Question for Escorts on paid companionship (no sex) encounters

[EZEtoGRU]

Escorts I'm curious. How often does a client engage your services for a "date" where it is known from the get-go that the "date" will not eventually result in sex. Basically a paid companion that does not involve any sex.

 

I ask because I confess I do this sometimes.......I just want dinner out or a show but not really in the mood for sexual activity. However I do want an attractive young companion by my side. I've always thought it might be considered strange or be somewhat rare. Clients can chime in as well. BE NICE!! LOL.

[KMEM]

Engagements that are beyond a few minutes or a few hours inevitably result in activities other than sex. No one, escort or client, can do otherwise. So, it certainly is not beyond the realm of possibility that it could not only end that way but also begin that way.

 

Who doesn't want a convivial companion for dinner or whatever?

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[nate_sf]

I can't think of any time where I've had an appointment that was strictly companionship (no sex). As KMEM says, the longer appointments inevitably result in activities other than sex, but sex is always on the menu somewhere. I'm not complaining since, well, I really like sex!

 

I did have a client recently take me shopping (Mr S!), buy me a number of pricey items, then we went out for dinner. No money was exchanged but the value of the shopping trip was not insignificant. And then the next night we met for sex.

 

I have had a number of social outings with members of this board (both clients and escorts) where no sex was involved, but neither was money exchanged except for buying drinks or dinner.

[Kevin Slater]

Escorts I'm curious. How often does a client engage your services for a "date" where it is known from the get-go that the "date" will not eventually result in sex. Basically a paid companion that does not involve any sex.

 

Occasionally, but not often. Interestingly, when it does happen, the client seems to subsequently book a few more similar sessions.

 

Kevin Slater

[Guest countryboywny]

I have had a number of social outings with members of this board (both clients and escorts) where no sex was involved, but neither was money exchanged except for buying drinks or dinner.

 

Nate,

I'd buy you dinner anytime just for the chance to look at your beautiful eyes!

[geoffk]

I have taken some straight guys out I know for just dinner and some shopping knowing there would not be sex involved. These are guys I know pretty well and I enjoy their company. I don't think I would ask an escort that I don't really know to do this as we may not have anything else to talk about except sex! LOL.

[jimboivyo]

I've hired folks to accompany me on trips, given them their own rooms and only met with them for meals or to talk on things. there are times when I just don't feel like making things sexual and I want a guy who can actually hold a conversation about this or that.

 

tough to find those right guys who can stimulate you mentally AND physically but I have a few now who are tops in my book

[Keenan]

Escorts I'm curious. How often does a client engage your services for a "date" where it is known from the get-go that the "date" will not eventually result in sex. Basically a paid companion that does not involve any sex.

 

I ask because I confess I do this sometimes.......I just want dinner out or a show but not really in the mood for sexual activity. However I do want an attractive young companion by my side. I've always thought it might be considered strange or be somewhat rare. Clients can chime in as well. BE NICE!! LOL.

 

I have had client take me to the movies, dinner, etc.... Sex isn't necessary with a escort during your time. We are here for more than that.

 

Keenan

[Steven_Draker]

Escorts I'm curious. How often does a client engage your services for a "date" where it is known from the get-go that the "date" will not eventually result in sex.

 

I have a client who hires me solely to have dinner with me. He pays for dinner and for my time and there's no sex involved.

 

We had sex one time only (the first time I met him) and I was the only person he ever had sex with. No judgement here ... you asked the question, there you have an answer.

[Electra 225]

I've done this a few times over the past two years (hired an escort to, literally, escort me). I've hired them strictly for their company (all are very well educated, well spoken, and always dress appropriately) and we usually go to things like holiday parties or other social events. Also, I've taken an escort strictly on a dinner date (just the two of us) to several well-regarded and well-reviewed local restaurants. In each case, no sex (before, during, or after) happens as the occasion is understood by both of us to be purely social. Yes, I have had sex with all of them, but not as part of the social date/encounter. I always drive, pick up the tab and other expenses. The arrangement is, typically, for a four-hour appointment and the fee is negotiated and agreed upon in advance. This, for me, is an ideal solution and alternative to going "stag"--especially when the crowd is predominately comprised of couples. Note: this is an idea that must be discussed in all honesty and detail with an escort, preferably in person, so that they know what kind of social situation they will encounter. Some have declined to do this as they are concerned that they will run into other clients at the function and did not want to either feel uncomfortable themselves or want to make their clients (other than me) feel uncomfortable. Fortunately, there are three other relatively large (to large) cities within driving distance to my city and I have had slightly more and better interest from escorts from out of town to the idea of a social date at a social affair when they are almost certain not to "run into" a familiar client or clients. My two cents.

[corndog]

I think there are times when I'd love to hire an escort just for their company, but I honestly would have a problem paying $200 or more an hour for that service. At the same time, I wouldn't really feel comfortable trying to negotiate a lower rate, since we've all implicitly agreed that escorts rates are "for their time only, and anything that transpires is between two consenting adults."

 

Is there a good way to approach this situation?

[down_to_business]

I think there are times when I'd love to hire an escort just for their company, but I honestly would have a problem paying $200 or more an hour for that service. At the same time, I wouldn't really feel comfortable trying to negotiate a lower rate, since we've all implicitly agreed that escorts rates are "for their time only, and anything that transpires is between two consenting adults."

 

Is there a good way to approach this situation?

 

Step 1 : Establish a good relationship with an escort.

Step 2 : Have a conversation with him. Tell him exactly what you are looking and simply ask him if he would offer you a different or reduced rate.

Step 3 : Listen to his answer. Accept or reject it. Thank him.

Step 4 : Be true to your word as well, don't change your mind and attempt to stray from the date you described (i.e. don't decide you are going to try and get some after your date).

 

No bargaining or negotiating or awkwardness required.

 

Don't try and approach this topic "out of the blue" with a new escort having never met him before.

[jawjateck]

Since I hire for longer appointments, there will always be plenty of other activities during my hires, dinners, outings, sporting events, etc. But I'm still a horndog and when I hire a hot guy, there will always be some flesh-to-flesh interaction. I have a sufficient supply of friends and family to fill any comraderie issues in my life. I aint payin for that.

[Michael Wayne]

Almost never with male clients (once a year) Quite often with female clients (once or twice a month) Interestingly when I was a puppy in Palm Beach there was a thing called , "Walkers," and it was when a male would escort a wealthy society woman to an event or function. He was paid and no sex involved. I believe it still goes on. The male was normally a middle aged to older man not a young eye candy stud. I will add one more thing: I personally really enjoy my non-sexual time with my clients. At dinner is when I get to know them well. I find that this enhances the sex..... http://www.rentboy.com/mikey9nola1

[Atomicshawn]

Step 1 : Establish a good relationship with an escort.

Step 2 : Have a conversation with him. Tell him exactly what you are looking and simply ask him if he would offer you a different or reduced rate.

Step 3 : Listen to his answer. Accept or reject it. Thank him.

Step 4 : Be true to your word as well, don't change your mind and attempt to stray from the date you described (i.e. don't decide you are going to try and get some after your date).

 

No bargaining or negotiating or awkwardness required.

 

Don't try and approach this topic "out of the blue" with a new escort having never met him before.

 

I'd agree with the above approach.

 

I've been hired by clients who, for whatever reason, cannot function in the bedroom and have come to the realization that some good conversation over a nice dinner and wine is, for them, what it's all about. I find it quite nice actually. As for rates being different, all I can say is that it really depends on the situation. Personally think that if the client and escort already have a good history, there is a higher chance of having an out-of-bedroom experience that works for both parties.

[Juan Vancouver]

It takes all types...

 

I don't think this is a strange or rare occurrence at all.

 

I can say that for me there are two different kind of sessions that fall under this category:

 

The "absolutely no sex" session. It comprises dinner, theatre, social events, sporting events, activities, traveling, coaching, working out together. Maybe 5% of my sessions fall in this category but it generates a large chunk of my income. 90% of the clients that I meet for this kind of session are steady regulars.

 

A vn our specific characteristics.

 

The "sex as a small part of the equation" session. Dinner, theatre, all sorts of activities, travel, and sometimes, not every time, there is some sort of sexual or sensual contact. Sometimes this contact is only sensual mutual massage. I'd say that 20 percent of my sessions fall under this category.

 

A very good friend of mine and excellent escort has non sexual sessions almost exclusively and he is VERY busy. Clearly all of us have different market niches depending on our specific characteristics.

 

As for rates, Corndog, you will find two types of escorts:

 

One is specialized in this kind of sessions. Well educated, easy going, intelligent, fun, presentable, adaptable, relaxed. He does this kind of escorting often. He has geared his practice and honed his skills for excelling at this. Chances are a big chunk of his income comes from companionship alone, so it is possible he will have clear rates for his time, regardless of what he session looks like.

 

The other type is the escort who sees his job as a sexual companion. (I see nothing wrong with that, by the way. They are just two different professions entirely.) If you tell this kind of escort that you just want to hang out without having sex, you may be surprised by the response you get. Some will gladly offer a different rate, some will even jump at the offer of you paying for dinner or the vacation only.

 

In the end I don't think anyone should ever be offended by you asking if there is a different rate. You should always be prepared for a negative response and the possibility of souring the relationship with that escort (It happens) and every escort should be prepared to having clients asking for all sorts of things: discounts, barebacking, deals, obscure fetishes, exemptions and stamps redeeming. It comes with the territory and most professionals will deal with all of this in a professional manner, whether they agree to the requests or not.

[EZEtoGRU]

Thanks for all the responses everyone. Obviously this goes on more than I realized. I had a club date with a professional in Miami last week and it was a blast. No sex. I had a great time and I guess that's all that matters. Muchas gracias a todos.

[gp0560]

. . . stamps redeeming . . .

 

Roflmao!

[Juan Vancouver]

Roflmao!

 

I wish I was joking about the stamps redeeming...

 

But actually I don't wish that. That is a really odd story to tell the grandchildren.

 

"You see, kids, when grandad was a hooker he received a phonecall once and...."

 

What doesn't kill you makes your stories better.