Palm Springs Weekend! My Impressions and Changes Going Forward!

[+ Oliver]

... the escort that most blew my mind was Ace Banner, because it was fascinating to see somebody new to the game navigate unfamiliar surroundings with such sophistication and sexiness, right down to the Southern accent. Oh, so that's how it is done! Y'all must be fixin to have a real good time. :-) ...

OMG - absolutely stunning! From the white suit and red shirt at Saturday dinner to the two (count'em, two) swim(?) suits on Sunday. Both with zippers - both of which worked quite well, I tested them - one yellow, the other blue and white. Charm and sex oozing from everywhere! I may have to visit Mississippi!

 

... Oh, and Oliver - argofuckyourself!

SK - same to ya!

[+ sf westcoaster]

OMG - absolutely stunning! From the white suit and red shirt at Saturday dinner to the two (count'em, two) swim(?) suits on Sunday. Both with zippers - both of which worked quite well, I tested them - one yellow, the other blue and white. Charm and sex oozing from everywhere! I may have to visit Mississippi!

 

SK - same to ya!

 

I didn't test the zippers, but as I recall I am the one who pointed them out to you - guess that makes me the "idea" guy and you the "man of action". Maybe we should become a team next year.

[jj69action]

Steven it was a real pleasure to meet and get to talk with you this year! I had so much fun dancing with you at Hunter's and getting to know you. I look forward to my next trip to Palm Springs and hopefully we can meet up! Thank you for the memories!!

I just saw this, so sorry being late to the discussion as well, but it is an interesting post from a very classy guy.

 

It was my third time at the party, and it was definitely more fun for me than ever before. Part of it was the weather was just so nice, and part of it is I live here now and the weather was just so nice. Oh, and did I mention the weather was really nice? But the other part of it was that I left a few memorable days feeling more than ever that this is a community I really enjoy being a part of. Some of the people there I've known for years, and some are people - like Tristan - I just met, but all of it left me feeling really good about who I am, what I do, and most important the relationships I have.

 

It was fun to just sit back and watch how the "pro's" do it. Not that I am exactly ignorant, having been a professional haw for years now. (Am I allowed to use that word?) But it was fun to be in Florida a few months ago when Mr. Traveler got a call from Tristan while we were having lunch and see him just light up. Seeing Tristan do his thing at the party was a little bit like the Susan Boyle moment when she first surfaced. There was a first impression some people had based on very little information. The whole thing about needing to call an intermediary to make an appointment with an escort did rub some people the wrong way, and it sounds like Tristan heard that directly from them. Tristan didn't have to sing "I Dreamed A Dream" to win everybody over, he just had to look like a dream and act friendly and sexy as hell. And I suppose it doesn't hurt to have the body of a God. It was just fun to sit back and watch how somebody who is effortlessly warm and earnest walks in to a situation where people have preconceptions and just charms the hell out of everybody.

 

Speaking of preconceptions, my "funny thing that happened on the way to the forum" is that I became an escort pretty much feeling many of the things that are either stated or implied by what Tristan is saying. Being an escort puts you in a club of hot, sexy guys, and you get to have a lot of fun, and you get to do "business" with clients that is financially lucrative. That all turned out as planned, fortunately, but the thing I didn't plan on or expect years later is some of the "business relationships" would actually turn into some of the closest and most nurturing and supportive relationships I've ever had. Now that its happened it doesn't actually surprise me as much - it's pretty much what all my clients did in their lives, whether they were a teacher or a lawyer or a corporate bigwig. They built their relationships largely around people they spent their business lives with. We're just in a weird line of business. But it sort of makes sense that if your business is getting naked with people, having sex, and baring your soul in a way you don't do with most people, even in your own family, there might be a surprising level of intimacy and closeness that develops over time. Whether you or somebody you trust screens or schedules clients or not, when it gets down to it, there's really not a lot between you and another human being, other than maybe a few hard cocks .

 

It was obvious that all the escorts there who had been around had all experienced the same thing in their own ways. It was fun to be around Chris's openness and warmth and curiousity, from the moment he landed and put out invitations to everybody to go have fun, and Tyger's soulful empathy (and fingers - maybe next time I'll get some of that couch thing as well), and Nate's generosity and sincerity, and Ace's down-to-earth friendliness, and Jason's honest and refreshingly blunt way of being very genuine around people (not to mention that perpetually fat, hard cock). It is self-congratulatory to say this, but it all made me feel like I am happy to be part of the community I chose to be part of years ago. And on that note, the escort that most blew my mind was Ace Banner, because it was fascinating to see somebody new to the game navigate unfamiliar surroundings with such sophistication and sexiness, right down to the Southern accent. Oh, so that's how it is done! Y'all must be fixin to have a real good time. :-)

 

One of the things that felt like a bummer the last few years is spending a lot of time in San Francisco volunteering on the gay marriage thing, and feeling like I got nowhere and accomplished nothing, other than maybe beating my head against the wall. So last year's election was like a huge orgasm for me - all of a sudden after all that time knocking on doors and talking to some hard core bigots, suddenly we won in every state that people made a decision about us, and everything that seemed closed and frustrating was now open and dynamic. That's sort of what the pool party did for me, except in a funner, less abstract way. This weird world of escorts and clients and sex and travel and sophistication has been my version of "gay marriage" for about a dozen years now. Several years ago one client gave me a book on "polyamory" that helped me to understand why I'd made my own unconventional but mostly fulfilling life choices. What connected about the pool party weekend for me, and about all the relationships and memories it encompassed, is that we are all on our own adventures of discovering ourselves, with each other, and this is a different and fun way to have colleagues in crime along the way, whether they are escorts or clients. We are all haws, and while there may still be a few bigots out there, it is definitely no longer a crime, and I just love it. I was delighted to go to my mailbox this week and pull out the Time cover story saying no matter what the Supreme Court decides about marriage, gays have already won. Oliver and Epigonos and the crowd they've helped pull together have made me feel like a winner for years, and I am very grateful for that. Oh, and Oliver - argofuckyourself!