules, at least to a certain extent for the right price.

Has anyone ever contacted someone like this, and what would be the right approach?   I do not want to offend anyone.  thanks.

if they accept your offer, I hope you don't expect a BFE. Sex with a real straight guy might be disappointing 

[Beancounter]

I question the motives of the original poster @Henric8.  He started a thread in The Deli about a bad experience with a well-know escort with the initials b.b. (as I remember).  Someone responded and @Henric8 immediately responded with a rather snarky message.   He again responds in this thread about being lectured by another member.  Forum members took @Henric8 to the cleaners in the Deli thread.  One longtime, respected member of the Forum even posted a gif saying “Bye bitch”.  As a new member here @Henric8 will hopefully soon learn that if you can’t stand the heat, it’s best to get out of the kitchen.