How do I explain my limitations when hiring a provider?

[misterhumphries]

4 hours ago, rvwnsd said:

For years and years I've experienced "dry orgasms" and no orgasms at all. It happens. When it does, I just explain to the provider that I don't always have an orgasm or have one with no cum and that's that. If it puts your mind at ease and makes you more relaxed to inform the provider in advance, then do so. A simple "Hey, just to let you know I don't always cum. If it happens when we are together, please don't think I'm not enjoying myself. That isn't the case." will do.

There was an episode of this on "And Just Like That." Harry was having dry orgasms with Charlotte. Turns out he needed to perform kegel exercises to strengthen his pelvic floor. By the end of the episode, Harry was spouting like Old Faithful.. something to think about.

[rvwnsd]

27 minutes ago, misterhumphries said:

There was an episode of this on "And Just Like That." Harry was having dry orgasms with Charlotte. Turns out he needed to perform kegel exercises to strengthen his pelvic floor. By the end of the episode, Harry was spouting like Old Faithful.. something to think about.

I experience dry orgasms when I haven't been drinking enough water. Generally speaking, I spout a huge load.

[urbanfetish]

I am trying to bottom more but it's not always easy for me. It's enjoyable but it can take some effort to get started. I try to keep it low key and say "whatever happens, happens and let's just have fun." It helps take the pressure off both of us. 

[ApexNomad]

On 10/14/2024 at 10:26 PM, urbanfetish said:

I am trying to bottom more but it's not always easy for me. It's enjoyable but it can take some effort to get started. I try to keep it low key and say "whatever happens, happens and let's just have fun." It helps take the pressure off both of us. 

If it helps, start with plenty of foreplay to relax and stimulate, using fingers or toys to help ease into it. Deep breathing and staying relaxed can make a big difference. Use a lot of lube and change positions if needed to find what’s most comfortable. Communicate throughout. 

[phil_hunter]

Thank you, everyone, for your responses. You've been very helpful. I took the advice of looking for a 30+ masseur who does erotic massage, rather than an escort, just to get started, and I've now seen Alex Neto a couple of times. He's amazing. We talked, and he doesn't care about my limitations. It felt so great to be touched again, all over. Thanks for your encouragement.