MCR Posted yesterday at 01:40 AM Share Posted yesterday at 01:40 AM I had a provider new to nyc reach out to me after i initiated communication with him inquiring about his services. He told me he couldn't pay for his dinner at a restaurant so i paid him the $31 for him to eat. Then he tells me he's homeless and sleeping in the street. How do you guys feel about this? Would you like to know who it was so you can decide whether to steer clear from him or should i just let him do his thing? + DrownedBoy and pubic_assistance 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BuffaloKyle Posted yesterday at 01:46 AM Share Posted yesterday at 01:46 AM Homeless Assistance · NYC311 PORTAL.311.NYC.GOV Check this out and pass this on to him. peter831, pubic_assistance, + glutes and 6 others 6 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trick Posted yesterday at 01:47 AM Share Posted yesterday at 01:47 AM (edited) This is a weird fantasy of mine. I wanna “Pretty Woman” a homeless guy. Get him to a good hotel, bathe and pamper him, clothe him, take him out to dinner and of course, you know. I’m glad my fear of STDs keeps me from acting on this. I see a lot of hot homeless guys on my routes. Edited yesterday at 01:49 AM by Trick 30somethingsexybear, Saabster, marylander1940 and 6 others 1 1 4 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
guru68 Posted yesterday at 01:49 AM Share Posted yesterday at 01:49 AM Desperation can make people dangerous;. + Charlie, Hen, 30somethingsexybear and 4 others 2 2 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
urbanfetish Posted yesterday at 01:52 AM Share Posted yesterday at 01:52 AM It's good to be nice but it's also good to be cautious. I've had a couple of guys reach out to me after hiring them with desperate stories. It's hard but you cannot personally save everyone. As Kyle mentioned above, direct him to the appropriate agencies for assistance. Be careful and don't put yourself in financial jeopardy trying to help. BonVivant, TorontoDrew, Pd1_jap and 4 others 5 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Walt Posted yesterday at 02:25 AM Share Posted yesterday at 02:25 AM 32 minutes ago, guru68 said: Desperation can make people dangerous;. Just like narcissism and lack of empathy! Although desperation can also make some people thankful and full of gratitude. + Charlie, Whatsupandstuff, marylander1940 and 1 other 2 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marylander1940 Posted yesterday at 02:25 AM Share Posted yesterday at 02:25 AM 37 minutes ago, MCR said: I had a provider new to nyc reach out to me after i initiated communication with him inquiring about his services. He told me he couldn't pay for his dinner at a restaurant so i paid him the $31 for him to eat. Then he tells me he's homeless and sleeping in the street. How do you guys feel about this? Would you like to know who it was so you can decide whether to steer clear from him or should i just let him do his thing? How do you know that's true? Be cautious. Do you want to help him? Hire him again, recommend him, give him some food, teach him to save money, slowly he'll lift himself out of trouble as long as he doesn't fall into PNP like some unfortunately do. Is he local? Maybe if things didn't work out on his own it's time to go back home. 33 minutes ago, Trick said: This is a weird fantasy of mine. I wanna “Pretty Woman” a homeless guy. Get him to a good hotel, bathe and pamper him, clothe him, take him out to dinner and of course, you know. I’m glad my fear of STDs keeps me from acting on this. I see a lot of hot homeless guys on my routes. I've seen some in Seattle and Denver, not so much in San Francisco where they've been in that lifestyle for a long time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marylander1940 Posted yesterday at 02:26 AM Share Posted yesterday at 02:26 AM 33 minutes ago, urbanfetish said: It's good to be nice but it's also good to be cautious. I've had a couple of guys reach out to me after hiring them with desperate stories. It's hard but you cannot personally save everyone. As Kyle mentioned above, direct him to the appropriate agencies for assistance. Be careful and don't put yourself in financial jeopardy trying to help. It's called "the tragedy of my life", the guys from "DC boys" a now gone agency even taught it to their escorts. + glutes and urbanfetish 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marylander1940 Posted yesterday at 02:30 AM Share Posted yesterday at 02:30 AM 1 minute ago, Walt said: Just like narcissism and lack of empathy! Although desperation can also make some people thankful and full of gratitude. No doubt! Helping others is a good thing but @MCR no advance payment, you'll likely regret it. Pay as you go, hire him more often if you want to help him, also tell him to seek help from local institutions, etc. At least he's escorting and on the right path to make money, get a place, etc. pubic_assistance and Walt 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pubic_assistance Posted yesterday at 03:12 AM Share Posted yesterday at 03:12 AM (edited) 16 hours ago, MCR said: Would you like to know who it was so you can decide whether to steer clear from him or should i just let him do his thing? I am confused by this. He's advertising on rent.men but sleeping in the streets ? Were you his only customer ? Seems like there's a lot more to this story. Edited yesterday at 05:49 PM by pubic_assistance spelling + glutes, ApexNomad, + KensingtonHomo and 12 others 3 9 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JMS Posted yesterday at 07:35 AM Share Posted yesterday at 07:35 AM If he's advertising on a site, I'd want the link so as to steer clear! socurious and + glutes 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ Vegas_Millennial Posted yesterday at 08:51 AM Share Posted yesterday at 08:51 AM 7 hours ago, MCR said: Then he tells me he's homeless and sleeping in the street. How do you guys feel about this? I would insist on outcall sessions only. Wanderoz, Luv2play, marylander1940 and 7 others 2 8 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trick Posted yesterday at 11:35 AM Share Posted yesterday at 11:35 AM 2 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said: I would insist on outcall sessions only. You can do an incall but you have to bring your own tent. + DrownedBoy, + Charlie, DGHou and 2 others 1 2 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thelatin Posted yesterday at 12:21 PM Share Posted yesterday at 12:21 PM I’ve been helping a guy like this the past year. He basically couch surfs. I got him hooked up with some social services, some dental work, he’s currently sober. Not a project I would take on again… Hen, kfnorwich, + Charlie and 11 others 6 1 1 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
guru68 Posted yesterday at 12:36 PM Share Posted yesterday at 12:36 PM 14 minutes ago, Thelatin said: I’ve been helping a guy like this the past year. He basically couch surfs. I got him hooked up with some social services, some dental work, he’s currently sober. Not a project I would take on again… Very commendable of you - I'm glad that it is turning out well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
robberbaron4u Posted yesterday at 01:29 PM Share Posted yesterday at 01:29 PM 11 hours ago, guru68 said: Desperation can make people dangerous;. And there you have it. The one and only time I have been robbed in the course of thirty years of hiring was occasioned by taking pity on a "homeless" escort, well-known in the "carriage trade", in need. However, notoriety in the business did not serve to alleviate his desperation in dire circumstances. pubic_assistance, + DrownedBoy, + Charlie and 1 other 1 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ glutes Posted yesterday at 02:24 PM Share Posted yesterday at 02:24 PM 12 hours ago, guru68 said: Desperation can make people dangerous;. Yup. Better put on your seatbelts... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SometimesBi Posted yesterday at 02:45 PM Share Posted yesterday at 02:45 PM 13 hours ago, MCR said: I had a provider new to nyc reach out to me after i initiated communication with him inquiring about his services. He told me he couldn't pay for his dinner at a restaurant so i paid him the $31 for him to eat. Then he tells me he's homeless and sleeping in the street. How do you guys feel about this? Would you like to know who it was so you can decide whether to steer clear from him or should i just let him do his thing? Wait a minute... How did you find him? What service is he paying to advertise on? He must have a cel phone, at least. More monthly expenses. When he arrived, were his clothes clean? Was he clean, freshly showered? Did he bring lube/protection? (You don't have to answer this one if too personal for what you did with him.) The answers to these types of questions may reveal a bit more about how helpless/homeless he really is, or isn't. + Charlie, pubic_assistance and + azdr0710 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
D21howie Posted yesterday at 02:57 PM Share Posted yesterday at 02:57 PM 12 hours ago, marylander1940 said: How do you know that's true? Be cautious. Do you want to help him? Hire him again, recommend him, give him some food, teach him to save money, slowly he'll lift himself out of trouble as long as he doesn't fall into PNP like some unfortunately do. Is he local? Maybe if things didn't work out on his own it's time to go back home. I've seen some in Seattle and Denver, not so much in San Francisco where they've been in that lifestyle for a long time. I agree with you 100%. A lot of people these days pretend to be homeless for money. Your best bet is to give him a gift card for food and a toiletries bag. + DrownedBoy, pubic_assistance, + Charlie and 3 others 2 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Winky Posted yesterday at 03:15 PM Share Posted yesterday at 03:15 PM I would maybe put my sexual desires aside and help him get off the streets if that's what he means by "homeless." It might just be that he has no permanent residence and couch surfs and does overnights. Sex with people who are sleeping in the street could mean getting infected with lice, scabies, mites...which takes more than a "Pretty Woman" shower to get rid of. pubic_assistance and moonlight 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
la_connor Posted yesterday at 03:38 PM Share Posted yesterday at 03:38 PM I had a guy show up carrying his backpack. Looked like his pic, but had been sleeping rough and needed a bath. He said he was homeless and looked it. I let him use my shower, paid him, and sent him on his way. I felt good about helping a man in need, but no way would I tap that. Saabster and pubic_assistance 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ Charlie Posted yesterday at 03:39 PM Share Posted yesterday at 03:39 PM How does one get a phone without an address for the bill? Does he pay his advertising bill with cash? Something sounds fishy here. pubic_assistance 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ICTJOCK Posted yesterday at 03:39 PM Share Posted yesterday at 03:39 PM This is a hard situation to assess. The guy may really need help or it could just be a scam. I would probably ask a set of questions to determine if it was legit. Has he reached out for assistance? How did he get into this condition. I think a bit of conversation will yield the answers and approach you might want to take, but I realize this might be wishful thinking. I'm not sure giving him money is really the answer, he really needs direction and assistance, regardless of his circumstances. + Charlie, marylander1940 and + azdr0710 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marylander1940 Posted yesterday at 03:47 PM Share Posted yesterday at 03:47 PM 7 minutes ago, Charlie said: How does one get a phone without an address for the bill? Does he pay his advertising bill with cash? Something sounds fishy here. Many prepaid phones simply need a CC on file to be charged every month to work. Many homeless have smart phones. pubic_assistance, + DrownedBoy and Hen 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ Charlie Posted yesterday at 03:49 PM Share Posted yesterday at 03:49 PM 1 minute ago, marylander1940 said: Many prepaid phones simply need a CC on file to be charged every month to work. Many homeless have smart phones. How do you get a credit card without a home address? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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