first time experience disappointment - looking for honest feedback

[misterhumphries]

Sounds to me like he was making other appointments sandwiched in between the time he'd booked with you.

To me, overnight means, I've bought ALL the escort's time for the duration. No clocking in and out. If he did that, I'd make it clear there would be deductions from the time he left me to the time he returned. Which is why I would never book an overnight. Why would I pay a man to sleep?

For a first time, especially with a man you have never met, consider doing only 1 hour. It's minimum investment to see if you and the escort get along. If so, and you've built a rapport, then consider an overnight --  But  make your expectations clear as to what overnight means to you. Don't be ashamed to ask for what you want. You're paying him, he's not doing you any favors.

[Thique]

Don’t be too hard on yourself…. It was a bold move to start off with an overnight for your first experience and kudos to you for taking the plunge. All you can do at this stage is take away the lessons learnt for next time.

I would suggest doing a few 1 hour sessions with different providers. You will see that each provider is different - pros and cons, and unfortunately some with cons only. You will also learn what you like and don’t like in the provider as well as in bed.

I would not book overnight with someone that I have not met before. Too much of a waste of time, energy and money if not 100% sure that we will click.

Edited July 4 by Thique

[nate_sf]

Maybe just maybe he had not had the chance to meet with his buddy for dinner beforehand, so had not eaten dinner after all. If that were the case, he might have felt embarrassed to bring it up, at least initially. That would at least explain the first disappearance if he truly had not had dinner, but two disappearances is odd.

Wanting to dive right in and do an overnight is not unusual for a newbie, so don't feel bad. The idea sounds great, but it comes with the issues others have brought up here.

My favorite appointment is the long 4-5 hour evening. It provides enough time to grab drinks and dinner, have play time, and some down time. If you're really hitting it off you can extend it to an overnight, but otherwise you can just end things on a high note and get some good rest afterwards.

[carolus]

On 7/2/2024 at 9:02 PM, Voyager2025 said:

Hello all. New to this website. Recent first timer, had a mixed bag of an experience and could use some honest, objective feedback from clients and/or providers alike.

So I've been embarking on this YOLO mindset for a while now and decided to treat myself to the whole escort experience, just to see what it's like and try it out and have some fun. I reached out to one particular gentleman who checked all the boxes, he was super friendly and also let me know he had a good amount of experience with first timers. Also a lot of very positive reviews. I decided to book an overnight (in hindsight maybe too hasty but I was really looking for an exciting adventure and figured why not go for it), which was a total fourteen hour appointment. Made all the arrangements, bookings etc. When the big night came, we met up, he was just as attractive as his photos, a great guy, great to talk to. We went out for drinks, had a great time. We left the bar to go back to the hotel and he informed me he needed to grab a bite and would meet me back at the hotel at around midnight. 

He came back at midnight and let me know he couldn't find anything but no worries. So we started getting busy and that part was great... after about 45 minutes or so he came and we decided to take a break. Around 1 AM he informs me he needs to go out and find something to eat, which I thought was odd but not a huge deal. Since we had had a decent amount to drink I decided to stay behind and promptly fell asleep (after the drinks and the fact that I'm alone in a hotel room at 1AM). He gets back around 230AM and slides into bed. I put my hand on his arm but got a distinct impression from his body language that he was ready to sleep. 

Fast forward to 8am the next day. We wake up and start talking. Around 830 or so he informs me he needs to leave around 9. So we start to get a little busy again, but now I'm thinking the time is running out and I couldn't really enjoy the moment feeling like the clock is ticking, so nothing really came of it ( no pun intended hahaha). So we part amicably and I'm showering, packing up to check out and go home and I'm thinking to myself..... what was that?

So I'm confused. I let the whole experience marinate in my brain for a few weeks and now I'm asking myself... did I do something wrong? Was there something I should have said.. should I have been more direct about timing? I cant figure it out. I was going to just let it go but I cant decide. If I'm being honest, I had really high expectations and the whole thing feels like a giant letdown. Between his fee, the hotel, the bar tab, travel, etc this was an almost $3000 experience and I feel like there should have been so much more. 

So all that being said, I'd love some honest opinions. Clients, what would you do? I'm thinking about reaching out to him and expressing how I feel. Not in a nasty way but if this is his career, maybe he'd appreciate the honest feedback and what I would hope is constructive criticism? Or do I just move on? Providers, any thoughts? Is there something I should have said/done that maybe I didn't? 

 

Shit happens.

Misunderstandings and shit happen whenever two or more people can engage. 

However, I'd say if a person went to a restaurant and the service was shit, then one just goes to another or makes a complaint. One bad escort experience should dissuade from using them again.