Relationship with Escort

[+ Eric Hassan]

I was in a serious on-off relationship with one for 7 months and I just ended it for good. I'd

say no OP, go talk with a therapist and get some self-esteem. Dating someone in that industry is the worst thing ever! Exposing yourself to stds and sharing your partner with others daily. No one should be subjected to that or settle for that

 

This is a horrible response. You've basically stated anyone who wants to date a sex worker has no self-esteem and is only going to be subjected to terrible things. Dating someone "in the industry" didn't work out for you - I suspect that's because your notion of dating is some idyllic, monogamous, completely-without-risk fantasy world where you can exist safely in your little bubble. Spreading your shame in the form of this "warning" is completely transparent and pathetic. You're mad because you didn't get what you wanted but YOU chose this guy so the fault rests with YOU. If anyone needs to go see a therapist and get some self-esteem, it seems like it's YOU.

[mike carey]

This is a horrible response

What you said, Eric.

[Epigonos]

I’m in general agreement with Eric Hassan, however, my reaction is NOT quite so harsh. In our society (U.S.,) today, we tend to “insist” on equating love and sex. They are NOT the same. If, however, a guy insists on claiming that they are, then it isn’t very likely that he will be able to establish a successful, emotional boyfriend or husband relationship with an escort. We all share our friends, our family and our lovers with others on a daily basis. We usually have jobs to go to and also have associates and friends with whom we spend time. That expenditure of time is deemed, by most, to be acceptable as long as it doesn’t involve sex. Sex can and is most definitely an aspect of love but it certainly isn’t the only one and in many situations it isn’t even the most important one.

 

Many years ago I was a part of a straight potluck dinner group. I replaced the deceased husband of one of the member. At one of the dinner my companion asked another woman how her husband was recovering from his prostatectomy. She responded that he was doing quite well BUT that the operation had made a major dent in their love life. To my surprise and delight my companion made one of the most loving and moving responses I can imagine. She looked the woman straight in the face and said “I can certainly understand that it might have made a tent in your sex life but I would certainly hope that it hasn’t made a dent in your love life". My friend died a few years ago but damn she was a very wise and a very caring human being.

[+ dutchmuch]

O-Ophelia, heaven help a fool who falls in love.

 

Lumineers, 'Ophelia'

[+ glutes]

He's spread his mascara on my pillow cases. Delightful!

[Guest KongKingBing]

Thanks for all the replies. I have given this extensive thought. I do not think I am suited to "date" an escort per se. If I had an escort that I hired consistently for a period of time and our relationship developed into something that is one possibility I am open to; however, due to the fact that I can be somewhat of a possessive lover, I think I would be opening up myself to pain. I would not control the escort, but I would probably be hurt, because I would feel like I was not enough for them because they are getting fucked by others for money or if we had an arrangement where I pay for things, it would feel bad because I would think to myself he only wants me for my money. I think that the reason I was considering dating one is that "I wanted something that everyone else wants" if that makes sense. I did want to date someone who is sexually enticing, but emotionally it is probably too difficult for me.

 

BTW, I think Hunter Lee is so fucking attractive, but I am in the NYC area so he is too far from me unfortunately.....very much my type though.

[Guest countryboywny]

BTW, I think Hunter Lee is so fucking attractive, but I am in the NYC area so he is too far from me unfortunately.....very much my type though.

 

You could fly him up to you, just a thought.

[Guest countryboywny]

I try to have a "relationship" with every escort that I hire. There are many different types of relationships, for the most part I try to become a trusted friend. Some are open to it, some are not. Within the parameter's of my life situation, I'm open to let what happens happen and if it works, great. If not, no issue for me.

[mike carey]

Just a thought, we may be talking about two different things here. If 'relationship with an escort' means meeting an escort and then having an LTR with him, that is pretty much a fantasy, and not something a client should even think about. It may happen, but don't expect it to happen. The other possibility is meeting a guy, having some sort of thing with him and then finding out that he is an escort. That is an entirely different situation, but it still may be challenging. The end-state is the same, can you cope with a partner who is an escort, but for most of us, the likelihood of it happening is slight.