Non-traveling providers repeatedly reaching out 2 B re-seen

[viewing ownly]

I had to shorten the spelling of my title of this thread to fit the spaces allowed. Around four months ago, I settled on a third choice to see someone who offered sensual massage. It wildly exceeded my expectations, and was my first appointment to not actually make it to the massage table, my first ever verse session, and first session with the masseur's boyfriend in the neighboring room with the door open, which I wasn't aware of, but found to be rather hot after the fact.

He saw me when my body was completely shaven neck to toe, and I had just trimmed all the hair of my head real short, and removed my 5-year-old thick facial hair. In essence, he saw a VERY different looking guy than I used to be, and currently am 4 months later, back to my fuzzy grizzly self. 

Since that time, I stumbled across the porn he does (as well as his boyfriend who was in the other room). He's reached out to me a couple of times to get in touch whenever I'm back in town. My concern, and a very valid one, is that I don't want to go through the lengthy trouble of smoothing myself out all over just to re-see him. He was wild in a great way, and clearly he enjoyed me enough to continue to want my repeat business. 

Most all stationary providers from my past experience respect every client's privacy, and never contact clients unless they are contacted first. I'm flattered that he enjoyed me enough to want my business again - and again, but also wonder if he's doing this because business lately has been slow for him, so he's reaching out to anyone who ever did business with him at all. 

[MscleLovr]

1 hour ago, viewing ownly said:

I'm flattered that he enjoyed me enough to want my business again

I appreciate that you gave a fairly succinct description. So forgive me for summarizing but surely the question is Do you want to see him again?

Only you can answer this. It’s obvious you enjoyed the encounter, and the aspect of voyeurism was novel to you and gave an added frisson.

Decide what you want first. The business aspect is secondary. Just be precise and specify that you want the boyfriend to watch (or participate) and mention that you’re now hirsute. 

[+ ThroatCummer]

Yes, he is reaching out to get more business. That's normal and okay in some regards although some clients hate it.  

Your appearance should NOT matter. In fact send him a pic of you now and make a side comment "I have a lot more hair now than when we met before - hope that's cool" and he should be fine. If he isn't, then he is someone you don't want anyway.  

You're overthinking this. If you want to see him again, do it. 

edit: I meant to say appearance should NOT matter. Added NOT. 

Edited August 11 by ThroatCummer

[Thelatin]

9 hours ago, ThroatCummer said:

Your appearance should NOT matter

Respectfully, it 100% matters.  I understand they are getting paid to do a job, but everyone has preferences.   The more I’ve taken care of myself, groomed, time in the gym etc.  The better my experiences have become.  
 

 

[jmichaeliii]

1 hour ago, Thelatin said:

Respectfully, it 100% matters.  I understand they are getting paid to do a job, but everyone has preferences.   The more I’ve taken care of myself, groomed, time in the gym etc.  The better my experiences have become.  
 

 

I think it matters more being a regular client,  nice and respectful, and tip well for great service.

I'm an OK looking guy...average and far from perfect, but my providers always provide a great experience because I treat them well.

[Monarchy79]

1 hour ago, Thelatin said:

Respectfully, it 100% matters.  I understand they are getting paid to do a job, but everyone has preferences.   The more I’ve taken care of myself, groomed, time in the gym etc.  The better my experiences have become.  
 

 

Facts.

mileage will vary. 

[ShortCutie7]

Appearance absolutely does matter in literally every aspect of life (regardless of whether or not it should), but all OP needs to do is inform the escort that/how his appearance is different from what it was when they met.

[Moke]

All this being said, I’d be SHOCKED if this provider cared that his guy is more hairy now.   

[wanderlust307]

Appearance does matter. In every aspect of life. I am about to meet a new guy and I am postponing it, waiting for my barber to return from his august vacation.

[+ JamesB]

On 8/11/2024 at 12:51 AM, viewing ownly said:

I had to shorten the spelling of my title of this thread to fit the spaces allowed. Around four months ago, I settled on a third choice to see someone who offered sensual massage. It wildly exceeded my expectations, and was my first appointment to not actually make it to the massage table, my first ever verse session, and first session with the masseur's boyfriend in the neighboring room with the door open, which I wasn't aware of, but found to be rather hot after the fact.

He saw me when my body was completely shaven neck to toe, and I had just trimmed all the hair of my head real short, and removed my 5-year-old thick facial hair. In essence, he saw a VERY different looking guy than I used to be, and currently am 4 months later, back to my fuzzy grizzly self. 

Since that time, I stumbled across the porn he does (as well as his boyfriend who was in the other room). He's reached out to me a couple of times to get in touch whenever I'm back in town. My concern, and a very valid one, is that I don't want to go through the lengthy trouble of smoothing myself out all over just to re-see him. He was wild in a great way, and clearly he enjoyed me enough to continue to want my repeat business. 

Most all stationary providers from my past experience respect every client's privacy, and never contact clients unless they are contacted first. I'm flattered that he enjoyed me enough to want my business again - and again, but also wonder if he's doing this because business lately has been slow for him, so he's reaching out to anyone who ever did business with him at all. 

 

Most providers, especially the savvy ones, aim for repeat business. If you're interested in seeing him again but are feeling self-conscious about your current appearance, you could casually mention that you've changed your look and are now a bit hairier. I doubt he’ll mind, he’s in it for the business and he will probably appreciate the heads up.

[dbar123]

Sometimes it’s fun to see people who change their fur level with different encounters. I love seeing the same escorts in different phases of their hair journey 

[Thelatin]

On 8/12/2024 at 9:41 AM, Moke said:

All this being said, I’d be SHOCKED if this provider cared that his guy is more hairy now.   

None of my providers like hairy guys.  It’s why I stay fit and groomed.  I’m sure they have to pretend and put up with it to earn.  But no.  In fact they tell me the carry massage guns in order to try not to touch it…

[wanderlust307]

On 8/11/2024 at 8:51 AM, viewing ownly said:

I had to shorten the spelling of my title of this thread to fit the spaces allowed. Around four months ago, I settled on a third choice to see someone who offered sensual massage. It wildly exceeded my expectations, and was my first appointment to not actually make it to the massage table, my first ever verse session, and first session with the masseur's boyfriend in the neighboring room with the door open, which I wasn't aware of, but found to be rather hot after the fact.

He saw me when my body was completely shaven neck to toe, and I had just trimmed all the hair of my head real short, and removed my 5-year-old thick facial hair. In essence, he saw a VERY different looking guy than I used to be, and currently am 4 months later, back to my fuzzy grizzly self. 

Since that time, I stumbled across the porn he does (as well as his boyfriend who was in the other room). He's reached out to me a couple of times to get in touch whenever I'm back in town. My concern, and a very valid one, is that I don't want to go through the lengthy trouble of smoothing myself out all over just to re-see him. He was wild in a great way, and clearly he enjoyed me enough to continue to want my repeat business. 

Most all stationary providers from my past experience respect every client's privacy, and never contact clients unless they are contacted first. I'm flattered that he enjoyed me enough to want my business again - and again, but also wonder if he's doing this because business lately has been slow for him, so he's reaching out to anyone who ever did business with him at all. 

On the hair aspect, I would say take him out of the equation. What he likes is insignificant, escorts come and go. What matters is what you like. Decide what is your best look. How YOU like to see yourself, and go for it. By the way, If you decide to get rid of hair, go for laser, so you don't have to repeat every month or so.

As for contacting you, he just contacted you, he didn't violate your privacy. Did he do it because he enjoyed you? No, don't be flattered. Did he do it because business is slow? Who cares, and why does it matter to you? 

Edited August 14 by wanderlust307

[viewing ownly]

A provider is not going to deliberately reach out to a client he ISN'T interested in. That should be a given. I mentioned in the past how I was reached out to with a quick "oops, ignore what I typed - it wasn't meant for you" from a guy I saw who was so-so, therefore I believed he contacted me in error. 

You are right, it should not matter what his reasoning in reaching out to me multiple times is. There's also nothing wrong with being flattered with his interest, either. We really did have fun. If I didn't have an occupation which prevents me from filming a session and sharing Only Fans content of our encounter, I'd have been back to him the same day. His big dick and my round (at the time, smooth) rump and my colossal ejaculation made for a great time. He remembers. 😛

[wanderlust307]

At the risk of hijacking the thread, I am in a similar situation: I met someone new that I like. He is exactly my style, young, blond, tall, pretty, witty, polished. I took him out for lunch, had fun and then he sent me some hot pics of his 23cm cock. And tragedy, he has more pubic hair than I like 😭. 

So what I do now? Go for it hoping it's bad lighting in the pic and it will be better in real life? Or send him to my barber shop for manscaping, at the risk of making him feel awkward? 

 

Edited August 14 by wanderlust307

[viewing ownly]

Different strokes. I like the girth of it, but nothing more. This is the look HE is happy to have. Find someone else, and say nothing to him. If he's noticing a downtick in business, he'll do something about it - like dye the hair blue, LOL!

[wanderlust307]

5 minutes ago, viewing ownly said:

If he's noticing a downtick in business, he'll do something about it

He is not an escort.

[liubit]

He looks yummy, @wanderlust307. If he ticks all your boxes and strikes all your chords, invite him over and enjoy everything he has to offer overlooking his tiny imperfection, OR ask him if you can trim his pubes yourself. This second option might well be erotic and lead to more playful hot fun. Just a suggestion. 

[wanderlust307]

30 minutes ago, liubit said:

He looks yummy, @wanderlust307. If he ticks all your boxes and strikes all your chords, invite him over and enjoy everything he has to offer overlooking his tiny imperfection, OR ask him if you can trim his pubes yourself. This second option might well be erotic and lead to more playful hot fun. Just a suggestion. 

Thank you. I can't bother and  get hair on my floor. I decided to invite him as is, hoping for the best. The barber is closed for August, so nothing can be done... 

Edited August 14 by wanderlust307

[+ KensingtonHomo]

I'm cackling at the idea that both some clients and providers - who are MEN - are too precious for there to be body hair. Most men have a decent amount of body hair. So, expecting them to show up looking like dolphins or putting that expectation on yourself is giving into a pathological obsession with unrealistic looks in our community. Sure, we all have our preferences, and that's great. Oddly, I don't like facial hair, so I sometimes ask if a provider is sporting a beard or mustache. No one is offended. 

To the OP, I agree that if you want to see him again, tell him you're a bit hairier now. I also think it won't be an issue. 

[soloyo215]

On 8/11/2024 at 1:51 AM, viewing ownly said:

My concern, and a very valid one, is that I don't want to go through the lengthy trouble of smoothing myself out all over just to re-see him.

What was the reason to do it the first time? Also, if at some point you'll do it again, that can be a great time to reach out to the provider. And who knows if you mention to the provider that you don't normally shave. If he's into porn, maybe he's open minded enough to like you hairy too.

On 8/11/2024 at 1:51 AM, viewing ownly said:

He was wild in a great way, and clearly he enjoyed me enough to continue to want my repeat business.

I'm not a provider, but as a retired slut, I used to reach out to lovers in order of how much I liked them. I imagine that providers will have a preference and reach out to clients that they feel are better, more manageable and more enjoyable. I think that's stanard in every profession that involves reaching out to clients. O think that's great that you got a pleasant surprise with this provider.

On 8/11/2024 at 1:51 AM, viewing ownly said:

Most all stationary providers from my past experience respect every client's privacy, and never contact clients unless they are contacted first.

Most of my stationary providers reach out to me every now and then, sometimes just to say hello (probably as a form of reaching out without saying that they are reaqching out), and some to let me know about their upcomong schedule. I'm not sure if one practice or another is standard or common.

Personally I wouldn't bother if a provider reaches out for more business, especially if you liked the experience and he seemt to have liked it too. I don't see it as bothersome. If there's insistence and more texts than you're comfortable with, that might be a different story.

Glad you had a good time and I'd suggest to keep him in mind next time that you shave.

[+ José Soplanucas]

Appearance matters, indeed, but I think most posters in this thread are overweighting it. If a professional reaches out to you looking for repeated business, the relevance of whether or not they found you attractive is near zero, in my opinion.

A client being over concerned about that matter would rise a yellow flag for me. He, from my point of view, would be not healthy emotionally and probably suffering serious self esteem issues.

Edited August 15 by José Soplanucas

[jmichaeliii]

12 minutes ago, José Soplanucas said:

Appearance matters, indeed, but I think most posters in this thread are overweighting it. If a professional reaches out to you looking for repeated business, the relevance of whether or not they found you attractive are near zero, in my opinion.

A client being over concerned about that matter would rise a yellow flag for me. He, from my point of view, would be not healthy emotionally and probably suffering serious self esteem issues.

Agreed.  Being nice, reliable, drama free and hygienic go a long way.  When I first started this hobby, I was very self conscious, but thanks to my great providers, no longer the case. 

[rvwnsd]

On 8/10/2024 at 10:51 PM, viewing ownly said:

...My concern, and a very valid one...

To you, sure. To him - who knows? He might like hairy guys.

On 8/10/2024 at 10:51 PM, viewing ownly said:

... is that I don't want to go through the lengthy trouble of smoothing myself out all over just to re-see him....

Then don't. Next time he reaches out, let him know you are back to your hairy self and ask if he likes hairy guys. Should he answer affirmatively or state he doesn't care, take his answer at face value and hire him (assuming you are in the mood to play). Should he tell you he prefers guys who are shaved smooth, then you know his preference and can decide what to do next.

On 8/10/2024 at 10:51 PM, viewing ownly said:

...Most all stationary providers from my past experience respect every client's privacy, and never contact clients unless they are contacted first...

In my experience, providers have not reached out unless they have asked me if it OK or if I asked them to do so. However, if a provider reached out without us discussing it first, I would not be bothered. To me, it isn't a question of privacy. Keeping in touch with friends and business associates is what people do. 

On 8/10/2024 at 10:51 PM, viewing ownly said:

I...wonder if he's doing this because business lately has been slow for him, so he's reaching out to anyone who ever did business with him at all. 

Ask yourself: what difference does the reason he contacted you make? To me, it makes no difference why an escort contacts me. I take the outreach at face value. 

[+ José Soplanucas]

25 minutes ago, rvwnsd said:

Ask yourself: what difference does the reason he contacted you make a difference. To me, it makes no difference why an escort contacts me. I take the outreach at face value.

+1