Do you have trouble with booking an Escort too early?

[InterestingGuy]

When I travel, I often try to book an escort a week or so in advance.

 

I have been having problems with escorts who say "yes" to an appointment a week or 5 days in advance - then I check in the day before to confirm and they say "yes" again - and then the day of the appointment they are nowhere to be found and will not respond to texts or calls.

 

I understand sometimes someone has to cancel - but this has become a consistent problem - especially in larger Escort cities like NYC or Las Vegas.

 

I find I only have success if I make initial contact an hour or two before I'd like to meet - but that limits my options.

 

Has anyone else been having this issue?

[escortrod]

On the other side of this, I have often found that people who make bookings so far in advance don't follow through. That doesn't stop me from accepting and honouring such bookings, but I imagine it may put off others.

[TopTierTop]

I very often accept and encourage advanced bookings and have never canceled an appointment. For me, the issue is more last minute requests. More often than not, if someone contacts me for same day, I am already unavailable. I suppose the escorts who are disappearing on you are not willing to take the risk of having no client that day because they don't feel sure that you are going to come through. I think my advance bookings feel confident because we chat often up until the date of the appointment. It's not like the next time we are in contact after the appointment is booked is the day of the appointment. I would suggest to stay in regular contact with the escort, and if he is not interested in chatting with you on an ongoing basis before and after you meet, find someone else.

[big-n-tall]

On the other side of this, I have often found that people who make bookings so far in advance don't follow through. That doesn't stop me from accepting and honouring such bookings, but I imagine it may put off others.

 

My work schedule is nuts... like by a lot sometimes. So I often book well in advance. Most of the people I see regularly have no problem with this. They often contact me and let me know they are coming to town weeks to months beforehand. It works out for the most part.

 

Once I set something up, it's rare I don't follow through. Just sayin' ...in case we ever meet.

[Kevin Slater]

I find the likelihood of a booking actually coming through is inversely proportional to the amount of contact beforehand. When someone contacts me about weeks in advance I say "absolutely, hit me up to confirm once you're in town" and inevitably never hear from them again.

 

Kevin Slater

[down_to_business]

I find the likelihood of a booking actually coming through is inversely proportional to the amount of contact beforehand. When someone contacts me about weeks in advance I say "absolutely, hit me up to confirm once you're in town" and inevitably never hear from them again.

 

Kevin Slater

 

Of course, someone could easily take your reply as a blow off or lack of interest in the first place. I mean, If I inquired about setting something up in advance and got such a reply, that's how I would take it... just saying... not criticizing..

 

I then would have contacted the next person on my list and hoped to get a more encouraging advanced booking

 

Also, and only speaking for myself, I have booked in advance several times and never cancelled. Escorts have cancelled on me quite a few times costing me quite a bit in unrecoverable travel and entertainment (i.e. transportation, event tickets, tours) expenses.

 

Of course as an escort, you have to use whatever business model works best for you... I get it.

[madjim]

Agr

Of course, someone could easily take your reply as a blow off or lack of interest in the first place. I mean, If I inquired about setting something up in advance and got such a reply, that's how I would take it... just saying... not criticizing..

Of course as an escort, you have to use whatever business model works best for you... I get it.

Agreed - I tend to take it more seriously when they are engaged when I contact via text. If the conversation about time and date is more firm and there is more discussion about the meeting - I feel much more confident.

[body2body]

I have had very poor results in making advance bookings when I travel. Before a trip to London last year I booked "appointments" with two Gentlemen. I was going to be there 6 days. The both guys said they were available the nights I requested and to reconfirm upon my arrival in town. I texted the first guy on arrival. He said he forgot I was coming, and was booked for the night I wanted to see him, he suggested the next night, but I was going to the Theatre with friends. I texted the second guy, left a voice mail message, and messaged him on RM. I never heard a word until I was back in LA the following Tuesday. "I got your message, I can see you tonight". So much for advance planning. On both evenings I used RentMen "available now" search function and made arrangements with other guys. I will not do any advance scheduling in the future.

[+ bashful]

Sometime late last summer, and into the fall, I noticed a higher incident of ads for traveling guys advertising an upcoming visit to my city, only to see the ads disappear within days of their scheduled arrival. Don't know if they were testing the market, but I now don't see much point in contacting them until they're actually in town, or I've met them in the past, and am sure they will be there.

[UpDownUnder]

Of course, someone could easily take your reply as a blow off or lack of interest in the first place. I mean, If I inquired about setting something up in advance and got such a reply, that's how I would take it... just saying... not criticizing..

 

I then would have contacted the next person on my list and hoped to get a more encouraging advanced booking

 

Based on my experience, it really depends on how far in advance you're talking about and whether or not you've seen the guy before. If I'm traveling on business and want to meet someone new, I typically contact them 3-4 days in advance - and then reconfirm once I arrive in town.

 

Many of my trips are short, 1-2 night stays, so if I were to contact someone on a Saturday saying "Hey I'm going to be in NY this coming Wednesday and was wondering if you would be available around 10pm" and they were to respond "Great - hit me up when you get to town" they would be off my list, as I have no intention of finding out in a taxi on the Van Wyck Expressway - that the escort is not, in fact, available later that night.

[CADreamer]

This thread is giving me pause. I am planning a trip to Las Vegas the beginning of February to see a specific massage therapist. I contacted him to make sure he'd be in town before booking the hotel and flight and then confirmed an appointment afterwards. I have seen him several times and don't expect a problem, but I was looking at booking someone for the second night. Now I'm wondering if I should wait until just before the trip... and have a backup plan.

[greatnorthernp]

This is happening to me right now.

 

I stay with friends in Montreal, but bringing an escort into their home would be beyond kétaine, so I book a hotel room for a night or two before arriving on their doorstep with that special grin on my face. Booking a nice hotel room must be done in advance. Travel plans must also be made in advance. Ergo, I contacted The Escort a month in advance. The Escort said, "Great! It's a date.". Great! A couple of weeks later, I followed up with a confirming message to The Escort. No response. Fine enough, people are busy, and I truly understand that. The date is getting closer, so I sent another message a week later asking if the meeting was still on. No response. Uh-oh. I waited a couple of days...nothing...then sent a follow up message wondering if I should forget about the meeting, and apologized for anything that might have inadvertently upset him. Still no response.

 

Here I am with tickets in hand that cannot be cancelled, only rebooked at an additional cost, so I'm out about $200 minimum. The hotel room can be cancelled, so I need not be out an extra $600 or so if I cancel it. Therein lies a dilemma. Keep with the original plan, arrive in Montreal next Wednesday, and contact The Escort who has already failed to respond? My brain says, "Forget it, if The Escort can ignore you three times, he doesn't need or want your money.".

 

Being ghosted by someone you've planned to spend at least $1500 on (oh, I also tip really, really well), is a uniquely deflating and troubling experience, especially since The Escort is very highly regarded. Something went wrong somewhere along the line, and I will never know what it was.

 

(I thought of just contacting someone else, but The Escort is in a very special class of his own.)

[MikeyGMin]

This thread is giving me pause. I am planning a trip to Las Vegas the beginning of February to see a specific massage therapist. I contacted him to make sure he'd be in town before booking the hotel and flight and then confirmed an appointment afterwards. I have seen him several times and don't expect a problem, but I was looking at booking someone for the second night. Now I'm wondering if I should wait until just before the trip... and have a backup plan.

 

In my experience, Vegas has been the most unpredictable city of all. There are some reliable guys there, but there are also many many flakes. I also think the very nature of the city makes long-term planning a challenge. In my experience, one day advance notice has been the sweet spot. Seems to be about what most can reliably schedule. Scour the ads once you get there and have a back up.

[+ Funguy]

Because of my work I routinely schedule up to 6 weeks ahead.

I've never had to cancel and I've never had an escort refuse the booking.

I've also only been cancelled on twice in the past 4 years, both at last minute with reasonable excuses.

[+ othermanc]

I travel to Las Vegas several times a year and make my reservations for air, hotel and car several months in advance. I like to contact new escorts with an introduction email and ask if they would like to set up an appointment on the date range I am coming to to town. I'll then "touch base" about every three weeks until about one week prior to my arrival.

We then set up a solid appointment which I will verify the day of the appointment.

So far, I've never had a no-show escort, not have I every cancelled and appointment with an escort. That's just how I do it.

[+ DickyF]

I too like to book well in advance if I can. I have not had problems with it per se though I've had my share of no-shows. So it hasn't been related to how advanced I book. Regardless I think some no shows are because a better deal came along , like maybe an overnight.

[+ Steve yabsley]

Interesting how many of us have the same approach. I generally only hire when traveling (living in an 'under served' market). Sometimes I am traveling for work and sometimes I am traveling for the escort meeting (i.e., traveling for fun). I generally prefer to travel to the escort's city than fly him to me.

 

I always try to line up company before I go - and if fun is the reason for the trip, I want to line up the appointment before I book plane tickets. My experience has been good, but not 100%. Sometimes I have had escorts go quiet (i.e., never heard from again), sometimes let me know the day of they can't make it , but mostly (80+% or so) I have had good luck. I always find it disappointing when I have something planned and it falls through- and getting a replacement last minute has a low success rate. I just go home with a few extra $$.

I have never had an escort refuse an appointment a few weeks ahead of time - and with 80% success, I will likely keep doing what I'm doing. I do think this separates the pros with good business skills from the ones who won't be doing this long.

 

Great thread.

[geminibear]

Like B-N-T, I often have an extremely crazy work schedule. Booking weeks or months in advance works best for me. I have been cancelled on a few times but not by anybody I have already met. I also have had to cancel twice do to unavoidable work situations. (I'm kind of a big deal in small circles) One cancellation included a major holiday weekend which I had booked months in advance. The companion was extremely understanding and I have successfully booked another long holiday weekend with him after my cancellation with no complications. (other than getting into the hotel early) Having a small circle of regular reliable guys is extremely helpful IMO.

 

On a side note hope everyone is doing well during my absence. The GBear woke from his hibernation early and found a lost cub outside his den.

You know what they say "When you aren't looking for it, is when it finds you" We shall see.

[+ Truereview]

On a side note hope everyone is doing well during my absence. The GBear woke from his hibernation early and found a lost cub outside his den.

You know what they say "When you aren't looking for it, is when it finds you" We shall see.

I, for one, am thrilled to have you back. I hope it means we get to have a daily dose of your honey pot.

 

By the way, call me Oracle...Sept 7th, 2016:

Don't bears hibernate or at least go on torpor? I'm expecting a renewed Gem by next Spring, possibly with a sidekick...

My timing was off a bit, but i nailed the cub. Well, actually, you are nailing it.

 

If anyone wants me to cast their fortune, please PM me. I'm offering a special: cast your fortune and a set of Ginsu knives for only $19.99

[peter831]

When I travel, I often try to book an escort a week or so in advance.

 

I have been having problems with escorts who say "yes" to an appointment a week or 5 days in advance - then I check in the day before to confirm and they say "yes" again - and then the day of the appointment they are nowhere to be found and will not respond to texts or calls.

 

I understand sometimes someone has to cancel - but this has become a consistent problem - especially in larger Escort cities like NYC or Las Vegas.

 

I find I only have success if I make initial contact an hour or two before I'd like to meet - but that limits my options.

 

Has anyone else been having this issue?

 

I have had problems with bookings that were well in advance. So I now I only ask availability for the same day or the next 1-3 days.

[instudiocity]

(I thought of just contacting someone else, but The Escort is in a very special class of his own.)

You mean like "Special Education"? IF he can ignore a for sure $1,500+ over three pitiable little attempts to reconfirm, he's not thinking with the big head.

[Hungmixedboi88]

My experience with far in advance like over a week setting up of dates hasn't been the best. I don't usually cancel unless it's out of my hands naturally but I have noticed the bulk of people who try to book me that far in advance don't follow through. Could be that they get another escort or something but that communication is always key. I've had one client recently who was amazing at keeping in contact prior to the date and it was a 2 week in advance plan that panned out great! I'm nearing my next far in advance date with someone from this forum and I'm thinking my bad luck with far in advance bookings is turning around

[TopTierTop]

My work schedule is nuts... like by a lot sometimes. So I often book well in advance. Most of the people I see regularly have no problem with this. They often contact me and let me know they are coming to town weeks to months beforehand. It works out for the most part.

 

Once I set something up, it's rare I don't follow through. Just sayin' ...in case we ever meet.

Yup! And on my side it is also rare that I don't follow through. So rare that it hasn't even happened yet.

[greatnorthernp]

You mean like "Special Education"? IF he can ignore a for sure $1,500+ over three pitiable little attempts to reconfirm, he's not thinking with the big head.

 

Exactly...I wanted to learn what 270 lbs of Québécois muscle felt like on top of me. Special Education, I'm sure!

 

Who knows what happened. Reviewing my communication attempts reveals nothing. Even the infamous Austin Wolf at least tried to make me feel small and contemptibly worthless, which was kind of a backhanded compliment.

 

I suppose I could have arrived in Montreal without any notice or advance planning at all, having spent $200 on travel plus $600 on the hotel, and gone on transcendent faith alone that The Escort would be available just for me for that evening for an overnight, but I'm no presumptuous St. Paul. People are busy, and planning ahead is both kinder and more respectful.

 

If it were simply a matter of getting my rocks off with anyone who happened to be available, no problem. I could still do that, as there are 90-something guys on Rentmen in Montreal. But that's not...well, was not my aim. Spending $200 on travel, $600 on a hotel, $200 or so on dinner, $1500 on "special time", plus extra on some spontaneous whatevers is something that is reserved for Special Circumstances alone. It's not spontaneous.

 

Blarg. It's all just academic blah blah blah now. While I really am tempted to arrive just as planned and use the hotel phone to call and ask The Escort, "Hi! Are you available for an overnight tonight?", an affirmative "Sure!" would be even more troubling, given what has already transpired.

[InterestingGuy]

As the original poster of this thread, I will add this (annoying/humorous) footnote:

 

Because I now avoid contacting an escort too early, I sometimes find when I finally reach the day to contact the escort, all of a sudden his Rentmen ad is gone or deactivated.

 

It just happened to me today. I was ready to hire someone next week, so I was waiting until next week to contact him - and I just looked at Rentmen today - and "Poof" - his ad is now gone.