Rentboy ads - face

[Tonyko]

I'm SO impressed by the depth of these responses to what I thought when I started the thread was going to be a light discussion of escorts w face pics putting their best foot forward in their main profile pic of their ads etc. And I never gave any thought to the fact that many gay4pay scorts ARE married men w families or men w children of internet accessibility age. (which is about 6 now lol) As far as honoring the privacy of scorts who do not post face pics but DO send them upon request, I would hope that aside from cases of a scam or some type of dangerous experience that needs to be shared for safety sake, that we'd all agree these should never be shared or posted publicly. I admit I do KEEP everything, on a separate laptop that I keep hidden lol, in a folder boringly labeled "Books To Buy" :-) It's important for me, both for hires I want to try or repeat, as well as when memory fails or an ad seems new. I always check to make sure it is not someone who's sent a face pic that I am not interested in looks-wise so I do not waste their time. What I've gleaned from all this is to each his own :-) For some it doesn't matter, and for some, like me, it's a deal breaker and I don't hire w/o it, and the line you won't be disappointed you can send me away if you're not happy etc, doesn't work for me. Mostly because I would DIE of embarassment telling someone I don't like their looks so I would go thru with it anyway lol. It's a matter of personal taste. (I used to watch "Seinfeld" and think he's kinda hot, I'm sure MANY would not agree, who can explain what pushes our buttons?? :-) Bottom line: we all just respect each other's boundaries. If an escort says no face pic and it's a must for us, we respect that and don't try to harrangue one out of him and move on. And if we move on, the scort respects that and doesn't try to convince us to do otherwise. Right? -: )

[Juan Vancouver]

Hey William.

 

Thank you so much for your kind words, I really appreciate them. =) I am glad to read that you have your method that works for you. I hope that you continue connecting with guys with whom there's a definitely spark.

 

As for your question:

 

Does "private" sharing of face pictures ever boomerang? How often do those "private" pix become "public"? And how often does the escort "face" bad consequences? (I do not know the answers to these questions, frankly.)

 

The answer is: ALWAYS.

 

One saying in the entertainment industry is that if you want to make sure you control how an image is used, the only way to do it is never to release it. Once it is in someone else's hands, it will be shared, it will be "leaked", it will be "accidentally" placed where others can see it. I don't doubt that you or other men are worthy of being trusted, but I also know there are many other types.

 

I have been with a few clients, who as foreplay, even before showing any interest in making contact with me, gave me a comprehensive show of how well versed they are in the arts of hiring; they shared the real names of most of their escorts (First and last), shared really private employment information which could be very sensitive, they shared pictures -especially pictures of those men who don't post their face on their ads, shared sex videos and even went as far as offering to email me any of those. It's these kind of client who goes right then into saying something like: "So, you see? You can totally trust me! All these other guys trusted me and I have kept each one of their secrets!"

 

Not exaggerating.

 

I don't even think they are aware of how indiscreet they really are and I sincerely don't fault them. We hardly ever notice when we do stuff like that, otherwise we wouldn't do it. Who I do fault is those trusting guys who believe their information or image will be safeguarded as well as they want it guarded.

 

There's no way to un-share a picture. Once it's online, it belongs to everyone. (I am not talking about copyright, but the readiness with which it can be obtained. Ask Jennifer Lawrence.)

 

Hope this answers your question.

[J-Man]

Your Rentboy link is down again.

[down_to_business]

All I can say is if the face is important to you, than don't hire without a face picture. If the face isn't so important like some others mentioned (i.e. body and/or good reviews) do it for you, then by all means hire based on the body or reviews. What you don't want to do under any circumstance is let someone else's opinion or comments sway you from what is important to you.

 

To me personally, the face is just as important as the body when hiring. I have (in the past) made a few hires without a face picture and NEVER once was happy with the results. I will admit, however, after seeing Alec's face picture(originally he did not post), had I hired him I would have been definitely more than satisfied with the outcome.

 

No one knows what is important to you more than you do. Always do what is best for you. That is the best advice I can give you.