Sound advice for seeing someone new.

[viewing ownly]

While to the provider it might be either flattering or off-putting by gushing about how much you want to see them, don't go overboard with initial contact, especially with escorts. 

Understand that because rates are not listed, the amount you will be seen for is entirely arbitrary, based on a variety of different factors, such as whether they're traveling, what the demand has been to that point, etc. A friendly introduction and professional attempt will give you way, way better chances of getting a lower rate than from the get-go expressing how you've been a massive fan and are dying to be in their company. 

Another reason to not get too over-excited is that gives the man the impression that either you aren't serious about seeing him, or could be a possible safety risk for being so over-zealous. If you tone it down with your initial contact attempt and have a meet-up pan out, STILL keep your cool and wait a bit into the arrangement to bring up your favorite scene you saw him do. 

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

There's no one-size-fits-all advice for this.

Devil's advocate:  Playing it too cool can make you look like a flip flake.

Be respectful.  Be kind.  Be straght-forward.  And a compliment never hurt anyone.  

If you're going into initial communication thinking about all the ways to get a lower rate, you're really concentrating on the wrong end of the horse.

Edited July 18 by BenjaminNicholas

[jmichaeliii]

1 hour ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

There's no one-size-fits-all advice for this.

Devil's advocate:  Playing it too cool can make you look like a flip flake.

Be respectful.  Be kind.  Be straght-forward.  And a compliment never hurt anyone.  

If you're going into initial communication thinking about all the ways to get a lower rate, you're really concentrating on the wrong end of the horse.

Be respectful and kind more than anything.  It puts both parties at ease and typically results in a great session.  And never try and negotiate... if you agreed to see the guy, pay his rate and don't question it.  You want good vibes and that's a way to kill it.

[Jamie21]

2 hours ago, viewing ownly said:

While to the provider it might be either flattering or off-putting by gushing about how much you want to see them, don't go overboard with initial contact, especially with escorts. 

Must admit I like it a lot when clients book me after having watched my content. If they are over the top gushing then yes there is a slight sense of “is he for real?” but I’ve never had a sense of there being a safety risk. If they say about how they like my work and are excited to book a session then actually that’s quite a big turn on, and I’m motivated to ensure they have a great time. 
 

[+ DrownedBoy]

I find it useful to tell them they're attractive, but not gush about it.

If their ad reveals they're proud of a certain part of their body, make sure to compliment him on it.

[viewing ownly]

9 hours ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

There's no one-size-fits-all advice for this.

Devil's advocate:  Playing it too cool can make you look like a flip flake.

Be respectful.  Be kind.  Be straght-forward.  And a compliment never hurt anyone.  

If you're going into initial communication thinking about all the ways to get a lower rate, you're really concentrating on the wrong end of the horse.

What is a "flip flake"? I'm guessing it's someone who indicated that they're verse, only to back out (or front out?) on the arrangement.

[jmichaeliii]

47 minutes ago, DrownedBoy said:

I find it useful to tell them they're attractive, but not gush about it.

If their ad reveals they're proud of a certain part of their body, make sure to compliment him on it.

I have 2 regulars and I think they are both very hot.  When I complement them, one is very shy about it but I know he likes to hear it, the other usually repays me during our session!

[soloyo215]

22 hours ago, viewing ownly said:

While to the provider it might be either flattering or off-putting by gushing about how much you want to see them, don't go overboard with initial contact, especially with escorts. 

Understand that because rates are not listed, the amount you will be seen for is entirely arbitrary, based on a variety of different factors, such as whether they're traveling, what the demand has been to that point, etc. A friendly introduction and professional attempt will give you way, way better chances of getting a lower rate than from the get-go expressing how you've been a massive fan and are dying to be in their company. 

Another reason to not get too over-excited is that gives the man the impression that either you aren't serious about seeing him, or could be a possible safety risk for being so over-zealous. If you tone it down with your initial contact attempt and have a meet-up pan out, STILL keep your cool and wait a bit into the arrangement to bring up your favorite scene you saw him do. 

Good advice. My initial contact is simple, polite and to the point. It's made for the conversation to start. What happens after has depended on the type of response that I get. it's a two-way street, and if I don't like the way the reply comes across, I'd politely end the conversation.

It's supposed to be a mutual agreement with mutual comfort for both. That's the best way for both parties to get what they want..