Potential Clients think I am a prostitute?

[Zapped]

I'm clearly a prostitute, duh.

 

I don't want to say that i'm a prostitute, to a client I have never met before. Because thats stupid, duh.

 

How do I make clients understand this boundary, all the while; keeping them enticed to commit to an appointment?

 

Please enlighten me, if you and your "prospects" just lay all the cards on the table, and agree that you both will be engaging in the solicitation of; and the act of prostitution. via zero concern whatsoever, because that damn well feels like what everyone is saying is the "norm" which is stupid as hell if you ask me. Also, im not offering massages; i'm offering body rubs that accompany my time

 

Every profession has its risks. With escorting and "body rubs," there are no shows, occasional crazy people, people with bad hygiene, people who don't pay, and the occasional sting. Most escorts who post here seem to find that these are manageable risks and that the benefits far outweigh the rewards. There seem to be very few incidents of arrests of escorts or clients who follow reasonable precautions, but there's always a small risk, and you have to find the best way to manage that risk. Or don't do sex work for one of your income streams.

 

There are many things that are illegal yet many, even most, people think are actually fine. Pot smoking. Until fairly recently, non-heterosexual sex. Voluntary sex work--which is often a form of healing work--by adults is one of them. If you do something against the law, even if the law is unfair, you run a risk of getting arrested.

 

What you are asking is how to be clear that you are offering sex work without being clear that you are offering sex work. As far as I can tell, you can't. You can minimize the risk by not agreeing to specific sex acts for money, by checking the numbers you get calls from, by not taking money at the start of a session, etc. There have been many threads about how to minimize risks, and there are plenty of experienced escorts who will give you advice and mentor you.

 

But if the police really want to arrest a male prostitute, they will, including using various forms of entrapment.

 

So you are playing the odds. Which you do every time you cross the street, drive or ride in a car, eat food, etc. Pedestrians get run over, people are injured or die in vehicular accidents, get food poisoning, get cancer, drop dead without warning, get struck by lightning, are shot by someone with a gun, etc., every day.

 

Life is fantastic. Sex work can be fantastic. And there will always be risks. You can minimize them but not eliminate them. Escorting is voluntary and you can choose to avoid its risks by not working in the field. Whatever you do, embrace the risks as well as the joys.

[Jamie]

@Zapped @saminseattle @pubic_assistance

 

Thanks boys, you guys really hit the nail on the head with what I was looking for response wise. It's taken me a while to admit it and work out the kinks, but from the looks of things this is just an occupational hazard that's difficult to evade. The last couple of clients I have been fairly up front about my work, and they seemed to appreciate that I would be hesitant; I think there is a balance in the ethics of this field of work.

 

On the other side of this rainbow I have had a little bit of trouble placing my trust in clients; I think it's wrong of me to distrust most new clients But I have had some traumatic experiences and I would prefer not to repeat them. I have been asking clients full name for a background check prior to an appointment, from what I have read; many agencies in the area require full contact information. Especially if it's a hotel or just a "walk in the park" or something, I just feel more comfortable knowing their identity and history.

 

I think this is due to lack of experience. I'll figure the job out, there is just a learning curve. I have business, so i'm not scaring everyone away and I am not advertising that much so I don't really have a reputation that can diminish.

 

 

Thanks again boys, big help <3

 

Kiss

[Bearofdistinction]

@Zapped @saminseattle @pubic_assistance

 

Thanks boys, you guys really hit the nail on the head with what I was looking for response wise. It's taken me a while to admit it and work out the kinks, but from the looks of things this is just an occupational hazard that's difficult to evade. The last couple of clients I have been fairly up front about my work, and they seemed to appreciate that I would be hesitant; I think there is a balance in the ethics of this field of work.

 

On the other side of this rainbow I have had a little bit of trouble placing my trust in clients; I think it's wrong of me to distrust most new clients But I have had some traumatic experiences and I would prefer not to repeat them. I have been asking clients full name for a background check prior to an appointment, from what I have read; many agencies in the area require full contact information. Especially if it's a hotel or just a "walk in the park" or something, I just feel more comfortable knowing their identity and history.

 

I think this is due to lack of experience. I'll figure the job out, there is just a learning curve. I have business, so i'm not scaring everyone away and I am not advertising that much so I don't really have a reputation that can diminish.

 

 

Thanks again boys, big help <3

 

Okay --- I always submit fingerprints - urine - DNA - my SosSec # - Date of Birth and Credit Score before I meet Someone new

 

And why wouldn't every one do the same!!!!!

 

Hey Julius ---- Yours Gets Mine!

Kiss

[Jamie]

Okay --- I always submit fingerprints - urine - DNA - my SosSec # - Date of Birth and Credit Score before I meet Someone new

 

And why wouldn't every one do the same!!!!!

 

Hey Julius ---- Yours Gets Mine!

Kiss

 

I am not alone on this. Background checks are important. Especially considering it's my body, i'll decide the terms. Thanks for your invaluable input

[Bearofdistinction]

[quote=Bearofinitial reaction

 

istinction, post: 1120009, member: 12650]Guys - After reading this and the responses my gut reaction is. . . .

 

RUN FORREST RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I stand by my Initial Reaction

[MasterMaxRR]

I was going to post almost verbatim the same thing. Thank you Saminseattle as you have saved me from typing a long response and have presented it in a way that exceeds my own ability. WELL DONE! Jamie, please consider his words carefully as it presents an excellent view of both sides. Following his advice, you can do no wrong in my opinion. Also, it should be enough that the service is implied without people assuming that you'll do it for every client. Some massage therapists and escorts are conditional about how they offer their services and there is NOTHING wrong with that. keep doing what you're doing buddy but also realize that many clients have been misled and are simply trying to be assured that they are getting what they want for what they pay. Just be clear to them either way from the start and if they have a problem with that, then it is indeed their problem not yours.

 

Love and Light

Master Max