HotelFun Posted July 12 Share Posted July 12 Is this normal and expected? It’s becoming far more of a norm in my experience. I don’t mind it, except that if the client has to book the Uber and doesn’t have a separate profile, discretion and total privacy are lost. what’s the alternative if one hosts? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hot4latin Posted July 12 Share Posted July 12 I’ve been asked to provide an Uber and politely decline. I just don’t think it’s practical for me to be in the middle of the transaction between Uber driver and rider. In most cases, the provider then makes their own transportation arrangements. Whether i compensate depends on a couple of things. If there’s a major upcharge for the outcall, then I feel like the transportation cost is built into the fee. If the difference is modest or none at all, then I will add transportation cost into the tip. mds1, + APPLE1, dbar123 and 10 others 4 1 7 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ DrownedBoy Posted July 12 Share Posted July 12 Are providers asking for an Uber more often? Yes. Do travelling providers ask for an Uber? Almost always. I see it as increased laziness, entitlement, and greed. I have regulars who pay their own Uber since they more than get it back from their fee. Chicago has the 2nd best transit system in the country, but younger providers expect a d@mned limo. I've only paid for Ubers if the provider is both exceptional and reflects it in his fees. I've been offered incall rates for sending an Uber; since they just sit there, I don't otherwise. jusmeinbr, + APPLE1 and soloyo215 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jamie21 Posted July 12 Share Posted July 12 I think sometimes it’s to indicate your reliability. More likely you’re genuine if you arrange and pay for the Uber. I’ve done out calls and when I arrive at the client’s location and then they go silent on me. Waste of time and money. So I can understand why some guys might ask for an Uber… These days I have other ways to identify and weed out time wasters so I prefer to arrange and pay for my own travel. I think the main reason why some guys ask for an Uber is simply because they can… + Pensant, NYXboy, pubic_assistance and 8 others 6 1 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Solution + BOZO T CLOWN Posted July 12 Solution Share Posted July 12 (edited) 9 hours ago, HotelFun said: Is this normal and expected? It’s becoming far more of a norm in my experience. I don’t mind it, except that if the client has to book the Uber and doesn’t have a separate profile, discretion and total privacy are lost. what’s the alternative if one hosts? No. If the session is in a major city. Bozo politely informs the provider to use public transportation. If he refuses, that's a deal-breaker, and Bozo moves on. If the session is in a rural area or location not accessible to public transportation, the provider should use his own vehicle, Hiring an escort or masseur is no different than hiring a locksmith, house painter, exterminator or any other independent contractor. You pay them for their services. Transportation is their problem. Not yours. BTC Edited July 12 by BOZO T CLOWN Njguy2, + APPLE1, Ali Gator and 11 others 4 1 1 1 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NYXboy Posted July 13 Share Posted July 13 I live in NYC and if its 30 min on the subway I don't pay for uber. if it is further than that I think it is good courtesy. Most services do charge a delivery fee. Esp if they are traveling at night. DWnyc 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ APPLE1 Posted July 13 Share Posted July 13 1 hour ago, NYXboy said: I live in NYC and if its 30 min on the subway I don't pay for uber. if it is further than that I think it is good courtesy. Most services do charge a delivery fee. Esp if they are traveling at night. I get that most services charge a "delivery fee." If it's extra for an out call though, isn't that extra the "delivery fee?" Ali Gator, DWnyc, Moke and 1 other 2 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marylander1940 Posted July 13 Share Posted July 13 In this era of texting apps and flakiness sending an escort an Uber is a way to show you are for real and not going to flake. I've never done it because where I live I am within walking distance of almost everywhere but I know plenty of escorts that 99% of the time get the client to send them an Uber. Flakiness also goes both ways, sometimes providers don't show up Dolman, pubic_assistance, rvwnsd and 2 others 3 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marylander1940 Posted July 13 Share Posted July 13 (edited) 7 hours ago, Jamie21 said: I think sometimes it’s to indicate your reliability. More likely you’re genuine if you arrange and pay for the Uber. I’ve done out calls and when I arrive at the client’s location and then they go silent on me. Waste of time and money. So I can understand why some guys might ask for an Uber… These days I have other ways to identify and weed out time wasters so I prefer to arrange and pay for my own travel. I think the main reason why some guys ask for an Uber is simply because they can… Exactly and it goes both ways. The client knows that he's actually coming and what time is he coming. 2 hours ago, NYXboy said: I live in NYC and if its 30 min on the subway I don't pay for uber. if it is further than that I think it is good courtesy. Most services do charge a delivery fee. Esp if they are traveling at night. NYC is a whole different world over 90% of the guys are in Midtown and they can take the Subway or walk to their appointments. I wouldn't be surprised if most guys would simply say "thanks but no thanks'' to take the Subway and go outside Manhattan. Can we please combine all the different threads on this subject? I have a feeling some of the posters used to have a different point of view of this issue. Edited July 13 by marylander1940 socurious, rvwnsd and peter831 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rvwnsd Posted July 13 Share Posted July 13 I don't get bent out of shape when a provider asks me to provide an uber/lyft, but my preference is the provider furnishes his own transportation, especially when they have a higher fee for an outcall than for an in call. marylander1940 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wanderlust307 Posted July 13 Share Posted July 13 I remember years ago, I met someone online and invited him to my place. It was around midnight, we had a drink, chat, had fun. He was a very nice and very young guy who had just started acting school. So when he was getting ready to leave I gave him 100 euros and offered to call an uber that he would pay in cash. The next day I looked at the trip. The poor guy was living in the suburbs and he paid about 60 euros for the trip. I felt sorry for him. That was over 10 years ago. We still meet occasionally. He just turned 30, looks even better and keeps trying acting. He now lives in the center, walking distance from me. And his fee went up to 150. Luv2play, rvwnsd and Casual 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
crazyivan Posted July 13 Share Posted July 13 3 hours ago, NYXboy said: I live in NYC and if its 30 min on the subway I don't pay for uber. if it is further than that I think it is good courtesy. Most services do charge a delivery fee. Esp if they are traveling at night. In NYC, I simply stop engaging any provider asking for uber. It's not that hard to take the subway, and they probably should anyways. Outside of NYC, I have met providers taking an uber to come to me. They never asked me to cover their uber bills. There was one time I had one provider asking me to cover parking at my hotel. I did but curious to hear others' opinions about this. jackcali, + DrownedBoy, + BOZO T CLOWN and 1 other 1 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HotelFun Posted July 13 Author Share Posted July 13 12 hours ago, DrownedBoy said: Are providers asking for an Uber more often? Yes. Do travelling providers ask for an Uber? Almost always. I see it as increased laziness, entitlement, and greed. I have regulars who pay their own Uber since they more than get it back from their fee. Chicago has the 2nd best transit system in the country, but younger providers expect a d@mned limo. I've only paid for Ubers if the provider is both exceptional and reflects it in his fees. I've been offered incall rates for sending an Uber; since they just sit there, I don't otherwise. Couldn’t agree more! The idea - no, the expectation - of needing to be chauffeured as a precondition to do outcalls is galling jusmeinbr, + APPLE1, peter831 and 2 others 1 1 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HotelFun Posted July 13 Author Share Posted July 13 11 hours ago, Jamie21 said: I think sometimes it’s to indicate your reliability. More likely you’re genuine if you arrange and pay for the Uber. I’ve done out calls and when I arrive at the client’s location and then they go silent on me. Waste of time and money. So I can understand why some guys might ask for an Uber… These days I have other ways to identify and weed out time wasters so I prefer to arrange and pay for my own travel. I think the main reason why some guys ask for an Uber is simply because they can… Don’t buy it - I think it has more to do with entitlement, laziness or both. There are a myriad ways to establish if a client is a time waster - they just lack the initiative to do so + APPLE1, + BOZO T CLOWN, peter831 and 2 others 2 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ BOZO T CLOWN Posted July 13 Share Posted July 13 2 hours ago, HotelFun said: ....I think it has more to do with entitlement, laziness or both. It is definitely both. BTC marylander1940, jusmeinbr and + APPLE1 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackcali Posted July 13 Share Posted July 13 5 hours ago, crazyivan said: In NYC, I simply stop engaging any provider asking for uber. It's not that hard to take the subway, and they probably should anyways. Outside of NYC, I have met providers taking an uber to come to me. They never asked me to cover their uber bills. There was one time I had one provider asking me to cover parking at my hotel. I did but curious to hear others' opinions about this. I won't order an Uber for reasons of discretion, but reimbursing for an Uber or parking (or gas) is just part of the fee negotiation. It's the same to me if a provider quotes me $250 plus $50 for Ubers or $300. A funny story about parking. A few years ago, I was in LA and saw a provider at my hotel. After a really great session, he asked me if, on top of his fee and a healthy tip, I could cover the cost of parking at the hotel, which wasn't cheap. So I gave him an extra $50, more than enough to cover it. Five minutes later, I got a call from the hotel valet saying someone is asking to charge his parking to my room. I told him it was a scam and not to charge my room. After that, I cut off all contact with the provider, which was a shame because I'd have seen him two or three times a month (I was spending a lot of time in LA in those days) if he hadn't tried to scam me. jusmeinbr, Saabster, + DrownedBoy and 2 others 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ JamesB Posted July 13 Share Posted July 13 I think Uber requests are very location-dependent. I've never been asked for an Uber when hiring in Orlando. On the other hand, in Panama City, it's a common request, which is amusing since Ubers in Panama are dirt cheap. I prefer not to use my Uber account for this, so I just offer to reimburse the cost. rvwnsd, MikeBiDude, BuzzLiteQueer and 2 others 4 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rvwnsd Posted July 13 Share Posted July 13 1 hour ago, JamesB said: I think Uber requests are very location-dependent. I've never been asked for an Uber when hiring in Orlando. On the other hand, in Panama City, it's a common request, which is amusing since Ubers in Panama are dirt cheap. I prefer not to use my Uber account for this, so I just offer to reimburse the cost. My experience has been very similar. Here in Phoenix, where on needs a car to get around, several providers who don't have cars casually mentioned they took an uber to get to me. They have all traveled long distances to reach me. When I've offered to pay for the ride, they declined. In San Diego, I had guys ask for an uber to travel a couple of miles. Moke 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hot4latin Posted July 13 Share Posted July 13 On my recent visit to NYC, I had a provider ask me to provide an Uber for an outcall. I agreed to reimburse him so he texted me a screenshot of his trip itinerary and cost. When he arrived, he dragged his electric scooter into the room and asked if he could plug it in to charge. Clearly there was no Uber used (or needed) so his tip was adjusted accordingly. The whole experience was a 3 out of 10 so I didn’t feel bad at all. marylander1940, peter831 and Sub boy 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marylander1940 Posted July 13 Share Posted July 13 3 hours ago, JamesB said: I think Uber requests are very location-dependent. I've never been asked for an Uber when hiring in Orlando. On the other hand, in Panama City, it's a common request, which is amusing since Ubers in Panama are dirt cheap. I prefer not to use my Uber account for this, so I just offer to reimburse the cost. Agreed and also depends on whether the escort met the client before and if he's using a burner number or a regular number In Orlando everybody has a car. That's not the case in big cities where a car is nothing but inconvenient. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marylander1940 Posted July 13 Share Posted July 13 22 minutes ago, Hot4latin said: On my recent visit to NYC, I had a provider ask me to provide an Uber for an outcall. I agreed to reimburse him so he texted me a screenshot of his trip itinerary and cost. When he arrived, he dragged his electric scooter into the room and asked if he could plug it in to charge. Clearly there was no Uber used (or needed) so his tip was adjusted accordingly. The whole experience was a 3 out of 10 so I didn’t feel bad at all. I don't think someone so dumb can even remember to take PrEP daily. + Pensant and + DrownedBoy 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jamie21 Posted July 13 Share Posted July 13 8 hours ago, HotelFun said: Don’t buy it - I think it has more to do with entitlement, laziness or both. There are a myriad ways to establish if a client is a time waster - they just lack the initiative to do so And of course you don’t have to buy the provider who asks for an Uber. Isn’t that wonderful 🙂 marylander1940 and Luv2play 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HotelFun Posted July 13 Author Share Posted July 13 1 hour ago, Jamie21 said: And of course you don’t have to buy the provider who asks for an Uber. Isn’t that wonderful 🙂 Correct - and my takeaway from this thread confirmed what I thought, that should providers request it, the answer should be absolutely no. If they have an issue, I’ll move along swiftly to the next one. + APPLE1, peter831, + DrownedBoy and 1 other 2 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jamie21 Posted July 13 Share Posted July 13 31 minutes ago, HotelFun said: Correct - and my takeaway from this thread confirmed what I thought, that should providers request it, the answer should be absolutely no. If they have an issue, I’ll move along swiftly to the next one. As will they no doubt. Everyone has ways of sifting out the people they don’t want to deal with. It saves a lot of trouble. Zimby, rvwnsd and marylander1940 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marylander1940 Posted July 13 Share Posted July 13 On 7/12/2024 at 6:31 AM, HotelFun said: Is this normal and expected? It’s becoming far more of a norm in my experience. I don’t mind it, except that if the client has to book the Uber and doesn’t have a separate profile, discretion and total privacy are lost. what’s the alternative if one hosts? You can always travel to his place or send him the money for him to book the trip himself. I occasionally send my location so they know I am for real and not playing games. I have a feeling you already knew your opinion about this subject before you started a thread about it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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